Practical Ways to Improve a Child’s Self Esteem


The feeling of self-worth in an individual is a virtue cultivated from a young age.

Parents play a significant role in making sure their children achieve their best and are confident in what they do.

It’s not automatic; your child has high self-esteem. Several things determine this. Some of them include the environment, upbringing, and way of life.

When you keep on speaking negative things on a child’s mind, it sticks, and these are among issues that affect child confidence.

A child with high self-esteem has the following characters

  • Always feel worthy and accepted in the society
  • They are proud of what they do
  • Always speak positive things
  • Believe in themselves
  • Innovative

When you see a child just cruising around on a hoverboard like an expert, a parent somewhere has played a part in the child’s growth to gain that self-esteem.  

Things parents can do to improve a child’s self-esteem.

  1. Be part of their lives in trying new things.

How do you correct a child when trying new things, even if you know they are bound to fail? There is no way you want the best in a child when you don’t show them the right ways they should do things.

As you part of their experimenting journey, be involved, and offer the right advice as you praise and correct in love.

  1. Show them the way and applaud the little gains.

Are you a parent who only notices the wrong things and fails to upload the little gains in your child’s life?

 High self-esteem is a virtue cultivated from a young age. Suppose you are to make your child feel worthy in life.

Let them have a place where they thrive despite their age. If it’s making utensils, recognize their efforts in making things even they haven’t done it correctly.

Point out the mistakes and let them accept their wrongdoing for them to have controlled emotions.

Have you seen children rolling on the store because they can’t get the expensive toy they need?

The sense of entitlement comes with low self-esteem.

  1. Wisely praise your child.

Praising children boosts their self-esteem but overdoing it creates dishonesty. Praise the little effort as you also correct areas where you feel they can do better.

That gives them room for learning and making them feel great.

Let them know there is time for everything and not the feeling of getting what they want when they need it, even if it compromises other people’s feelings.

The best way to praise a child is through these two ways.

  • Applauding an effort
  • Avoiding overpraising
  1. Be a good role model to emulate

When you tell your children to work hard, do you also show it in the little home chores? When you clean the dishes and also make your bed.

You instill a virtue of responsibility that you also transfer to the child. It gives them confidence also to try out new things as you appreciate the excellent work done.

You give them the right attitude in doing things and being socially fit to ensure they can survive in any environment away from home.

If you want to know the level of confidence in your child, watch them play with other kids. Do they socially fit in that playgroup, or they prefer to play on their own?

  1. Look at strengths rather than weaknesses.

Is there anything useful you can see in a child? Did you know that harsh words stick while sweet words of appreciation build a child’s self-esteem?

Look at the right side of your child’s. It makes them have a positive behavioral change. Moreover, it helps them feel good about themselves and build their morale in maintaining the standards of doing good things.

  1. Appreciate their effort

Always show appreciation for work well done and offer tough love when things aren’t done right. Let the correction instill positivity in them as they strive to ensure they give out the best.

If not, you get to have children with personality disorders, which is detrimental to their self-esteem.

Perfectionists are children who never got appreciated. Everything was either right or wrong. In their vocabulary, there is nothing like room for improvement.

  1. Use kind words to children.

Harsh criticism is detrimental to child self-esteem. What you tell a child, even if you are correcting them, is essential and matters on their confidence level.

At all costs, avoid negative comments like, “you are lazy,” “you can’t make it,” it crashes their esteem and confidence levels.

 As you correct, give room and time to adjust and make a change. It’s never an instant transformation.

The confidence and esteem levels of your child solely lie in your hands as the parent. It’s worse for a girl child who is sensitive to their emotions and way of life.

Appreciate, applaud, and correct with love is you are to have a confident child or a kid who believes in themselves.