For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.
click here NOW >http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/
~~~My best friend, soul-mate & Sister was murdered on May 26, 2010….The world darkened. The sun dimmed. Our lives will NEVER be the same. Read about Kay here:
~~At first she stayed because of the children. They were babies. They needed a father.
He was never a father.
Then she stayed because she didn’t want to go on welfare. She was embarrassed to be a single mother with three children going into the grocery store with food stamps.
What would people think?
Then she stayed because of her faith. She loved God. She wanted to do the right thing. She wanted her family together.
What would God think?
He hit her once. After that, he demeaned her, made her feel small, small, small. Told her she was stupid.
She started to believe it.
She didn’t think she could make it on her own. After all, she was only a housewife, a mother, and stupid.
To me, she was Everything.
She stayed because she felt sorry for him, felt responsible for his actions, and saddened about leaving a broken man.
She stayed for 30 long years.
When she finally decided to leave, he begged, he pleaded, he cried. He said that he couldn’t live without her, couldn’t survive without her. He said she was his only friend.
In her journal she wrote this:
“I have nothing else to give him. He will not leave me alone. I feel sorry for him. So very sorry. He continually crushes my spirit. Help me. Help me. Help me.
On May 26, 2010, the monster walked up behind her and shot her three times in the head. Not once, but three times to make damn sure. He then wrapped his arms around her and shot himself.
He was never a man.
Here’s what she would say to all of you in the same predicament.
Get out. Don’t wait another minute. Stand up now, grab your kids, and find shelter.
You are not his therapist, his slave, or his doormat.
You are so much more. You are Everything. You are unbelievably capable. You are beautiful beyond belief.
Make the right decision now. You cannot wait. The cage is opened. Do not remain inside as I did.
~~~~Please don’t end up like me.
Kay’s Prayer. My Prayer. I play it everyday: Lissie “Everywhere I Go“
If you are being abused, remember:
- You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated.
- You are not the cause of your partner’s abusive behavior.
- You deserve to be treated with respect.
- You are not his therapist.
- You are not his doormat
- You do not deserve to be belittled or demeamed EVER EVER.
- You will not CHANGE him
- You must leave today
This will piss ou off.
ARE YOU BEING ABUSED? Ask yourself these questions:
Does your partner:
- Embarrass you with put-downs?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Force you to try and drop charges?
- Threaten to commit suicide?
- Threaten to kill you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799–SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.
click here NOW >http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/
Click here to go to Pam Butler’s article “Why Does She Stay?”
INDIFFERENCE IS THE WORST SIN OF ALL!!!
|Megan W’s Diary. Age 20 – Beaten to death. Megan’s mother has asked us to tell Megan’s story in hopes that if just one person who hears it recognizes that she or he is in a violent or abusive relationship and gets help – then maybe Megan and her baby won’t have died in vain. Click here.|
STOP THE CYCLE NOW.
2010 Femicide Report Page 28 In 2010, at least 28 Minnesotans lost their lives as a result of domestic violence. Remember their names…
1. January 17, 2010 Ashley Sullivan, Antrim Township, died as a result of a gunshot.
2. January 17, 2010 Chester Gronewold, Antrim Township, died as a result of a beating
3. January 19, 2010 Sarah Mitzuk, Hugo, died as a result of a gunshot.
4. January 30, 2010 Darius Maxwell, St. Paul, died as a result of a stabbing.
5. February 10, 2010 Denna Marie Glaeser, Minneapolis, died.
6. February 23, 2010 Debrah Nederhiser, Nodine, died as a result of a gunshot.
7. March 6, 2010 Edward J. Walberg, Jr., Chisholm, died as a result of a gunshot.
8. March 14, 2010 Brittany Ellis, Brooklyn Center, died as a result of a beating and
9. March 28, 2010 Svetlana Vladimirovna Munt, Mankato, died as a result of a
10. April 2, 2010 Pauline Nash, Minneapolis, died as a result of a stabbing.
11. April 12, 2010 Duach Makuach, St. Cloud, dyad as a result of a beating.
12. April 17, 2010 Natalia Jurjevna Tomasovic, Columbia Heights, died as a result of
13. April 20, 2010 Barbara Miller Deboise, St. Louis Park, died as a result of a
14. April 29, 2010 Amy Alese Terborg, Minneapolis, died as a result of a gunshot.
15. May 27, 2010 Kay Marie Peterson, Duluth, died as a result of a gunshot.
16. July 31, 2010 Rowan Richardson, Eden Prairie, died as a result of drowning.
17. August 10, 2010 Svetlana Hanson, Eagan, died as a result of a gunshot.
18. August 10, 2010 Charles Hanson, Eagan, died as a result of a gunshot.
19. August 31, 2010 James Nibbe, Lake Crystal, died as a result of a gunshot.
20. September 22, 2010 Dawson Farris, North Mankato, died as a result of a head injury.
21. September 23, 2010 Wendall Abraham, Garrison, died as a result of being run over
with a car.
This is one woman´s story of how her abuser is still trying to control and manipulate her and her child even after no cantact for nearly 5 years.
- Statistics on Violence Against Women in the United States – National Organization for Women
- Fact Sheet Violence Against Women in Indian Country (pdf) – National Congress of American Indians
- Intimate Partner Violence Statistics – Justice Department
- Violence Against Women Fact Sheets – Justice Department
- Domestic Violence Facts – Feminist Majority Foundation
Posted by Adrienne at July 3, 2008
Family of Victim Story
~~Books That Examine Domestic Violence:
~The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
~Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie
~No Visible Wounds by Mary Susan Miller
~It Could Happen to Anyone: Why Battered Women Stay by O.W. Barnett and A.D.LaViolette.
~Before It’s Too Late: Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships by Robert J. Ackerman & Susan E. Pickering.
|What Happened to Jennifer? After 13 years of sexual, emotional and financial abuse Jennifer found out her husband was a bigamist. When she tried to leave she was beaten in the head with a hammer, her fingers were broken, her face was fractured against Carlos’ knee. Click here to read her story.|
~Domestic Violence Globally:
Domestic Abuse In Kenya
Domestic Violence in India:
LEAVE YOUR ABUSER TODAY. DO NOT WAIT ANOTHER MINUTE…ANOTHER SECOND….