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Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave

~At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: good looks, a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job in New York City. Plus a handsome, funny boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She’d made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person.—Leslie Morgan Steiner, Crazy Love

I contacted the author of Crazy Love, Ted Talk virtuoso, and businesswoman, Leslie Steiner Morgan, asking her this question: “If you had one thing to say to women about domestic violence, what would you say?”

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Leslie Morgan Steiner answered: “The one thing I want to say is that we all deserve to be loved the way we love others – with a generous heart. True love only comes when we put ourselves first.”


I’ve watched and listened to her Ted Talk several times while walking and on the treadmill. I asked her if I could place her video on my blog for you, the readers, to watch, too.

If you are being abused in any way whatsoever, I pray you will Rise Up, Speak Out, Scream, Tell, Tell, Tell, and NEVER stay silent of domestic abuse.


….because silence KILLS.


~~~~~~Thank you, Leslie, for your unrelenting work to end violence against women. You, and women who give VOICE, are rising to change the world.

*Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233*

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    Elephants Child
    November 7, 2017 at 6:10 pm

    Thank you, and everyone else who doesn’t let their pain stop them reaching out to stop other people’s pain.
    Huge admiration. Huge gratitude. And much love.

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    November 7, 2017 at 9:12 pm

    Great post – amazing woman!

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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    November 8, 2017 at 1:47 am

    Silence Kill….I will keep that in mind!

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    November 8, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Great advice, Kim — thanks for sharing this video. I hope everyone in that awful kind of situation will read it. xx

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    November 8, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Dear Kim- thanks for sharing Leslie’s important words. It was like listening to what Kathie went thru before that monster Durst killed her.

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    November 8, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    Good blog Kim, great advice. Never ever keep silent, yell always yell.
    Love You

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    Sandra L Garth
    November 8, 2017 at 5:48 pm

    Such good advice and for those that haven’t been abused this is helpful for us to share. Thanks so much Kim♥

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    November 8, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Thanks for sharing this video and continuing to spread word about domestic violence.

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    Balroop Singh
    November 8, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    I absolutely agree Kim…NEVER STAY SILENT! Thanks for spreading this message.

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    Christine Carter
    November 9, 2017 at 7:45 am

    WOW. This was such a powerful Ted talk and I am so glad you shared this and introduced us to such an incredible woman. I didn’t know of Leslie, so I’m grateful to learn about her work, her book, and her mission. Sharing so others can hear her words and NOT STAY SILENT.

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    November 9, 2017 at 10:16 pm

    I wish the world could read your posts Kim.
    Love and hugs to you.
    🙂 Mandy xo

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    Lisa Gordon
    November 10, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Fantastic post, Kim!
    Thank you, my friend.

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    November 15, 2017 at 2:50 am

    Dear Kim, thank you so much for sharing this – such an important message!!!
    I must apologize for being absent as of lately but things just got a little busy ans I was totally distacted it seems form blogging and commenting – being back on track feels good though.
    Sending a huge fat hug your way, my friend!

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    November 25, 2017 at 7:12 am

    I do sort of understand it in a way, from a psychological point of view but the fact that abused often don’t leave the abuser, and sometimes cling to them even more hoping for a moment of approval or tenderness which reminds them of the magic they felt in the beginning is one of life’s more cruel patterns. How I wish it wasn’t so. I know a number of people who have been in this situation to one degree or another and to see their lives been wasted or scarred is beyond tragic. Blessings to you for shouting the truths from the rooftops !

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    lisa thomson
    November 27, 2017 at 10:13 am

    I watched this video a few years ago and it’s powerful and profound! Leslie’s message is unique. She shows the ‘how’ women get trapped in an abusive relationship. She shows that women who are abused are not weak. Thanks for sharing this Kim. I’ll be sending some of my readers over here for this very reason. <3 <3 <3

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    November 27, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    I loved that video. Watched the whole thing and really showed how prevalent DV is in society. People that you assumed had a happy relationship sometimes don’t! Thanks for sharing that Kim xxx

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    Lady Fi
    November 29, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    So moving.

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    December 9, 2017 at 7:05 am

    wonderful video

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    Gary Sidley
    December 14, 2017 at 4:41 am

    I’m 100% supportive of the messages you relay on this website. As someone who worked for over 30 years as a clinical psychologist, and who met many victims of domestic violence, I understand how the ‘why don’t you just leave’ mantra is often an unhelpful & simplistic one.

    Keep spreading the word, Kim.

    Warmest wishes for Christmas and the New Year.
    Love from Lancashire, United Kingdom

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