*****15 Reasons She ( My Sister ) Stayed In An Abusive Marriage*****
- Her babies. They needed a home, a mommy and daddy, a family, a father. He was never a father.
- She didn’t want to become a single mother. The thing is—she was always a single mother.
- She was ashamed and embarrassed to go on welfare. What about the welfare of her three boys?
- Her faith in God. She wanted to please her God. What God is pleased by a dysfunctional, verbally abusive marriage?
- She didn’t think she could make it on her own. She could have changed the world.
- She only had a high school diploma. Her abuser had her exactly where he wanted her.
- She continually assumed he’d become a better man. He was never a real man, and throughout 25 years of marriage, he became a more terrible man.
- She felt sorry for him. We all did, and in doing so, became part of the problem- not the solution. You see, feeling sorry for somebody doesn’t change them.
- When he called her a no good for nothing stupid idiot c*nt, she believed it.
- He told her nobody else would want her. He was talking about himself.
- He was a master manipulator. When she was ready to transform her life, he fell to his knees pleading with her to ((((stay, stay, stay, please, please, please.)))) She did.
- She became familiar with the oppression, belittling, and lies. Like an abused dog who follows her tyrannical master.
- Her heart was too large. This enormous quality also became her greatest mistake.
- She believed her home could become a sanctuary. She created elegant gardens with blue and purple hydrangeas’, full hanging planters for indoors, lilacs placed inside lovely glass vases. Nothing helped. Nothing mattered. Her home was a dark, wooden place on the corner of Grand Avenue.
- She thought he’d change, but he killed her.
–A NOTE: In the months before Kay’s murder, she went back to school and received her phlebotomist degree. She was becoming empowered, liberated, and separate from him. Unfortunately, he could see this, too.
When she decided to leave Mike Peterson on May 26, 2010, she didn’t make it out the front door. He shot her 3 times in the back of the head.
You must understand this….he would rather see her dead than lose his control over her.
Kay’s story doesn’t need to be your story, my darlings.
Get help TODAY.
The Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
NEVER. Ever. Stay silent about any kinds of abuse. TELL somebody NOW.