~A Culture Of Excuses
( a note: before you start bitching, I used ‘He,” in this post, but “She” is also relevant)
He had a bad childhood.
He wasn’t loved enough.
He was loved too much.
He was given everything.
He wasn’t given enough.
His father was a drunk.
He drank too many beers at the party.
His mother abandoned him.
His father beat his mother.
He was discriminated against.
He has DBD ( disruptive behavior disorder)
He has ODD ( oppositional defiant disorder )
He played too many video games.
He watched too many violent movies.
He was exhausted from unrealistic expectations.
He was on lots of drugs.
He was ignored by society.
He was enabled.
He wasn’t held as a baby.
He was coddled.
He assumed her “No” was truly a “Yes.”
He was simply too far away from home for someone who was born and raised in the Midwest. –Dan Turner
These are the excuses we hear time after time, month after month, year after year. A cycle of blame, defenses, justifications that don’t end.
And I’m sick and tired of hearing them.
It’s not his fault because he wasn’t in control of his own behavior, his own erection, his own mind. When he beat up his partner, he didn’t mean it. That’s how he was brought up. What did you expect? When he murdered his wife, he did it because he wasn’t loved enough in infancy. When he brutally raped that girl, the judge was lenient because he had his entire life ahead of him. After all, he was an all star football player, an Olympic swimmer, a strait ‘A’ student.
I don’t f*cking care!
When do we say- “E N O U G H ?”
When do we scream- “N O M O R E ?”
Not. One. More. Solitary. Day.
When do we begin making individuals take responsibly for their own behavior and sickening actions?
Until we do, nothing will change. Ever. ( put this on a sticky note on your fridge )
I know some of you reading this are hesitating this very moment. Well, what about the alcohol, the mental illness, the dreadful childhood, the rest of the perpetrator’s life?
I tell you this– Cleary & Loudly & Without apology: He is NOT the victim. He is the murderer, the rapist, the abuser.
And he gets NO MORE Excuses.
—-Dear, Reader, please give me your thoughts. What can we do to transform this culture of excuses and blame?