In Memory of Kay Kim's Blogs

30 Things I Can Share Because I Have My Own Blog, Biatches

Bizzy really cracks me up!!

Bizzy really cracks me up!!

  1. This essay speaks <<<LOUDLY>>> to me.  I love it SOooooooooooo much:


This video EMPOWERS ME!:



  1. The character, Sue, from The Middle is FAaaaaaBULOUS.  Her enthusiasm & perspective makes me smile fully and completely.


  1. Have you watched Olive Kitteridge? If not, you MUST. Beautifully & gorgeously crafted.




  1. My newest hero is a little 18 year old girl you may have heard of– Malala. We should all want to be Malalllllllllllllllllllllllllllla!



  1. I loathe the thought of anything caged, pinned, caught, disregarded, disrespected, or unable to breathe.



  1. I’ve always been validated and intensely loved by my family. In fact, for some reason, they think I’m remarkable. Don’t we all need a family like this?!



  1. I consider words to be small, beautiful saviors. The ink has saved my life many times over.



  1. I believe humans can survive with half a heart because I’m still here.



  1. People who speak up, stand up, and even die for their beliefs inspire me greatly…but not Kim Davis.



  1. In the movie, The Breakfast Club, I’m the chick with the thick black eyeliner.


  1. I dip cheese-puffs in diet coke while I watch The Leftovers.   Joy!



  1. I created a blog to scream, yell, mourn, curse, and be able to express myself after my sister, Kay’s, murder. I’ve noticed I’ve not utilized the word “fuck” as often as I used to.



  1. The nice thing about getting older is that I can be completely and utterly authentic & not worry too much about who likes me anymore.   I kind of dig that freedom.



  1. I recognize immediately after chatting with somebody whether I desire to have wine with them or not.



  1. I began questioning my existence at a very young age. Without knowing anything whatsoever, I knew one thing for sure:   God Was Not Dead.



  1. Jonathan Livingston Seagull transformed my life. At 12 years old, I remember screaming– “This is not a book about birds, this is a book about ME!”   Metaphor is a beautiful, life-changing, stimulating thing.



  1. One of my ambitions is to travel to Washington D.C. to tell Kay’s story.



  1. I looooooooooove these socks!
Love These!!!

Love These!!!


  1. After Kay’s murder, I melted into darkness. The healing only began when I started to experience gratitude for what I had left.



  1. I looooove Bryan Jones Diary!



  1. When I feel blue,   I read books by Elizabeth Berg.



  1. This video by Billy Bob Thornton strongly speaks to me:


  1. Even at my 25th high school reunion,   I lied about my age.



  1. My daddy has never missed reading my blog posts & commenting on each one. He accepts me for exactly who I am and does not judge me.  He is my hero & mentor.



  1. My girlfriend, Sue, used to tickle my arm with her long red fingernails when we watched old movies together back in high school.



  1. Kay told me a week before her murder that she asked God to show her an eagle and a butterfly on her walk, “Then I will know everything will be okay!” She said.  She saw both of them on that walk. Our perception of okay is not God’s & that SUuuuCKS.



  1. I believe I’ll be surrounded by purring, fat cats in heaven.



  1. I believe that love can be so deep, so profound & so satisfying that we can rise above the depths of hell.



  1. Five years ago, I was shot 3 times in the head with my sister, Kay, but we have resurrected.


—-Darling, Reader, tell me something that’s on your mind today!   XxXx

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    October 4, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    Happy Birthday Kim. Love you.
    I have experienced number 27 over and over again…

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    Elephant's Child
    October 4, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Heartfelt hugs and oceans of carings.
    Love your truths, and the way they encapsulate the messy, sad, frightening, exciting, wonderful magic of all our lives.

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    October 4, 2015 at 12:34 pm

    I didn’t know about #7- it twisted my guts to read that. Thank you for sharing. Thinking of you.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 4, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      You didn’t know that I’m worshipped? WHATTTTTTT!! xxx

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    October 4, 2015 at 3:02 pm

    Happy birthday Kim. This post makes me smile..especially when you wrote about lying about your age at your high school reunion!!

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    Carrie Rubin
    October 4, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    “Even at my 25th high school reunion, I lied about my age.”—Ha, it’s nobody business anyway, right? 🙂

    I love Sue from The Middle too. I’m not watching it this season–just not enough time–but I loved the season finale last year. That yearbook scene was touching.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 4, 2015 at 5:30 pm

      I KNOW!
      I love that show soooooooooo much.
      I’m surprised it hasn’t gotten much recognition.
      FABBBULOUS. xxx

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    My Inner Chick
    October 4, 2015 at 3:17 pm


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    October 4, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    After i turned 30 something, I started losing count of the digits that kept adding on year after year. So i can relate to your age part at a hs reunion. Though technically i don’t lie, i just say, I am 30 something.

    And i read somewhere is your birthday? well, happy birthday!

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      My Inner Chick
      October 4, 2015 at 5:31 pm

      30 something.
      I like that!
      I shall do the same!!! x

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    Karen Muller
    October 4, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    #23 really speaks to me. It’s not because I had a brother who died, or a sister who died. I am an only child. It’s because I am 50% happy and 5o% melancholy at any time. Thank you, Kim

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      My Inner Chick
      October 4, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      yes, it is relatable.
      I love that Billy Bob is saying exactly what I feel. xx

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    lisa thomson-the great escape
    October 4, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    Oh, Kim I love all of these on your list. #6 is so beautifully expressed. I agree!! #4, Olive Kitteridge is an amazing series and I’ve watched it more than 3x always finding something new in it. I love that your Daddy is your hero and mentor. That is so very special. Kay has resurrected and risen. Kim, you have too and are an inspiration to me. Happy Birthday my dear friend!!

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    Susan Boswell
    October 4, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    Your words make me smile. You have a huge fan base and many readers but I. , well I knew you “when”… Before… And I’ve seen you walk this walk.

    One thing, Kimmy, will you ask your “people” if on your website they can let your readers get a note and perhaps link when you have responded? Or is that something I can do on how I am subscribed to you. I would like to see what you write and I often don’t get back…

    So what is on my mind today? Hmmmm

    Tomorrow ( the first Monday in October) is the day my dad committed suicide Kim. A sad day. He was a very good man. Funny and gentle and good at math. Of all the kids I am probably most like him. That makes me happy.

    My son is going well and getting married! I am going to have a daughter!

    I want to do something about all this gun violence Kim. What can we do? It has to stop!!!!

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 4:54 am

      I shall email you personally.
      Thank you for all of your beautiful comments, sweets. xxx
      thinking of you today.

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    Chris Carter
    October 4, 2015 at 7:27 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE all of this!!! Didn’t people know your age at your reunion? Ha! And me and the kids have seen EVERY SINGLE show of The Middle. And Sue? Totally our favorite. Cass relates very much to her. <3

    Kay's prayer answered. That gutted me. And you're so right. We had such a hard conversation tonight with my kids in teen group… one of them lost her father unexpectedly. She was 14. (Last year- my dear friend's husband) We talked about God providing for us to survive those blows… we talked about eternity being so magnificent and completely out of the stretch of our minds… we talked about fear and how Satan loves that emotion… and trusting, oh trusting in a God that is so mighty, we cannot FATHOM His Power and His plan. You shared the perfect example with Kay- of all the things we discussed and more.

    Making sense of this world without the full view of God's eyes… is utterly impossible.

    *SO many incredible things here in your BIRTHDAY POST!!! I was non-stop today with church, football, soccer, and my youth group tonight- I'm so sorry I didn't get to spend ONE CELEBRATORY minute with you today.

    But please know that it is now 10:30pm… so I still have 90 minutes to pray for you, love you from here, smile and heavy sigh while thinking about what a gift God gave this world when he created you.

    I love you. I'm so glad you were born.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 8:45 am

      —You have part of my heart, Chris. Xxx

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 12:40 pm

      I’m so glad I was born, too..
      So, I could experience the likes of YOU, darling! xxx

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    nan @ lbddiaries
    October 4, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    Something on my mind today… I would absolutely hate it if you ever quit blogging. Your perception, whether right on or skewed by lovely wine (smile), is amazing and I love that about you. You just say it like it is for you, and drag the rest of us along with you. And, strangely enough? We LIKE it!! You rawk and roll like a Diva Professional and you bless me, inspire me, tear my heart out, teach me, educate me, and I do love your face.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 8:46 am

      Dear, Nan,
      your words fill me w/ gratitude and joy! xxx

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    Hotly Spiced
    October 5, 2015 at 12:03 am

    There is so much great content in this post, Kim and so many things to comment on. I do love the Billy Bob Thornton interview; I didn’t know that about him. And I do hope when we meet (one day), that we will both enjoy sharing a wine together. How lovely your dad is your biggest fan. Those words of Kay’s before she died are so profound! xx

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 8:46 am

      Billy Bob rocks my world.
      and so do you, Charlie. xx

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    October 5, 2015 at 12:52 am

    I heard your voice reading all of these points Kim, how awesome is that!
    I now understand Billy Bob Thornton, how and why he is how he is – who knew!
    Now about the wine, I know in my heart that we will one day share a glass or 3 of wine together.
    Have a beautiful and happy week ahead.
    Love to you from my little piece of the world.
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 8:47 am

      do you have a South African Accent, sweets? xxx

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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    October 5, 2015 at 1:35 am

    You have a really loving family, Kim. I am going to have to try dipping cheese-puffs in diet coke next time…
    Have a happy and peaceful week!

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 9:32 am

      –you will looooove cheese puffs dipped in diet coke, Angie. YUmmm.
      Have you watched The Left Overs yet?

      xxx kisssss

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    October 5, 2015 at 4:11 am

    I love how you scrambled up all the emotions in this list, Kim, pulling us from hilarious to heartbreaking and back. I’m so glad your family appreciates how remarkable you are. Cuz you are!!!! Sending love to you through the wires from Sicily. xxxx

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 9:33 am

      Kisses flowing to Sicily.
      Did you know the POPE was just here.
      I. LOOOOVE. Him.
      tell me your feelings about him, Jann. xx

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    totally Caroline
    October 5, 2015 at 4:13 am

    Happy birthday lovely lady. I’m going to look up the Seagull book ❤️

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 4:19 pm

      I’ve read JLS about 20 times.
      This book and Sylvia Plath changed my life! xx

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    October 5, 2015 at 11:12 am

    I can’t figure out why Trish had a twisted gut about #7 (please explain).
    Love You Kim, and your blogs too.

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    October 5, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Dipping cheese puffs in Diet Coke? I don’t think we can be friends any more 😉 Seriously hope you had a fabulous birthday though.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 5, 2015 at 4:21 pm

      It’s good. It’s REALLY goooood!
      Perhaps you’d prefer to dip in wine! xx

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    October 6, 2015 at 4:09 am

    cheese puffs in diet coke? I think i have to try that

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      My Inner Chick
      October 6, 2015 at 1:58 pm

      YOU MUST, Hilary.
      It’s deeeeeeeeeeeLISH! xx

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    October 6, 2015 at 6:42 am

    Hi old friend. I haven’t been blog reading for a while, so just wanted to pop in and wish you a Happy Belated Birthday, and I’m glad to have met you! xoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      October 6, 2015 at 3:16 pm

      I love seeing your photos on facebook, but I still miss your blogs.
      Are you still writing, editing? Keep well, sweet mama. xx

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    October 6, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Kim, your words make me smile. They make me think. And I love you for them!!

    Numbers 6, 7, 24, and 28 really speak to me (though I’ll have to substitute “dogs” for “cats” in Heaven, ha!) Bless your dad for walking the walk with you and being someone loving and strong for your family!

    I didn’t realize it was your birthday — hope it was HAPPY!

    Hugs from foggy Central Illinois. xoxo

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    October 6, 2015 at 8:28 am

    I love the variety here – some made me laugh, some made me sigh, some made me ache. And #24 made me spit out my coffee!

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    October 6, 2015 at 1:53 pm

    Number 26 makes me smile. Only you would think to write that and know someone would appreciate it 🙂 You are loved, Kimmy. Kisses from MLB xxx

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    Valentine Logar
    October 6, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    I am glad I didn’t miss your birthday over on FB because I have been sadly neglectful of all my reading.

    Today my oldest son turns 38. At his birthday party I could have sworn (did swear) he was 36 because certainly I am far to young, beautiful and delightful to have a thirty-eight year old child. He simply stared at me until I admitted he was born in 1977.

    I know the world spins. No matter how hard we fall down holes, it still spins and we can stand back up. We can love again, even when the love is different. That is what I know.

    I love you.

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    Minnesota Prairie Roots
    October 8, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    I was going to start typing that I especially like # FILL IN THE BLANK on your list. And then I determined that I’d practically be listing the entire list. Bless you, dear sweet Kim, for lifting all of us up with your courageous and powerful words. You are making a difference. You need to make that trip to Washington.

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    Jennifer Wolfe
    October 8, 2015 at 6:30 pm

    Seriously, I love your way of thinking! And those socks…I must get them. And yes – the eyeliner- me, too.

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      My Inner Chick
      October 10, 2015 at 8:30 am

      I’m ordering some of those socks for
      my girlfriends who would Appreciate them!!! xx
      LOVE THEM.

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    October 8, 2015 at 8:37 pm

    As always – you and your list are amazing!

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    October 9, 2015 at 2:39 am

    Malala is one of my idols as well. Apart from being incredibly brave, she is also full of sense and balance which is remarkable for someone of her age. Altogether an extraordinary human being

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    October 10, 2015 at 6:17 am

    I desire to have wine with you! xoxo

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    October 10, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    Hey Kim!

    You can relax now! Yep and lucky you, you’ve now got a comment from me, yes me, shay and humble me! 🙂

    9 “I believe humans can survive with half a heart because I’m still here.” Your heart is still whole, Kim and the spirit within your whole heart resonates with the shared love between you and the ethos of your beloved, departed sister.

    On my mind is the satisfaction I get by working discreetly in the background, with no fanfare, to be of comfort to others.

    Take care, my lovely friend.

    Gary 🙂

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    Lisa Gordon
    October 11, 2015 at 2:30 pm

    I loved reading this!
    Happy Birthday, sweet friend. xo.

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    October 11, 2015 at 4:27 pm

    Kim, I will have wine with you any day. #5 I love because I adore this girl and what she stands for. We’re getting her book and going to see the documentary, so my girls get her message. Your dad sounds amazing. I miss mine terribly. He is always with me though. #29 & #30 have just stuck with me. #s 6, 7 & 11 are my favorites – I absolutely loved Breakfast Club.

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    October 12, 2015 at 12:17 am

    I’m definitely Ally Sheedy’s character in The Breakfast Club too. This line is beautiful and heart breaking: “I believe humans can survive with half a heart because I’m still here.” xxx

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    October 12, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    #7 – I would love to live that one!
    8, 28 and then 29 – and so many more – oh, yes! Powerful, beautiful, funny, serious – full of hope list!

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    October 21, 2015 at 1:21 pm

    I love how you can be vulnerable, cool, complex, and hilarious all at the same time. You my dear are amazing!

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    Darla M Sands
    November 10, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    I’m so grateful you commented on my silly blog post so that I found your powerful writings. Thank you! Blessed to have never been mistreated by a loved one, I have nonetheless been speaking out to people how domestic abuse can occur within all sorts of households. The elderly/disabled are frequent targets of family or caregivers, of course, and men often suffer whether it be at the mercy of a wife or a male partner. Your message is so valuable. I have no doubt you save lives.

    As a side note, I saw flyers at my local YMCA for and imagine a silent sufferer taking one to perhaps find hope and new life with that first difficult step. Best wishes!

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