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14 Reasons She’s My BFF

 —“Some people go to priests; others to poetry; I to my friends.” ~Virginia Woolf


  1.  She’s nonjudgmental.    Recently,  I confided to my bff how I made total fool out of myself at First Avenue: drinking too many strawberry margaritas, dirty dancing, and flirting with these dudes from Rhode Island.  I told her a married, Christian girl would never behave in such a irresponsible manner.   She smiled and said. “Why didn’t you invite me,  bitch?”




  1. We can talk about sex one minute and Jesus the next.  Yes,  BJ’s,  50 Shades of Gray, and Jesus can wrap and wind around our fascinating stories smoothly and effortlessly.  Don’t judge.



  1. She tells me when my derriere looks big and gets to live. “Um,  I think you need to go up a size,  cause those jeans look like you’re wearing a fruit rollup.”



  1. We attend the same pity parties. When I’m feeling oh-so-sorry for myself:  a loser,  a failure,  a horrible mother,  a phony, an asshole, and a jerk,  she invites herself to my pity party saying,  “You’re not alone,  my sister.”  Misery digs company.



  1. Shopping is our Prozac. TJ Max to the rescue.  The higher the heel,  the sexier we feel.  (That rhymes!) We may not be able to walk, honey,  but we can sit at the club eating sushi and drink martinis looking like hot mamas.



  1. In my darkest hours, she grows powerful wings.   Through black and fog and loss and unbearable, unimaginable shittiness,  she flies to my rescue no matter where she is to hold my hand, pray,  & wipe the snot from my face.



  1. Book talk.   We read the same books, then discuss.  Girl With The Dragon Tattoo.  The Fault in Our Stars.  Wild.  Eat, Pray, Love.  She’s Come Undone.  The Book of Ruth.   Stones From the River….In case you haven’t noticed,  the characters are strong women who kick serious ASS.



  1. She’s comes from the root of the root. I call her my “root friend,” because we’ve know each other since the beginning of time, or at least,  it feels that way. We love each other unconditionally even when we’re totally unlovable.  We may not originate from the same womb,  but we have the same blood.



  1. We are inappropriate.    When she confessed she couldn’t get into her bathroom because the door was locked,  rather than become empathic and sorry that she ultimately pissed her new $125.00 Lucky jeans,  I laughed until I pissed in mine.



  1. We talk smack about our husbands. Sometimes you just need to get it out,  allow the words to flow and crash.  “I fucking hate him today!” Sometimes you need the words to surge into a safe space with somebody who understands you.



  1. We identify with Orange is the New Black. Yep, women in prison for despicable acts,  women loving women,  women breaking the rules. Rebels. Addicts. Unlikely friendships. Crazy Eyes.  It’s all so delectable and delicious.



  1. She knows what I’m thinking. “What did you say?  She asks.  “Nothing.”  I answer.  “Well,  I heard you thinking something.” She says.



  1. She’s smart as hell.   On our weekend walks,  we discuss politics, education, women’s issues, great books, poetry, death, body image, God, and Isis.  On the other spectrum,  we talk about Caitlyn Jenner,  The Kardashians, Mr. Gray, OITNB,  and Adam Levine.  You could say we’re pretty eclectic.



  1. She gets me, she really gets me. Her words are like little warm, electrifying hugs. She laughs fiercely at my stupid jokes. In a universe where,  at times,  nobody stands by your side or truly Sees You,  she is there,  always there,


…… me a standing ovation


…..Darling, ReaderDo you have any Bffs?  If so,  how many?  Tell me something about them.    xxxXX

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  • Reply
    Debra Reilly
    July 4, 2015 at 8:40 am

    You are so incredibly blessed to have Tia and Jeanie in your life, I’ve met them both and am sooo happy for you!! I just also know that you are the most real person I know, and that’s good!
    Remember always, I love you more than life!
    Your cousin, Debbie

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      My Inner Chick
      July 4, 2015 at 11:08 am

      you are one of my favorite cousins, darling. Luv U. xxxxxxxxx

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    Lisa Gordon
    July 4, 2015 at 11:19 am

    How fortunate you are to have such a friend, Kim.
    And she is fortunate to have you. xo.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:01 am

      I have more than 1 BFF. I’m blessed…
      but Kay was my ultimate best friend and soul mate. xx

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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    July 4, 2015 at 11:41 am

    They are blessed and fortunate to have a friend like you, Kim.

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    Little Chickie
    July 4, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    OMG! your blog was HILARIOUS!!! Thanks for the laugh.

    What comes to mind is my cousin and I were @ Grandmas sipping beers and we share funny stories about our parents. Her mom is my dad’s sister. They have what I’d refer to as a strong country bumpkin twang. For example, they do not say motorcycle but moter-sackle. Get my drift? And I mean no disrespect to my father, but his speech is somewhat impaired due to having Scarlett Fever as a young child.

    So Kathy unravels a scene from our aunts funeral. I had not arrived yet, but it didn’t matter. The scene in my mind was priceless.

    My younger sister was injured prior to my aunt’s funeral. She was hiking in Sandstone, lost her footage and fell off a cliff. She had to be air lifted out of a shallow river bed and received surgery for broken wrists.

    So dad tells the story like this…Instead of saying Peggy was hiking and fell off a cliff, it came out as follows…

    “Peggy was hitchhiking and fell off a cliff.” According to Kathy, my mom pressed her lips together and said…”She WASN’T hitchhiking.

    I had a mouth full of beer and spit it back in my mug. I slapped the table and my eyes filled with tears. Then Kathy followed. Everyone looked our way at two gals laughing uncontrollably with tears. What were they thinking? Well I guess it didn’t matter. They just saw two girls having fun. Two girls who laughed so hard our bellies hurt and I could feel a trickle of pee leaving my bladder. Twas a fun night indeed.


    Little Chicke

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:01 am

      –Love your stories, Little Chickie! you crack me up. xxx

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    July 4, 2015 at 12:51 pm

    Dear Kim, what a hilarious post – all of your points are so wise and unbelievably funny – my favorite though is #12 – if I may say so – she must be the best girlfriend ever and what a blessing to have her in your life. Wish I could tell you a great story about my bff…

    Wishing you and your family a very Happy 4th from afar!
    It is so hot in Europe, I am literally glued to the chair…

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    Balroop Singh
    July 4, 2015 at 1:44 pm

    Kim, I love your BFF…you are so lucky! I wish you could be my BFF. Love you anyways!

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    Susan boswell
    July 4, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Hilarious Kim and ih so true! I wish you were in North Carolina because we would have a great time covering ALL those subjects! Happy 4th.

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    Susan boswell
    July 4, 2015 at 1:59 pm

    Hi Kim! This is great! So true!!! I wish you were in NC and I could keep up with you on ALL those subjects or at least I’d try! Lol
    Happy 4th!

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:03 am

      I think you would def. be added to my bff list if we met! xx

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    Susan boswell
    July 4, 2015 at 2:00 pm

    Ok so three comments- the Last to simply say I thought my phone was not cooperating with post #1 but evidently I’m wrong!

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    July 4, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    It’s you that brings out the awesome in her, and in EVERYONE you touch! Xo

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    Carrie Rubin
    July 4, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    How nice that you have a friend who’s been at your side (and vice versa) for so long. I don’t think many people can say that. What a gift it is, and you’ve both done well to nurture it for so long.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:29 am

      I agree.
      having a few BFFs is a blessing!! xxx

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    Elephant's Child
    July 4, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    Huge smiles.
    Lucky you. Lucky her.
    It is always good to have a mutual support team – and better when they can jeer when that is appropriate too.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:29 am

      it’s rare to have people who get you, I mean, really get you! xxx

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    Hotly Spiced
    July 4, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    Everyone needs good friends like that. Love the honesty and diversity and of course, the high heels xx

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:30 am

      my life would be much more dark w/ out my girlfriends. xxx

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    lisa thomson
    July 4, 2015 at 6:43 pm

    This is the perfect tribute to your BFF! Your way with words, Kim just express perfectly what a BFF should be and luckily, your IS. I have some root friends who are all so different yet one thing in common—I can tell them anything and they don’t judge. We need that, right? 4EVER.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 9:31 am

      yes. they love you exactly how you are, flaws and all! xx

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    July 4, 2015 at 7:31 pm

    Wonderful, grin-inducing post, Kim. Loved it!! I have a new best friend in Sicily–she corrects my Italian, brings me orange cake and bottles of wine for no reason, invites me on asparagus and caper hunts, and pays my taxes for me when I’m not there. We gossip like crazy about our fellow villagers–so much fun!! A good friend is such a true treasure. xxxx

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 10:30 am

      Orange Cake!
      I wish I were there w/ you! xxxxx

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    July 4, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    I just sent my BFF a card: “We’re such good friends we pretend not to hear each other’s Pilates farts.”
    Hers smell far worse…

    Loved this, Kim!

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    July 4, 2015 at 8:56 pm

    Love you

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    nan @ lbddiaries
    July 4, 2015 at 10:59 pm

    You are SO blessed to have that.

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    July 5, 2015 at 1:54 am

    What true BFF’s you 2 are – incredible! Awesome! Wonderful!
    Love to you darling Kim across the oceans.
    🙂 Mandy xoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 10:38 am

      And love flowing to S. Africa, Darling Mandy!! xxx

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    Vidya Sury
    July 5, 2015 at 2:54 am

    Oh yes, I am one lucky biaatch. I have my BFFs too, and they’re exactly like this.

    “A friend is like a good bra: hard to find, comfortable, supportive, always lifts you up, makes you look better, never lets you down or leaves you hanging, and always close to your heart.”

    Hugs and love!

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      I love your bra metaphor! Luv you more than bras, Vidya! xxx

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    Gary Sidley
    July 5, 2015 at 3:52 am

    Communal pissing in your jeans – now that shows togetherness!
    Close friendship is a precious, precious phenomenon. It is pleasing to hear you’ve found yourself a soul-mate.

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    Kim Gagnon
    July 5, 2015 at 4:56 am

    Yes you have the right email. You are blessed with multiple best friends and I’m honored to be one of them. We are the richest gals in the world with friendships. I wouldn’t trade them for all the money in the world !! So many fun memories since childhood. You should also write a book about all your pants pissing times with all the girls ! You are truly blessed. Someday we’ll all be together in heaven. Kay’s got the table set waiting patiently. It might seem forever to us but its just a blink of the eye. Love you BFF. Xo. K

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    Chris Carter
    July 5, 2015 at 6:03 am

    Oh how I love that you have this incredible bond in your life… LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!

    My only regret is that I’M NOT YOUR BFF.

    But I can’t do heels, so there’s that.

    *Perfect list*

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      we would def. be bffs. damn the different states!! xxxx

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    Valentine Logar
    July 5, 2015 at 7:34 am

    This, this is needful in our lives as women, as humans. I am blessed with this and did not realize it for so long.

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    July 5, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    Ah, Kimmie, everybody needs a BFF!! Mine has been with me practically from the beginning. She knows my secrets (and I know hers); we both know the other will carry them to the grave! We laugh at the same things, fret over the same worries, and, despite the fact that we’re hundreds of miles apart physically, we totally GET one another, you know? Wonderful post, my friend, and blessings to your pal for supporting and loving you through good times and not-so-good!

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 2:45 pm

      sometimes I look at Mr. L. and say, “Forget it! I’m calling my BFF!”


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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    July 5, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    There really is nothing like a good girlfriend is there? The stuff we talk about is so hilarious that I often think that someone should be recording it! 😛 xxx

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 8:20 pm

      I know, L.
      It would be a GREAT Reality Show!!! xx

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    Anna @ shenANNAgans
    July 5, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    Love it! Friends are the BEST! 🙂 And lucky you having such a cool pal in your world.
    Mine is my Momma, I have been blessed with that special friendship all my life. 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      July 6, 2015 at 9:26 am

      I love that your mama is your best friend!! Mine was KAY and will always be Kay, but I have some other bitches, too!! xxxx

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    July 6, 2015 at 5:11 am

    Wonderful stuff, Kimmy. Love the peeing in your jeans 🙂 I’ve read Stones in the River too. Fabulous!

    My BFF is named Theresa. We’ve been friends since we were 10. When we were in our 20s, we lost contact when she moved to another state. After 16 years, I decided to try to find her number. I looked in the Yellow Pages, called the first number that looked likely, and there she was! About a week later, I flew to where she lived, and at the airport, we saw each other for the first time in 16 years. For the next 3 days, we laughed and cried and talked non-stop about what we’d lost and what we’d gained. Now, about 8 years later, we talk often and visit each other once a year. She’s still my best friend and always will be. No-one gets me like she does. xx

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      My Inner Chick
      July 6, 2015 at 9:27 am

      O’ my!
      I love that story soooooooooo much, Narelle!
      You should write about it on your blog!
      after 16 years! SO AWESOME! xxxxx

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    July 6, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    Your BFF is awesome! I have BFF’s that have come at different stages of my life. However, there is one who no matter how long it’s been since we’ve talked we can always pick up where we left off. Love you Robin!!

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      My Inner Chick
      July 6, 2015 at 7:19 pm

      we all need our BFFS!
      Mr. L. just doesn’t cut it sometimes!! xxx

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    July 7, 2015 at 12:06 am

    Your BFF is amazing and wonderful and funny too.

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    totally Caroline
    July 7, 2015 at 6:01 am

    She sounds Devine 🙂
    I have a BFF, friends since we were 3. We lost touch when I got married but reconnected over Facebook. It’s like we just continued right where we left off. She is nothing short of my sister. She is the only woman not related to me my blood to tell me she loves me, and I love her too. ❤️

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      My Inner Chick
      July 7, 2015 at 8:30 am

      I love that you re-connected!! FAB! xx

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    July 7, 2015 at 10:08 am

    Oh my gosh, I love this post! It’s very inspiring. I suspect there will be a ton of bloggers following your lead on this one…not me..cough cough…No, seriously, you two would be a ton of fun, and I pee my pants too, so it’s all good.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 7, 2015 at 12:34 pm

      Why not you, darling?
      I hope you have a BFF to tell shit to! xxxx

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    July 7, 2015 at 11:32 am

    Hi Kim! I wanted to stop by and say hi 🙂 Awesome post and I too am blessed with not just one but several BFF’s in this lifetime. Love, hugs and blessings to you always! 🙂

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    July 8, 2015 at 11:45 am

    Love your BFF Kim. Mine always send the right words at the right time (!)
    They listen to my shit and give great advice. We rejoice together and we cry together.
    BFF are just the best!

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      My Inner Chick
      July 9, 2015 at 7:02 am

      “The Right Words at the right time.”

      Yes, that is def. a bestie!! xxx

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    July 8, 2015 at 12:45 pm

    Oh Kim, Perfect post. I so enjoyed this one. I have two Bffs. They match two sides of me. One I have known since kindergarten but really discovered when we were 16, lost touch, then got in touch from across the continents Australia( me) and Detroit( She). I moved to San Francisco, our reunion was marvelous. We giggle, laugh, talk smack about our husbands, the drama our children bring, Caitlyn Jenner, mourn why Ben + Jen split up and pin photos of the Royal Christening and discuss food. Endless amounts of it. We are truly Bffs. A life time of memories. She lives in New Jersey but we chat almost every day.
    The other I met recently, she is the link to the deepest part of me. She gets me. She will go there; the ugly, the nasty, the beautiful and the extraordinary. She is a traveler; she will ruminate with me. We talk about Democrats and Republicans. We are on opposing sides most times. I am agitated when she’s not and she is when I’m not. We talk about why gun laws need to change, why mental health needs to be addressed and why a woman needs to be president. We talk about Isis, global warming, the drought in California. We run together, do Starbucks and laugh. She will pick up my kids, I trust her around my daughter who has severe allergies and she will be honest. every. single. time.

    Beautiful post my friend – it got me appreciating what I have

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      My Inner Chick
      July 9, 2015 at 7:04 am

      ***she is the link to the deepest part of me. ***

      This was a most beautiful comment, Shamitri. I loved every. single. word.

      WOW. xxxx

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    July 9, 2015 at 3:42 am

    You are very lucky to have such a great friend!!!

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    July 13, 2015 at 5:14 pm

    Best friends remain that way even when years pass. I can’t make my 20-year reunion at the end of this month because I needed to visit home last week for a wedding. While there I met up with two high school friends I haven’t seen in two decades. It was like we had seen each other only yesterday.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 13, 2015 at 9:05 pm

      isn’t that awesome when that happens!? xx

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    July 13, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Hey Kim,
    I rant and rave over acronyms and now I had go and find out what the fuck “BFF” meant! 🙂 Sheesh…..

    I wish I had a BFF like the one you describe. Unfortunately there’s a recurring trend in my life, the kinder and considerate I am of a “friend”, the more crap I seem to endure. What a world of variety we live in and thank heavens you have friends you can rely on as they can rely on you.

    Hugs from LEEK!

    Gary 🙂 xx

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      My Inner Chick
      July 13, 2015 at 9:06 pm

      I’ll be your friend, sweetheart! xx

      Luv from MN.

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    July 15, 2015 at 6:03 am

    “Well I heard you thinking something”
    That is a BFF right there.
    So lucky to have a good one like that who just knows. Hold them close xoxoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      July 15, 2015 at 8:15 am

      I hope you have a few BFFS! Cuz they save lives! xxxx

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    July 27, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    Hi, you are so blessed and lucky to have such a good friend. Thanks for sharing.

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