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What Is The Real You?


To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. —-Alan Cohen

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—-As you might already know,  I try to embody empowerment, rising up,  hope,  optimism, &  loving yourself “just as you are” in most of my blog posts. This is the goal for My Inner Chick.

 

B u t…

 

If you ran across me last week,  you would’ve been mortified. You would’ve been surprised.  You would’ve said something like,  “But Kim,  I thought you were different.   But you’re a FAKE, a phony, a paper-doll cutout, a counterfeit, & why should we read your words?

 

At least that’s how I felt for about 48 hours.

 

You see, I had an interview for our local television station about domestic abuse,  Kay’s story,  my blog, writing, mourning, murder, well, you get the idea.

 

When I watch the news clip later that night,  I don’t hear anything about the actual content, the stuff that matters, the stuff that means something;  I’m too busy examining how ghastly my hair looks (the wrong color burgundy),  how old I appear (when did that happen?),  the weight I had gained (was that because TV added 10 pounds?),  and my voice,  oh-my-god, the words gush out too quickly, too fervently, too animatedly.

 

I despise myself.  ( for about 48 hours )

 

I call my girlfriend.

 

“Did you see the clip?”  I scream.

 

“Yes,  I looooove it.  So proud of you,”  she says.

 

“I’m fat.  I’m ugly.  My voice is shit. I’m old.  And did you notice my hair just dangling there like wet dark hideous slimy noodles?”

 

A long pause.

 

“Excuse me, are you done?”  She finally says.

 

“Yeah, I guess.”

 

“You’re beautiful,  Kim.  The interview was wonderful.  This entire thing is bigger than you and your vanity and your stupid spaghetti  hair.”

 

I start laughing ridiculously, fully.   I can’t help it.  This is what she does to me, how she makes me feel.

 

Then she says,  “I challenge you to put your hair in rollers, wear no makeup, and post the photo on your blog.”

 

Thus,  the (Selfie)  photo… But darlings,  I did wear a bit of makeup.  I mean,  we all have our limits,  right?

 

—-Dear,   Reader,  do you love yourself “just as you are?”  Do you compare yourself to others?  Is there anything you’d like to change about yourself?  What really matters?


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97 Comments

  • Reply
    Elisabeth Kinsey
    June 26, 2015 at 8:05 am

    I know the insecurities of which you speak! We all have them but I try to put myself in the future, say ten years. Then I can look back at myself and say, “Wow, you were so young and thin!” We are only as young as we’ll ever be today, so enjoy it!!! 🙂

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Superb Perspective! I dig it! xx

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      Jayne Martin
      July 5, 2015 at 6:11 pm

      I never thought of that, Elizabeth. Right now my boobs just hang over my stomach, but 10 years from now they’ll be down to my hootch. You’re right! I feel much better! 🙂

  • Reply
    ladyfi
    June 26, 2015 at 8:08 am

    Your girlfriend is golden! We all have insecurities, I guess, and I realize I’m growing older every time I look in the mirror, but I do try and embrace myself as I am now…

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Lady Fi,
      I’m evolving. Not there yet…it’s a mindful process. xx

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    Gary Sidley
    June 26, 2015 at 8:33 am

    I think we all like to look half decent when we are in the public eye, but it is clearly much less important than the content of the message.

    And by the way, I’m strangely attracted to a lady in hair rollers; I suspect it is something to do with my childhood roots in the working-class north of England!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:57 pm

      Hilarious!
      Shall I send some to Mrs. Sidley, darling? Perhaps she can wear them w/ her negligée!
      How far are you from Liverpool?

  • Reply
    marie
    June 26, 2015 at 8:53 am

    It just happened to me at lunch time Kim! It did not last 48 hours just 1h but I did not like it. I am learning to love myself. I think it’s the best we deserve, to accept ourselves. Cause as you and me know, we are just perfect and beautiful the way we are!
    PS – I am sure you were Fabulous!

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:57 pm

      AWWWWWWWW,
      to love ourselves & others.
      The world could be almost perfect, Marie. xxx

  • Reply
    Tammi Pekkala Matthews
    June 26, 2015 at 9:50 am

    We are our own harshest critics always. I saw the love you have for Kay- it shone out of every pore…and love makes you beautiful 🙂

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    Jennifer Wolfe
    June 26, 2015 at 10:30 am

    Ah, the self reflection that comes with such cerebral types as we are…can be such a pain in the ass sometimes. Love you, you’re beautiful, and your message helps share brightness on so many lives. Sending hugs.

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    Gretchen
    June 26, 2015 at 11:36 am

    I love this. I love your honesty. What an amazing thing you’re doing. And I would have done the same thing. I would have scrutinized and criticized myself. Thank god for friends who can call us out and set us straight!

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:59 pm

      Gretchen,
      without girlfriends, I think I’d simply drink and die! xx

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    lisa thomson
    June 26, 2015 at 11:52 am

    <3 this pic and post, Kim! You're a gorgeous woman!! The interview was awesome and you were amazing in it. The awareness you're spreading in Kay's memory will far out live any spaghetti hair (as your good friend says). I'm beginning to accept myself more just the way I am. I love it, too. BUT I have some days where I hate the way I look and change into some other outfit 4x before I'm happy. Some days I hate my hair and see a fat, middle aged woman in the mirror. I chock those days up to hormonal imbalance. We are all beautiful!!! xoxoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      Lisa,
      yes, we are all beautiful.
      Don’t you just hate when we criticize ourselves like that?
      I was actually ashamed of myself afterwards. xxx

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    Trish
    June 26, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    Not comparing/over analyzing is THE hardest self struggle- and it leads down such a nasty road of uglier bumps. I am trying very hard to so less of that- and even though Papa makes fun of me- Yoga is helping me get “there”, I am working very hard on being present- instead of allowing my mind to run crazed bumper car circles.
    Can you imagine what we would all be capable of if our minds weren’t so wrapped up in comparisons and worries and instead we focused all of that energy onto- well, anything really!
    PS- I think your friend is pretty awesome- hang on tight to that one 🙂

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 1:54 pm

      Trish,
      you are one of the most gifted, inspiring, and amazing people I’ve ever known.

      xxxxxx LOVE!

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    Elephant's Child
    June 26, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    I love your beautiful self and would do so even if you appeared in a garbage bag.
    Myself? Self love or even like is a work in progress. Very effing slow progress.

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      Effing Slow!
      I agree. But the older I get, the more I accept myself, S. xxxx

  • Reply
    Carrie Rubin
    June 26, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    I think we can all relate to this. Thank you for your honesty, because we all do the same thing. It’s incredible how judgmental and cruel we can be to ourselves. We’d never point out the same ‘flaws’ in others on TV. Glad your friend called you on it. We have to have each other’s backs. 🙂

    Congrats on the interview! Very courageous of you. I love how you work so tirelessly to spread such an important message.

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      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 2:01 pm

      Carrie,
      My behavior was sinful. Seriously.
      Thank you for your words, sweets! xx

  • Reply
    nan @ lbddiaries
    June 26, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    Without makeup? Whaaa? I’d have NO eyebrows and now eyelashes (being they are invisible blonde). NO NO NO there is no way. You are right, there are limits except… YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, beautiful, beautiful. Loving those asymmetrical bangs, darlink!!

    So “do I love myself “just as I am?” NO. A h-e-double-hockey-sticks NO. Alpha Hubby and I have made a determination recently to lean up. I think he is going to torture me because he doesn’t have far to go but me? Well, OK that would be none-ya. My goal is to be his arm candy so I have a bit of work to do. By the end of the year we are going to take a duplicate picture of my avatar but with us instead of whoever those people are. Today I learned, on this journey, that my #1 Goal has to be “loving self right where you are” – so that is what I’m working on this summer. EXCELLENT POST!!!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 3:11 pm

      Nan,
      I think you are absolutely fabulous, darling. xxxx

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    Janine Huldie
    June 26, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    You are absolutely gorgeous and seriously so proud of you, too!!! 🙂

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    Chris Carter
    June 26, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    I could absolutely positively see me doing this very thing. Gasping at how awful I looked and criticizing everything about my appearance while meticulously degrading my interview. I SO get this.

    And your friend. Perfect. I love that friend of yours. Maybe I should meet her when I come over for our wine, prayers, laughter? She sounds like a treasure. Much like you.

    This thing is so much bigger than you. You know that. You just lost yourself for a minute. Well, 48 hours, to be exact. 😉

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 3:13 pm

      HAAAAAAA.
      48 hours of sin. Yes, I call how I was treating myself a SIN.
      I want to wine w/ you, my darling Chris.
      My friend will come, too.
      She’s a Jesus Freak, as well ! xxxx

  • Reply
    Joan Peterson
    June 26, 2015 at 2:56 pm

    This is a great post. As someone who has been often interviewed for news stories about gun violence, I am a terrible critic of myself. I also look fatter on camera and I never like my hair. The camera angle is all wrong and the reporter picks the exact wrong quote from me. Sorry I missed your interview so I can’t critique it. But you know what? How many people get out there to be interviewed? You are talking about important stuff- life saving stuff. People need to hear what you have to say. I love what you write and what you say and I admire your honesty. Good for you for posting the photo as well.

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 3:15 pm

      Joan,
      I’ve wathced you on television and you are gorgeous. I love that short hair! So chic!
      On the other hand….
      I’m….Um, um….

      LOOLLLL.

      xxxxxx

  • Reply
    Barbara Hammond
    June 26, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    We are always our own worst critic. I’ve seen myself on TV and cringe whenever I think about it. But, 5 years down the road I wish I still looked like I did on TV! You are beautiful inside and out. Your message is SOOOOO important. Let it be.
    xoxob

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    Kristi Campbell
    June 26, 2015 at 7:35 pm

    I so so so would have done the same. In my Listen To Your Mother video, from a year ago, all I see are the bags under my eyes and my back fat, as I walk off the stage. Is there a clip because I’d LOVE to see it!!

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    Balroop Singh
    June 26, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    I love you Kim… and I love myself more than that, the way I am. Never had any doubts about it. We are what we think of ourselves. Our beliefs define us.
    Thanks for the reminder.

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    Lorraine @Not Quite Nigella
    June 26, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    Kim we are our own worst critics honestly. We would just see the best of you and you wouldn’t. I’m the same. I cannot listen to my voice at all. I’m like “Who is that?” when I see myself on screen.

    And to answer your question on my blog, I’d be honoured if you interviewed me xxx

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 26, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      COOOL!
      I’ll send you some questions soon!
      thank you!

      xxxxxx

  • Reply
    Marcia @ Menopausal Mother
    June 26, 2015 at 9:14 pm

    I love the picture and I think you are BEAUTIFUL inside and out!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:50 am

      Marcia,
      I believe we are all a “work in process!”
      And I have LOTS of work left. xxx

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    Sandra
    June 26, 2015 at 10:06 pm

    Oh Huney, I could give you a list as long as my arm of what I don’t like about myself…nay! What I despise about myself. But in the spirit of trying to live in the moment (I’m on an Eckhart Tolle quest to live in the Now) I just breathe deeply and picture a mouse hole in my head and wait to see how long it takes for anything to appear from the mouse hole. While I’m concentrating on that, I don’t have time to concentrate on anything else. But guuurl, you can pull off those hot rollers like nobody’s business!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:50 am

      Sandra,
      love your words. I miss you although we’ve never met! xx

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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    June 27, 2015 at 12:38 am

    You have a REAL girl friend, Kim. Any chance that we can watch that clip too?
    The selfie reminds me of beautiful Barbra Streisand 🙂

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:51 am

      HAaaaaa.
      I’ve been told that! xx kiss from MN.

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    Corinne Rodrigues
    June 27, 2015 at 12:43 am

    Great story, Kim and I love the question. I’m still working on accepting myself. However, I’m a no makeup kind of gal. Just the other night I wore eyeliner for a dinner out, and my husband asked why I was all ‘dressed up’! 😉

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:52 am

      Superb.
      I’d love to feel that liberated, Corinne. You inspire!! xxx

  • Reply
    Mandy
    June 27, 2015 at 12:53 am

    You are hot in those curlers Kim! I wish I could see the video clip, is it anywhere on the web for me to view?
    The real me, oh lordy, where to begin. There is the person everyone sees who is confident, disciplined and helper to the community who chairs the police forum and neighbourhood watch who glides along on her own while her husband does a lot of travelling wishing he was home, then…
    There is the person I see, no confidence, ageing like hell, working hard at trying to run better, OCD with having to have the cupboards all neat and tidy all the time, making sure when I go to town I can find an exact mug for the one that broke so now the set isn’t complete, wanting to sit and eat bag of potato chips instead pushing myself to get into the kitchen to cook a hearty meal, especially if my Pete is home, always wanting to be the perfect wife but usually cocking it up half the time.
    Guess I ain’t having the best day either.
    Love and hugs to you dear Kim. You always shine a light. Thank you for you!
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:54 am

      Mandy,
      that’s why I love you. You validate my feelings. LOve from MN. Did you get your birthday card yet? xxxx

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    solidgoldcreativity
    June 27, 2015 at 1:15 am

    Spaghetti hair. You are also funny and oh-so-lovable. xx

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      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 8:00 am

      HAaaaaaaa.
      Loveable and CRAZY!
      hugs, Narelle. xxx000

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    totally Caroline
    June 27, 2015 at 5:48 am

    i have good days and bad days. I have days when I feel so ugly and wretched and I think, no man will ever love me. I have days when I feel beautiful and strong. I have days when I feel like I just can’t cut it anymore, when the little bit of confidence I have completely disappears. I have days when my fears overwhelm me, and putting one foot in front of the other is just SO HARD. I get overwhelmed with loneliness, emptiness and longing. Sometimes I think this is what it is to be a woman: terrifying but beautiful.
    P.s. You look super cute in your curlers. I want to hug you ☺️

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:55 am

      Caroline,
      consider yourself hugged! Have I ever seen your face? You are a mystery?! xxx

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    Jann
    June 27, 2015 at 6:35 am

    Kim, you look so retro-chic in those curlers!! How wonderful that your TV station called you in for an interview about Kay–I think she was looking down from heaven and smiling at your very normal reaction as you watched it.

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      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:56 am

      Jann,
      Kay was utterly vain! She was probably laughing and saying, “I’m up here beautifully young w/ wings, Kimmy!”
      Love to you, sweets.

  • Reply
    Kathy McCullough
    June 27, 2015 at 6:45 am

    Oh, Kim, I understand. It is toooooooo damn easy to be critical of ourselves! And you look good even in rollers. Ha, ha! I’m sure your interview was brilliant and you were beautiful–even as you are in curlers.

    Here’s the deal. This summer I’m going on two-month RV trip with my nearing-ninety Godmother and her cat Pepe le Mew. I leave for the US in a week. The RV is huge, 37-feet. My Godmother will be driving and towing an SUV the entire way. She was a Flamenco dancer during her entire professional life. I’m going to try to blog about our trip and write a book about the 64 beautiful years she and my Godfather, a Venezuelan movie star (I kid you not!), were married, until Raul died last fall one month shy of his 97th birthday.

    Sorry to have been away for so long, Kimmy! Love to you!

    Hugs from Ecuador,
    Kathy

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 7:58 am

      OOOOO, Kathy,
      I want to hear and see EVERYTHING.
      Pepe le Mew!! SUPERBBBBBBB.
      MOvie Star!
      Fabulous stuff, darling.
      Please keep us posted.

      XXXxxxxx

  • Reply
    Kim Gagnon
    June 27, 2015 at 8:20 am

    Kimmy.
    We’re all human! Love youooooooo!!!! Xoxo K

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 8:40 am

      Kimmy,
      sometimes I just want to be a CAT))

      Luv U. xxxxxxxx

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    Carrie Reimer
    June 27, 2015 at 10:14 am

    I can’t imagine you being anything but vibrant and beautiful! I don’t think many of us see ourselves with honest eyes; we see every flaw every wrinkle that no one else sees.
    I hated my voice when I was interviewed, thank the good lord it was talk radio and not TV!
    I learned a long time ago that my eyes lie to me when I was going through some old pics at my girl friend’s and saw some attractive woman snuggled up to my then husband. Who was this woman???? where was I???? what is she doing with her hand on my husband’s leg? then I realized it was me!! damn it! I was pretty and I totally missed it!!
    So now I tell myself that when I am 80 I am going to be sorry I didn’t appreciate myself more when I was in my 50’s.
    I get angry with myself when I realize how much time I have wasted in my life feeling inferior or “not enough” that my ass was too big and my boobs were too small, my voice too high pitched or too loud.
    My son also taught me a lesson. He has met some woman and will be telling me how beautiful she is how lucky he is to have this wonderful gorgeous woman dating him, she is a model! and I meet her and think, “Really? beautiful? she’s ok.” but if my boy thinks she is beautiful that is all that counts. Then I get to know her and she gets more beautiful and I realize my boy has good taste in women and that men see past the perfect figure and they love the whole woman and beauty radiates from the inside out.
    You, my dear, radiate beauty and a love for life and are passionate.

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      Carrie Reimer
      June 27, 2015 at 10:17 am

      oops hit send too soon. I was going to say, you do Kim better than anyone I know, and she’s really beautiful!
      Hugs to you from Canada
      Is there anyway I can see this interview from over here?

      • Reply
        My Inner Chick
        June 27, 2015 at 10:36 am

        Hi, Carrie,
        what empowering words. Talk about radiate!

        Hugs, affection, appreciation from MN. xxxxxx

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    dad
    June 27, 2015 at 11:10 am

    KIM—-You always look*( BEAUTIFUL).
    Love You So Much
    Dad

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      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      Daddy,
      I get it from you. LOVE you more than dove chocolate and sushi. xxxxxxxxxx

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    Debbie
    June 27, 2015 at 11:54 am

    Kim, you’re sooo blessed to have found such a GOOD friend! Someone who loves us the way we are, with no expectations, is a GEM, my dear!

    I’m sure it’s natural for us to be overly-critical of the way we look, the way we sound, the things we do and say. Others, however, are tuned in to the message we bring, and that should be the focal point anyway. (By the way, I admire your bravery — I’m not at all sure I’d be comfortable taking a selfie of me without makeup and posting it for all to see, ha!!)

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    Carolyn Hughes
    June 27, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    You are wonderful Kim! Beautiful inside and out! And oh my gosh I can relate to your dissecting yourself after an interview. I can’t bear to hear my own voice in a recording let alone watch myself – no, no, no! But I can look myself in the mirror in the morning and tell myself I’m good enough. And you are more than good enough too <3

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 27, 2015 at 4:18 pm

      Carolyn,
      Yes. I must say this every. single. day.
      After all, we are God’s children!!
      How are you????

      xxx

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    Hotly Spiced
    June 27, 2015 at 4:36 pm

    Well done on getting on TV and having your voice and cause heard. And you have a very good friend to put everything into perspective for you. However, I know if I had been on TV, I would have been critically examining myself too! xx

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      June 28, 2015 at 7:30 am

      –I’m a LONG work in progress, Charlie!
      xxx KISS from MN.

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    Valentine Logar
    June 28, 2015 at 5:20 am

    You are supremely beautiful, in that picture and others. How could you possibly be otherwise, your soul shines!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 28, 2015 at 7:31 am

      Val,
      you are so right…it’s about the soul!)))) Luv U. xx

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    Jodi
    June 28, 2015 at 7:35 am

    Oh, Lovey, I wish I could see the clip. I love that you are SOOOOO real! When I was on the news, I could watch the clip for a year! LOVE that you are speaking out. Your voice is for millions! love you! xoxoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      June 28, 2015 at 8:41 am

      thank you, darling Jodi,
      but you look like a Super Model!! LOLlllll. xxxxxxxxxx

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    susan casey
    June 28, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    First of all, you’d be beautiful inside and out no matter what you do to yourself! I do love this post though…we are so cruel to ourselves sometimes with that horrid inner gremlin voice! I love you dear heart…you are such a gift to this world…and have so many powerful messages to share with all of us. You are light and force. Love you dearly!

    And can you please post a link to the clip? I want to see it!! oxoxox

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    Anna @ shenANNAgans
    June 28, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    I LOVE visiting your blog, you are the freakin BEST! 🙂 I always find myself smiling, nodding agreement.
    I reckon I have found a way to love me. When I decided to really go public with my blog, my life, sharing personal details about my life, I decided that to do that, I had to share the not so great parts of me too. I had to be okay with people finding faults and judging. I actually have a collection of awful photos, pictures of me without makeup, up angels with triple chins, half open eyes, frizzy hair, the works. So when anyone has a go, I say ‘listen up mate, I got that covered, I can top any nasty you might feel I need to know about myself.’ It really helps.

    I try not to compare myself to others, but hey, I wouldnt be human if I didnt. I could lose a few kilos and have better skin and get rid of the cellulite and the chip in my front tooth and makings of a double chin and spare tyre and under arm jelly. But, it really doesnt matter in the scheme of things.

    i reckon you are beautiful and amazing and lovely and special and wonderful, and when i grow up, I want to be as awesome as you.

    Big squishy hugs. xox

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      My Inner Chick
      June 28, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      Haaaaa.
      you make me smile, too!
      What a fabulous, honest response to this post, Anna.
      You have my <3 HEART. xxxxxxxx

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    TheKitchenLioness
    June 29, 2015 at 5:41 am

    Dear Kim – you look absolutely gorgeous, my dear!!! Love that picture of you – and loved reading your smart and funny post. You are an amazing person and your girlfriend sounds like such a terrific friend to have. About those insecurities…we all seem to have them, especially yours truly – when I look at my kids, especially our youngest daughter, I always smile though, she is brimming with self-confidence and she is totally fearless. That will make life certainly easier for her…
    Sending you sooo many hugs and btw I am not going anywhere with my blog – that was just a blog post about the end of that particular four-year project.
    “See” you soon,
    Andrea

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      My Inner Chick
      June 29, 2015 at 6:32 am

      WHEW.
      thank goodness. I got scared about that, Andrea.
      I have my faves & I’d miss you!! xxx

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    Renee Johnson
    June 29, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    That is a good friend–a real keeper–one who can see what is important and call you out on the diva-nesque trap we fall into at times as women. How can we not obsess when nearly every ad is a reminder that we need to look younger, thinner, more polished, less haggard, etc. Appearances matter, but I’m learning. Maybe you’ll start a new trend of ‘just as you are’ women. And congrats on the fab television interview. You are rocking and rolling girlfriend. Yay you!

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      My Inner Chick
      June 29, 2015 at 4:59 pm

      Renne,
      I agree. “REAL WOMEN” I really dig it! xxx

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    Jeri
    June 29, 2015 at 9:56 pm

    I’m pretty good about not comparing myself to others, but I am horrible at deciding what I want. What matters most is living and doing what makes you happy. And to really live, because I was traveling a lot for years but was on autopilot concerning the rest of what could have been better in my life.

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      My Inner Chick
      June 30, 2015 at 7:48 am

      yes,
      LIVING.
      Serving.
      Loving.
      You got that right, Jeri!! xx

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    Liz
    June 30, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    I love having friends who aren’t afraid to tell it like it is! I’m sure you did a marvelous job! Going to yoga sans makeup the past 10 years has made me feel OK about myself without being all dolled up—I may need an intervention to actually start getting out of my yoga clothes every now and then 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      June 30, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      Liz,
      I love being comfortable at home, but I can never leave the house w/out lipstick on!!! xxx

      Yoga clothes are HOT.

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    Gary
    June 30, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    Hey Kim!

    I thought a “selfie” was a euphemism for masturbation!

    It’s good to have a friend like that putting things into a positive perspective. Of course, you knew she would say what she said 🙂 Good friends lift us up and never put us down.

    You get a lot of support and feedback on your site. We are both blessed that way.

    Where do you live? LOL

    Gary 🙂 x

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      My Inner Chick
      July 1, 2015 at 6:55 am

      Gary,
      I hear you are in Duluth, darling. We must meet!! LOOLLLLL
      You are a man of the world!! xx

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    hilary
    July 1, 2015 at 3:40 am

    I love the roller selfie… i think your reaction is so natural. A couple of weeks ago I was on a internet radio show doing an interview. I listened a few times and I didn’t pay attention to how the host laughed at my comments or the way i handled the questions. All I could focus on is at the start of the show I sounded like a four year old

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      My Inner Chick
      July 1, 2015 at 6:56 am

      I knooow.
      It’s like we’re back in high school or something.
      I told my girlfriend, “I’m ashamed of my behavior!!”

      xxx KISSSS
      PS. can I listen to your interview?

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    Sandra
    July 2, 2015 at 8:36 am

    I’ve had way too many days of berating myself over the size of my thighs and fine lines and tiny wrinkles around my eyes. Some days I try not to look in the mirror and just think of what I’d like to look like or how I used to look. That back and forth gets real old real quick. I prefer to count my blessings, be grateful that my thighs help to move me forward and the fine lines and wrinkles around my eyes remind me that I have had lots to smile about.

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    Monica
    July 2, 2015 at 11:31 pm

    Okay, let’s be frank. I’d like to rid myself once and for all of my belly. I’m not Santa, after all. And Kim, I’ve been exercising like crazy. To no avail, aside from the fact that my blood pressure is at an all-time low. Belly is determined to stay put. Grr. But it turns out exercising alone doesn’t cut it, not even doing it every day. I have to eat right and give up sugar. Sugar! Do you know what that means??? No peanut M&M’s, nothing. Sigh. What a pain.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 6:42 pm

      I want it all.
      The sugar, chocolate, & M & Ms!!! xxx

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    Jayne Martin
    July 5, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    We are all our own worst critics. But I’ve gotten easier on myself as I’ve grown older and stopped giving a crap about what most people think. I rarely wear any makeup unless I’m actually going someplace where I feel I owe it to small children not to frighten them.

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      My Inner Chick
      July 5, 2015 at 6:42 pm

      Jayne,
      I have a feeling that you’d be beautiful no matter what!! xx

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