No More– “he had a bad childhood, or “he was depressed,” or “he couldn’t help himself.” NO. MORE.—-Kim Sisto Robinson
1. I was just kidding.
It’s a LIE. Hurting another person is NEVER a joke (verbally or physically)
Maya Angelou said: “ “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.”
2. You make me do it. You bring out the worst in me.
The abuser is transferring his shame onto you. Don’t allow it. Ever.
He brings the worst out in himself.
3. I’m sorry.
These are empty, hollow words.
If he were sorry, he’d stop hitting, belittling, demeaning, controlling, hurting, and punching you with his toxic tongue.
4. I had a bad childhood.
No More justifications. No More explanations.
If he had a bad childhood, why wouldn’t he desire to make the next chapter of his life better, healthier, more beautiful?
5. I do it because I love you.
This. Is. Not. Love.
Causing your partner’s soul to bleed and shrivel and die IS. Not. Love
Love is SAFE.
6. I’ll change.
The biggest lie in all the universe. Don’t believe it for a second. The abuser will say what you want to hear.
My sister is dead because she thought he’d change.
He never changed. He never fucking changed.
7. If you leave me, our children will never forgive you.
Your children will survive, thrive, & thank you ( in the end). Your children will arise and call you blessed.
And you will be alive to continue loving them.
8. Nobody will ever love you like I do.
Pure, unequivocal fiction.
My sister continually said, “O’, I wish I had somebody who really loved me, respected me, valued me, listened to me.”
She stayed until he murdered her.
9. I’m broken.
Broken people must fix themselves. You cannot save them.
BEWARE: Trying to fix a broken person will cut you, shatter you, kill you.
Staying with somebody who is broken, “Breaks YOU.”
10. If you leave, I will kill myself.
This is a trick to make you stay, a ploy to keep you exactly where you are. This is manipulation. This is a maneuver to make you feel sorry for him.
Another lie to control you, chain you, cage you.
Remember, you Are Not responsible for his life, or his Death.
GET HELP TODAY:
—Call the National Domestic Hotline TODAY
—-For Duluthians, call DAIP
—-Watch SILENCE NO MORE HERE HERE
—-Never forget——You are loved, valued, worthy, cherished, and beautiful. Break free from the chains that bind you TODAY.