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Remaining Silent About Domestic Abuse KILLS

The definition of Domestic Abuse is simple:    Anybody who minimizes, belittles, or makes you feel small.  —Kim Sisto Robinson

Not all bruises are visible.

Not all bruises are visible.


I don’t know about you,  but I was getting quite bored with this “Dress Debate.”


Is the dress gold and white or black and blue?


It’s like,  who gives a flying shit?   Why does it matter when societies are collapsing,  God is lost,  people are shooting one another, & Isis is trying to take over the world?


But now,  finally,  this dress has substance, depth,  meaning.


And what is the universe without meaning?     Can anybody tell me?


The Salvation Army says the color of the dress isn’t the point.  Rather,  why not utilize this ad,  which has gone viral, to RAISE AWARENESS about the epidemic of Domestic Violence.


In this picture,  the bruises are visible,  but in most domestic violence cases,  they are not.


What do you see?   What do you feel?  What will you do about it?


Staying silent will kill you.   Staying silent will leave you without a sister.

Staying Silent KILLS

Staying Silent KILLS


Remaining soundless will imprisoned you.


Today,  will you RISE UP and break the chains that cage you inside this HELL, this prison?


Not only the abused,  but the people who observe the visible and invisible Black & Blue bodies and minds and hearts.


—–Would you Sign your name &  where you come from below if you are NOT going to take it anymore.


          NOT.       One.      More.     Solitary.    Day.


Get help today:  Call the National Domestic Hotline:  1-800-799-7233

—A Path to safety:   HERE!!!!

PLEASE Retweet & Pin these images by adding hashtag   #StopAbuseAgainstWomen.


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    My Inner Chick
    March 8, 2015 at 10:22 am

    My name is Kim Sisto Robinson. I am from Duluth, MN.
    When I see abuse, (of any kind) I will RISE up and TELL and scream and be part of the solution. I will not stand silent as I have done in the past. O, how I miss my sister.
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    Elephant's Child
    March 8, 2015 at 11:41 am

    I name is Sue.
    I am from Canberra, Australia.
    Last week in my city a young mother (her baby was less than two months old) was killed by her ex partner. Every week at least one woman is killed this way. Our government has cut funding for refuges, cut funding for legal aid. I REFUSE TO TAKE IT. I am protesting. And writing. And phoning…
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    March 8, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    My name is Carrie Reimer and I am from Vancouver BC in Canada and I will not keep silent about abuse, I will keep speaking out even if it makes some people uncomfortable because people need to be uncomfortable, uncomfortable enough to want to end it.
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    Barbara Hammond
    March 8, 2015 at 2:04 pm

    My name is Barbara Hammond and I will never be silent about domestic violence! I’ve lived it with and through my mother’s many husbands. I believe it is a cycle that begins with formerly abused fathers/mothers abusing children and the children grow up believing they deserve that treatment. NO ONE DOES! WE MUST STOP THE CYCLE!
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    Lisa thomson
    March 8, 2015 at 2:45 pm

    I’m Lisa Thomson from Vancouver, B.C. I have witnessed abuse my whole life. It’s ugly words don’t always leave bruises. The co-dependency makes it hard to stop. My mother has had a broken nose and a black eye from falling. Lies. All of it.

    Thank you Kim for helping me see my truth through Kay. We musn’t be silent!
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    March 8, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    My name is Mike and I wholeheartedly support this blog and the message it delivers with powerful force. No one is ever alone and should always immediately seek help.

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    March 8, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    My name is Monica and I’m from San Diego. One day I want to see a world where women are safe from such brutality and where no one will resort to fists, knives and guns to deal with conflict. Where it will be 100 percent unacceptable for anyone to lay a hand on anyone else and women will have equal rights everywhere in the world. Maybe not in my lifetime, but soon. It needs to happen soon. Not one more act of violence against women. Not ever again.
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    March 8, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Bravo to the Salvation Army.

    My name is Liz and I’m from Indianapolis. I will do whatever it takes to help stop the epidemic of crimes against women. Sharing your post!!!
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    Balroop Singh
    March 8, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    Name does not matter when the issue is domestic abuse. I may stand up for myself, I may walk out, I may report and prevent the abuser to harm me but it is very difficult to convince those women who stay with the illusion that things will improve, that the abuser will change, that he is the father of my children and they need him, that where will I go, that what will people say….the reasons are so genuine no doubt and they blind those women who continue to suffer, emboldening the abuser.
    Kim I have seen such women. I wish I could interfere in their lives, which they resisted and refused help, hoping, waiting and wasting their whole life.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 8, 2015 at 4:38 pm

      I asked for a name as a kind of covenant, promise.

      No need to give your name if you don’t want to.

      I am not telling trying to convince women to leave. This is totally up to them, as it was w/ my sister, whom was murdered by not leaving.

      What I am saying is TO BE THERE, to tell them they are not alone, to provide resources, to not tolerate any of it,


      that’s all.
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    March 8, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    I am standing up for the fight of domestic violence. If the laws are not changed in this country nothing will change. The victims are blamed by the law. They have to prove what the abuser did to they before the police or any law enforcement will do anything or believe the victim. The laws are to protect the abuser. Even with proof of rape the abuser just goes into rehab and comes out perfect and all the charges are dropped. They already know they will get away with it. Thats why the victims are forced into hiding. And this is whats best for the children how?

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    Valentine Logar
    March 8, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    My name is Valentine, I am a survivor of rape and abuse and I will stand up always and speak out always. I will walk with Kim (again this year I hope) and in my own forsaken state as well. I will continue to write, to give, to speak.

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    March 8, 2015 at 7:04 pm

    My name is Nikky. I live in Montreal. My own silence and the silence of most people around me has killed me 100 times. I spoke up. Now they’re trying to mute my voice. Thank you Kim for all that you do. Your efforts help me stay strong.
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    March 8, 2015 at 9:21 pm

    Agreed – this is the best ad I’ve seen in a long time.
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    Vidya Sury
    March 8, 2015 at 9:46 pm

    Vidya Sury, India
    My Mother remained silent, and survived only because she had the courage to leave. It helped that she was thrown out on the street with a 2-year old me, and it is a miracle we actually reached my Grandmother’s house in another city. My beginnings always keep me humble and a staunch supporter of women. There’s a special place in Hell for women who won’t help other women. I am writing my Mother’s story because she did not speak out and went through many other atrocities throughout her life.

    Keeping quiet is never the answer because the silence is forever.

    Thanks for such a wonderful message, Kim!
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    March 9, 2015 at 12:57 am

    My name is Mandy Frielinghaus from Sundays River, South Africa and I am a survivor of absue and will never ever stay silent – I will raise my voice loud and clear at every opportunity!
    Love, love, love to you my darling Kim.
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    March 9, 2015 at 2:38 am

    My name is Marie from Paris, France. I can’t stand domestic violence. Silence is a killer. It destroys women, kids and families.
    I know about the invisible buises. We have the power, by being there, by listening, by advicing women in danger to talk and get help.
    Thank you Kim for raising your voice again and again. We need Many Voices to say NO MORE.
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    Vanessa Hooper
    March 9, 2015 at 3:35 am

    Domestic violence is a huge social issue. Where I can I will support others and speak up about domestic violence, Due to my own recent history and by speaking out I have helped others learn about the insidious nature of domestic violence in all it’s forms. Keep the momentum going, systems need to change!

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    March 9, 2015 at 4:17 am

    My name is Narelle and I’m from Melbourne, Australia. Tomorrow, I’m running a workshop for lawyers who specialise in defending women and children who’ve suffered domestic violence. The funding for these lawyers around the country has been drastically cut by the Australian Government at the very time the government acknowledges the “domestic violence epidemic” and talks endlessly about the need to “do something about it”. Saying one thing. Doing another.

    Love flowing to you, Kimmy xx

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    Chris Carter
    March 9, 2015 at 6:58 am

    YES!!! I WILL STAND UP AND NOT STAY QUIET EVER, IN ANY WAY WHEN I SEE ANY ABUSE!! I absolutely love love love that Salvation Army took this to such a CRITICALLY significant level, with their message.

    My name is Chris Carter and I am from Ohio.
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    March 9, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    My name is Debbie and I’m from Illinois. I totally support the message in this blog and pray for those in abusive situations — that they’ll find the strength and courage to LEAVE before the unthinkable happens to them or to their children. No one should have to live in fear, especially someone in what’s supposed to be a loving, trusting relationship!
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    March 9, 2015 at 4:22 pm

    I know it’s hard to rise up and shout. It’s harder for some than others. Being silent is not
    the solution. YELL, SHOUT , SCREAM, THAT IS THE SOLUTION. It sure is better than
    being abused or being scared all the time.
    Love You

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    March 9, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    My name is Dana and I’m from Maryland. I will never stay silent in the face of any abuse, and I will teach my children to do the same.
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    March 9, 2015 at 8:06 pm

    My name is Jeri and I’m from Idaho. When I see abuse, (of any kind) I will RISE up and TELL and scream and be part of the solution. I will not stand silent as I have done in the past. I’ve not been abused physically, but have learned all sorts of things about my hubby in the past four months that amount to mental abuse. Silence helps nobody.
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    Renee Johnson
    March 10, 2015 at 3:32 am

    Kim, you have asked the question that keeps running through the fiber of most of the ads and news teasers I see today: WTF? Is it all a diversion to keep us from facing the sad truths? At least we can depend on each other to talk about the real values, issues, and conditions.
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    Charlene Ross
    March 10, 2015 at 10:43 am

    My name is Charlene and I am from los Angeles, CA. I will not stand silently if I ever see signs of domestic abuse. I will scream. LOUDLY.
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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    March 11, 2015 at 2:45 am

    I will DEFINIELY SCREAM OUT LOUD in the face of any abuse!
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    Hotly Spiced
    March 11, 2015 at 8:12 pm

    My name is Charlie and I am from Sydney. I thoroughly support the writings in this blog and agree there is no place for violence against women. I will not stay silent if I witness abuse xx
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    Lux Ganzon
    March 12, 2015 at 2:10 am

    I never joined the dress debate because I thought, our country (or world) has a lot more serious and relevant issues to tackle with and here’s the world debating about what color they see in a dress?

    I think that’s how powerful social media is. That’s how bored some people are?

    I appreciate the people who took advantage of the hullabaloo about the dress and campaigned against domestic abuse. I’m sure it’s more rampant than we’re aware of.

    Thanks to everyone who speaks out about it, and who supports the movement.

    My name is Lux Ganzon and I’m from the Philippines. And I will stand against domestic abuse and put a stop to it in as much as I can.
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    March 12, 2015 at 3:29 am

    what a great ad… It is so sad that we focus on the frivolous and not the important…
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    March 12, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    My name is Sandra and I’m from Saginaw, MI. I lost my first cousin to domestic violence. Everyone knew she was in the wrong relationship but no one came forward until it was too late. I will not be silenced!

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    Kristi Campbell
    March 13, 2015 at 2:05 pm

    Kim my sweets. I could have sworn that I’d commented on this post already but anyway. My name is Kristi and I live near DC. I will always speak up against abuse and will teach my son the same. I am a little shocked that the dress colors are what people focused on in this ad – I missed the whole debate thing but really? Sigh. Love to you and to your wisdom and for helping so many people know that it’s NOT OKAY to be treated abusively. Ever. xxoo
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    March 15, 2015 at 2:31 am

    My name is Lorraine and I’m from Sydney, Australia. I think that domestic violence is a very serious matter that we must take seriously. It affects more people than we will ever know and has repercussions for generations to come. xxx
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    Amy Tong
    March 18, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    I found myself trying to ignore reading/seeing those dress debate. Yes, boring and waste of time when there are many more important things we should spend more time and pay attention to! Thank you for your strong and powerful message! Always love reading your posts. 🙂
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    March 26, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Hi, I’m Lynne, as for me, domestic violence is something that we should not ignore, we should learn to speak up, stand tall and let the world know that this should not happen. Thanks so much for sharing. Great post !

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    March 26, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Hi, I’m Lynne, as for me, domestic violence is something that we should not ignore, we should learn to speak up, stand tall and let the world know that this should not happen. Thanks so much for sharing. Great post !

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    April 27, 2015 at 2:50 am

    In our country women who are victims of domestic violence, are. also encouraged to speak up. Know your rights!

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