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Where I Come From


—–This post was inspired by the legendary blogger,  Good Day Regular People


Cable Beach Casino,  Nassau, Bahamas

Cable Beach Casino, Nassau, Bahamas I worked w/ this cutie.


  • I come from Sicily, Sweden, Bahamas, Minnesota, & Cable Beach Casino…



…where I dealt black jack to movie stars and dirty old men who blew raspberry flavored smoke into my face at the old Playboy Club.


Where I fell into a twin sized bed with a Liverpudlian named David, & everybody knew…because he had hot pink lipstick smeared all over his freshly starched shirt the  following morning.


Where I drank Long Island Teas all night long with Lois Gosset Jr. and kissed him strait on the lips.


Where I once told Telly Savalas he was mean, and he just smiled, scratching the pine green table for another card.



  • I come from the womb of a sixteen year old high school drop out who adored and worshiped me before I inhaled my first breath.


She was a stay at home mother, a bread maker, a chocolate chip cookie baker, a hugger, a Tabu perfume wearer, and profound kisser of chubby cheeks.


She fixed her auburn hair in a French twist like Audrey Hepburn from Breakfast and Tiffney’s, wore dazzling red lipstick, and dangly gold earrings streamed down her long neck.


She was the “Glue God”  of our loud, crazy Italian family,  and also,  a living, Jesus loving Saint.



  • I come from books.



Life changing, waterlogged, shaded in yellow marker books.


Books that sat under my bunk bed like used up, wrinkled bibles.  Books with layers of metaphor and succulent vocabulary:   Jonathan Livingston Seagull.   Ariel.  100 Dresses.  The Sun Also Rises.  The Journals of Sylvia Plath.  Fear of Flying. The Old Man & The Sea.  I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.  The Metamorphosis.


One of my fave. books of all time!

One of my fave. books of all time!

Books, where the inky language, even now,  slides down my throat.



  • I come from domestic violence.



But I didn’t know until he stalked her, manipulated her, shot her three times in the back of the head.  I didn’t know until I got the call that the entire Duluth Police Department were surrounding her house like a swat team.


I didn’t know until I touched her face of porcelain at the hospital, stroked her freshly highlighted hair, & observed her eyelashes still wet with tears.


I didn’t know until the life I once knew ended.   Fucking ended.


I love & miss you,  K.

I love & miss you, K.

Just. Like.  That.



  • I come from love.



Unequivocal,  remarkable love.


Love that rains down so hard and so abundantly,  you can possible drown inside of it.


A kind of love where my voice was heard and validated and respected.   “What did you say,  Kim?  Start at the beginning.”


Because of this love,  my heart is beating this very moment.  That’s the whole truth.



~~~Darling,  Readers,   where do you come from?



—My favorite new song here.  I really LOVE this:  Make it Rain

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    Britton Swingler
    December 7, 2014 at 9:42 am

    Love…it’s miraculous, isn’t it. It doesn’t heal or make everything better, but it does make it possible to live a beautiful life outside of the darkness. Even when it doesn’t feel that way, loves comes along, it’s imprint so old and deep that we cannot reject it, and say, here, take me instead, and we do.
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      Britton Swingler
      December 7, 2014 at 9:43 am


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      My Inner Chick
      December 8, 2014 at 5:51 am

      “Live a life outside of darkness.”

      beautiful, Britton. xxx
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    Totally Caroline
    December 7, 2014 at 11:17 am

    This was beautiful. It made me love you even more. I didn’t know some of these things about you. It makes me picture you growing up and becoming the woman you are today. Where do I come from? Well, I guess I too come from love. I have two wonderful parents who adored me and sheltered me. But of course, nobody is free from the trials life throws at us. I am hoping I come from strength, because I need it to get me past this chapter of my life.
    Have a great weekend chicky.
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    December 7, 2014 at 11:46 am

    What a beautiful post this is, Kim.
    I wish you and your family a most wonderful Christmas. xo.

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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    December 7, 2014 at 11:52 am

    So beautifully written, Kim.
    Have a peaceful and fun holiday season!
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    Elephant's Child
    December 7, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    I LOVE where you come from, and love that you are using it to chart where you are going to. Which will also be filled with love. And books. And chocolate…
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    December 7, 2014 at 12:34 pm

    Tabu was my sister’s favorite scent, too! Funny how certain smells send us right back to a definite place and time. Your mother was a brave woman — most Italian mammas are (and I know that because I, too, have one). I was one of the lucky ones, to have two parents who cherished me; scrimped and saved so I could have a better (read: easier) life than they had; and taught me to love God from practically the beginning.

    Thank you, Kim, for sharing where you come from — helps me know and appreciate you that much more!
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      My Inner Chick
      December 8, 2014 at 5:54 am

      God is a HUGE part of our family. He is the reason my heart still beats. xx Love from MN.
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    December 7, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    Hi Kim,

    Darling blogger, I come the depths of despair to the heights of hope. Thanks for a thoughtful, loving post.


    Gary xxx 🙂
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    Carrie Rubin
    December 7, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    Beautiful (and heartbreaking) to read.
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    Jodi @ Heal Now and Forever
    December 7, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    I come from worry, dread, depression and disappointment. But I turned it around. xoxoxo
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    December 7, 2014 at 2:52 pm

    I come from war, trauma and abuse. I come from abandonment and loneliness. I’m heading to freedom and connection. I don’t know if I’ll get there, but at least I’m sure I can’t stay where I am. Love you Kim
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    wild Child Mama
    December 7, 2014 at 2:58 pm

    Your posts often bring tears to my eyes. This one is no exception. You could see the tears still on your sister, Kay’s, eyelashes. How I would long to go back only a few moments. What an impossible moment.
    I come from…oh Lord. Where to begin? Xoxoxo
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    December 7, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    One of the reasons why you are one of my favourite writers Kim. Sentences like this: “Books, where the inky language, even now, slides down my throat.” xxx
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    December 7, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    I love this Kim….this was a beautiful and soooo honest post. My heart just hurt when you said that Kay’s eyelashes were still wet with tears.
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    Chris Carter
    December 7, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    Ah… how I love to read exactly where you came from. Torturing and yet un-apologetically triumphant laced with abounding love and miraculous light.

    None of this withers. All of it purposefully on purpose.

    Beautiful. Breathtaking. Boundless.

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    December 7, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    First off…can you put in a good word for me with the girl at the Cable Beach Casino?! 🙂 From the first minute I “met” you there was never a doubt that you came from a place of incredible love, Kim! You spread that and sunshine on all of us everyday. For that I’m always thankful to you! Kissing Lou Gossett Jr (I first came across him in The Deep – own it) is awesome and well, Telly Savalas is just just badass! Huge fan of Jonathan Livingston Seagull – read that as a kid. Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s is still to this day one of the most beautiful women on screen – EVER. Btw…your pink lipstick…was it the glossy kind? I love that on women’s lips. Many hugs to you today and every day, my friend! 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      December 8, 2014 at 2:36 pm

      I asked Louis if he liked Richard Gere from Officer & A Gentleman and he said “NO! He gets all of the girls!”

      xxxx think of you often.
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    December 7, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    So beautiful, Kim. Really poignant, from the heart. Amazing.
    I’ll have to think about mine. 🙂
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    December 7, 2014 at 4:58 pm

    I appreciate how beautifully you reveal bits and pieces of yourself in each post. My mom wore Tabu, too….
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    Anna @ shenANNAgans
    December 7, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    Lovely post, Kim.
    Wishing you and yours a fantabulous and amazing Christmas.
    Hugs and love from Aus.
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    Balroop Singh
    December 7, 2014 at 6:47 pm

    This is so beautiful, Kim! Love your free, open spirit! The power of your words is mesmerising! Stay blessed.
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    Valentine Logar
    December 7, 2014 at 7:10 pm

    Funny how we both come from Cable Beach.

    I come from violence masked as love. I come from love though too. I come from strength. I come from victory.

    I am thankful you wrote this, I love you.

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    Joan Peterson
    December 7, 2014 at 7:27 pm

    Very beautiful writing. As always, I learned something new in this post about you and your family. And I can see the love when I see you with your Mom in particular. A loving family is a gift and your family has it.

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    December 7, 2014 at 7:38 pm

    I come from love and strength and power. I traversed abuse and heartbreak and indignity. I am triumphant and unapologetic and authentic.

    I love you, chica. Merriest of Christmases filled with love and chocolate and books.
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    December 7, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    wow, what a beautifully written piece. Am welling up. Am sorry that you have experienced so much sorrow and grief. Unimaginable pain.
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    December 7, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    Wow – powerful and moving.
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    lisa thomson-the great escape
    December 7, 2014 at 10:09 pm

    I LOVE the new song, Kim! You really told Telly Savalas he is mean? Haha. You’re such a beauty. Kay is such a beauty too and she resounds here and through you. Book, oh yes. I come from books too. xoxo
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      My Inner Chick
      December 9, 2014 at 3:44 pm

      Yes. But I didn’t tell the whole story.
      I told him, “You were SO mean in the Dirty Dozen!” haaaaaaaaaaaa xxx
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    December 7, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    I come from strong mothers and fathers, Germany, Norway, Maryland, Iowa, Missouri, New York, and various other Army-related places, to living with drunkards and druggies, pain, hurt, and abuse from people who was supposed to love me, to triumphing over that to live in a fairy-tale place of unconditional love and joy.

    I come from God who sent Jesus to be my redeemer and bless me with this wonderful life no matter the uglies that were in it because I did overcome, stronger.

    I come to a place where I meet strong women like you who inspire me to be a better person.
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      My Inner Chick
      December 9, 2014 at 3:45 pm

      OOO, Nan,
      Isn’t it amazing how we can RISE UP, Lift our VOICES, & somehow, Survive?!

      GOD LIVES. xxx
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    December 8, 2014 at 12:58 am

    Kim, what a magnificent piece of writing – powerful!
    Love you and all of your beautiful writing.
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    Lady E
    December 8, 2014 at 1:30 am

    Dear Kim,

    I come from a philosopher and a biochemist, in a Parisian suburb. From a country of ideals, protests and warm croissants.
    I come from a long line of people driven by curiosity, open-mindedness and low self-confidence.
    I come from a lifetime spent observing others, and wondering who I am…

    Thank you for your lovely, inspiring post, for the joy you spread so lavishly. What a nice way to start the week!
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    December 8, 2014 at 2:36 am

    Heartwarming piece Kim. I love your writting, love your words, love the way you make me shiver every single time I read you.
    I come from Love, lack of confidence, disguised pain and books too. I am walking towards light, peace and confidence. I am becoming my best friend.
    Love you. Love flying to you. xx
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      My Inner Chick
      December 9, 2014 at 3:48 pm

      Keep walking towards the LIGHT, Marie,
      Darkness can NEVER overcome it.

      Xxx LUV u.
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    December 8, 2014 at 6:06 am

    A gorgeous piece, Kim. Truly. And I was especially taken by this:

    A kind of love where my voice was heard and validated and respected. “What did you say, Kim? Start at the beginning.”

    How precious and unusual to have parents that want to really listen! That’s where you get your beautiful soul.

    xxxxxxluv luv luv xxxxx
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    December 8, 2014 at 6:31 am

    My dearest Kim, every bit of sweetness, pain, angst, anger, and sadness make up the whole of you. Every experience, good and bad, add to the nuances of your magnificent being. You are you. You are unique. You are brave, kind, and inspiring. We all want to be like you. I want to be like you. I want to love like you do. I want your passion, your perseverance, and your endurance. Because make no mistake, my friend, you have what it takes to keep going and make yourself and yours proud. You do this with your relentless love for Kay’s memory and for creating awareness to the horrible acts that make up domestic violence. You do this with the love you shower on your family and those you care for. You do this with the words you string together that offer your readers hope. I love where you come from! Hugs from Roxy and me!

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    December 8, 2014 at 7:18 am

    Oh Kim. Tears. Just beautiful.
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    December 8, 2014 at 7:48 am

    Beautifully written, as always. Where I come from seems like another planet. But, you gave me an idea for a future post. I’ll give you full credit!
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    Ellen M. Gregg
    December 8, 2014 at 11:59 am

    I love the sum of where you come from, Kim. It’s a rich tapestry of light and dark with some mysterious gray tones for punctuation. Beautiful.

    Where I come from:
    I come from bottomless oceans and reachless skies; lavender fields and moss-strewn trees; howling wind and pounding rain; nursery rhymes and celestial choirs; sunlit Summer days and moonlit Winter nights.
    I come from everything and I come from nothing.
    I come from all that is, and all that is comes from me.
    I come from love. xo

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    December 8, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    I love the way that you wrote about your mum Kim! A lot of people have preconceptions about young mothers but she clearly was an amazing, loving mum! 😀 And Louis Gosset Jr? I didn’t know that! 😛 xxx
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    December 8, 2014 at 1:51 pm

    You’ve seen and done lots! Your line about Telly is great, “he just smiled, scratching the pine green table for another card.” I can hear it! I can feel it!

    Always nourished by your posts, Kimmy. So unlike the umpteen “inspirational” slogans that flash past on Facebook with all their hope and false brightness.

    Thank you for sharing yourself. You are extraordinarily generous. xxx

    PS. I come from courage and fear.
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    Carolyn Hughes
    December 8, 2014 at 3:11 pm

    What a powerful post Kim. Your strength never ceases to amaze me. You are so special and so loved. xxx
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    Susan boswell
    December 8, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    I come from hateful words and unspoken secrets.

    I come from the residue of red clay dirt, particles gone airborne that cannot be wiped away. I come from a land of endless woods and a serpentine copper river and scraggly cotton patches that I hated, even as a little girl.

    I come from a Southern novel, extraordinary characters lifted from the pages of O’connor and Welty. They whisper secrets to me.. Accidentally, I became a writer.

    I come galloping on the back of horses. I come holding puppies and kittens.who lick my face and saddle up beside me, my best friends. I come with my path illuminated by a jar full of lightening bugs. I come as if by magic, with birds and butterflies serenading me like Cinderella.

    I come from love and grace, mouth wide open that it found me!
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      My Inner Chick
      December 9, 2014 at 7:13 pm

      stunning words.
      overflowing with poetry and beauty and deliciousness.
      thank you for sharing, darling. xxx
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    December 8, 2014 at 3:54 pm

    A good blog Kim, Saint Shirley was and is the glue. God is love. He loved us so much
    he sent his Son down to die for us. And now you are spreading your love because of the
    love you received from God and us.
    Love Love You

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      My Inner Chick
      December 9, 2014 at 7:13 pm

      Yes, daddy.
      Without GOD, I’d be nothing.
      I love you more than my own life. xx
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    December 8, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    Love this Kim! I too come from love. There wasn’t a day growing up that I didn’t feel unconditional love. That’s what’s up!
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    Kristi Campbell
    December 8, 2014 at 8:54 pm

    So beautiful. So fucking raw. And the raw makes it more beautiful. I come from a place of abandoned, birth mother and then adopted one. I come from a place of strength, and of love. I come from a place of doubt and anger and fear and not knowing whether my son will ever live alone. Holy crap, can I use this for a post? I love this. I adore you. Huge big hugs Kim.
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    December 8, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Knowing where we come from sheds so much light on where we are going. I came from craziness and have spent the better half of my life trying to figure my mother out when really she is who she is… goes for the husband too… I think I’m gonna jump on a plane to Jamaica for Christmas 😉
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    Hotly Spiced
    December 9, 2014 at 1:27 pm

    I love this Kim. And in those short words I learned so much about you. I didn’t know you had such a young mother! I can’t imagine being a mother at 16. Your mum did so well and these days you must be more like sisters because there’s not a big age difference xx
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    Susan Casey
    December 9, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    My beautiful talented friend…what a treat to read at the end of a long day…freezing rain outside, warm fire inside…and I got to read this:

    “Love that rains down so hard and so abundantly, you can possible drown inside of it”

    Thank you for making my day all that much sweeter. Love you. Love your words. Always love your generous spirit and grateful you are willing to share your wisdom, your heart with all of us.
    xoxox Susan
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    Charlene Ross
    December 9, 2014 at 6:18 pm

    I love this so much, Kim. I love this the most… “What did you say, Kim? Start at the beginning.”

    Oh, and I love you.

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful words.
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    December 9, 2014 at 7:00 pm

    Wow – your writing is so KIM. I love it – no one else has a voice like yours. I come from love and strength, books and hugs, some pain but more joy.
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    December 10, 2014 at 4:01 am

    you come from LOVE and you are LOVED!
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    julie gardner
    December 10, 2014 at 10:06 am

    This gave me goosebumps, from the first lines to the last.
    “Start at the beginning.”

    Then keep going.

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    December 10, 2014 at 12:32 pm

    Dear Kim, thank you for sharing your thoughts – I loved reading this post so much – it has been a long, long day and reading your post now is up-lifting in every sense of the word.
    I am in awe of your writing skills, your words, your poetry…there are so many things that I learned by reading this.
    Thank you for all that you are!
    Hugs and kisses,

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    Lady Jennie
    December 14, 2014 at 11:04 am


    You are full of loveliness, and I can see that your mama is too. You’re full of vivid, full-color LIFE!
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    beth teliho
    December 15, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    I love every, beautiful word of this. Is it possible that I love you even more now? I guess it is. cuz I do. xoxoxo
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    Alice @ Hip Foodie Mom
    December 19, 2014 at 8:05 am

    your posts are always so meaningful and real and powerful. thank you for sharing . .. I come from two immigrant parents. . who came to the states not knowing how to speak English but worked their butts off to provide for their kids. They taught me to never take anything for granted, to love and to work hard. I am appreciative of everything I have. So glad to have connected with you over the interwebs. . let’s stay connected, Kim. Wishing you a wonderful holiday season. Hope it’s peaceful and glorious!!
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      My Inner Chick
      December 19, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      Beautiful, Alice.
      Wishing you love, relaxation, and EVERYTHING over the holidays & always. xx
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    Alexandra Rosas
    January 4, 2015 at 10:49 pm

    You have made life beautiful. With the ugliness of the lens it could be seen with, you have painted it with your words instead and made it beautiful. I loved this!

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    January 12, 2015 at 4:42 pm

    Beautifully done, so very powerful.
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    Sandy Ramsey
    January 13, 2015 at 6:53 pm

    Kim, you are one of the reasons I couldn’t stay away. I missed being part of something so profound as the strength and power of your words and your undying devotion to Kay. You are such a warrior and I loved reading all of these incredible things about you.
    Your mother sounds incredible. The apple didn’t fall far.
    Much love and so happy to be here reading your words again.
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    Rita @ The Crafty Expat
    March 8, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    What a great post Kim. I’m just getting around reading it today… I love, love how you describe your mother!
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