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22 Things I Totally Believe


…I am moved by what I believe. What I do believe is greater, stronger, and mightier than what I have my eyes on. Deep in my heart, I do believe , I shall overcome.—Israelmore Avivor

1. I believe the power of light is greater than the darkness dark.


2. I believe animals were placed on earth to teach & educate human beings. (so, treat them with respect, assholes people.)


3. I believe our pain becomes our purpose. Don’t waste a minute of it.


4. I believe poetry flows into veins and minds and souls like small gods.


5. I believe living can be much more complex than dying.


6. I believe lemon-yellow tulips were invented for me.


7. I believe a simple black dress with bitch-red heels is sexier than nakedness.


8. I believe in resurrection, green, aqua skies, & mandarin poppies dancing like salsa dancers.


9. I believe the weight of words and great books transform communities, nations, and lives.


10. I believe in saying “I love you” as often as possible.


11. I believe when one mourns and grieves, even the liver and lungs cry out in agony.


12. I believe in God. I mean, He is the reason I’m still here, Darlings.


13. I believe in kissing hard and long and passionately…and then remembering that kiss throughout the day and dreaming about it at night.


14. I believe the definition of abuse is when another person makes you feel small. It’s that simple. If you cause another person to feel small & degraded, you are an abuser. And that’s that. Don’t argue with me.


15. I believe there are NO accidents or coincidences. Everything that occurs makes us grow. Every person we encounter (good or bad) causes us to rise up.


16. I believe in the midst of hopelessness, there is hope. For example, my sister’s lungs saved Ed from Michigan. We love you, Ed.


17. I believe that loving a cat is better than loving anti-depressants.


18. I believe God invented girlfriends because He understood that men had absolutely no inkling what the hell we were talking about.


19. I believe that heaven consists of shades of blue, glittering greens, golden yellows, remarkable authors, flowing chocolate, beautiful poetry, black panthers, white tigers, our dead pets, family, and sisters.


20. I believe writing words saved me from absolute & utter psychosis.


21. I believe I can awaken each morning/mourning because my family made it possible.


22. I believe there are no endings, only beginnings. This makes me happy.


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  • Reply
    Deb Reilly
    April 19, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    That was beautiful, Kim. You just gave me some hope that my life is starting a new chapter, not the end! I love you.

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    Ellen M. Gregg
    April 19, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    I believe that there exists in every one of us a light of love which, when accessed, is capable of feats that surpass the miracle of human life, and transcend death.

    Happy Easter to you, beautiful Kim. Love. xoxo

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    Joe Peterson
    April 19, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    Kim, I truly LOVE this list! And like YOU, I wanna say this as much as possible… I LOVE YOU ❤️

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    Liz Mays
    April 19, 2014 at 2:38 pm

    You totally stirred my heart with this. You have a way with words and your raw honesty cuts with as much tenderness as pain.
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    April 19, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    I believe every day is a new beginning, and we are here to make something wonderful happen every single day.
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    April 19, 2014 at 3:03 pm

    I believe in YOU.
    I believe in soul mates, true love and that passion in marriage can last a lifetime.
    I believe sons were put on earth to prove to mothers that no matter how well you train them, some traits seep through that make you wanna smack them (smile).
    I believe Alpha Hubby was made, just for me.
    I believe in Jesus and the redemptive power of unconditional love.
    I believe in big fat bumblebees.
    I believe in peonies, hollyhocks and snapdragons.
    I believe a hug from Alpha Hubby can cure anything.
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    Chris Carter
    April 19, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    I believe that when the soul is crushed… the pieces put back together are even more beautiful than they were before.

    And I believe that your purpose and your place in this world is to hold light and illuminate everything and everyone around you…especially in the darkest darkness.
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      My Inner Chick
      April 22, 2014 at 4:36 am

      When I think of the soul being CRUSHED, I think of Kay…..

      It was too late for her to put the pieces back together again.

      God Knew This.

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    Alison at Diamond-Cut Life
    April 19, 2014 at 4:53 pm

    I believe in God too. And I am sure She loves this list like I do.
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    April 19, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    “I believe that loving a cat is better than loving anti-depressants” … you are beautiful, Kim. I believe things that are supposedly impossible happen all around us, and frequently! xx
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    lisa thomson-The Great Escape...
    April 19, 2014 at 5:08 pm

    I believe in LOVE. I believe in you, Kim!
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    April 19, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    I believe in God and that he is always watching and I believe we are eternal…….had a very rough week and have to believe this…..
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    April 19, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    Hi human, Kim,

    I believe that your powerful verbalisation is a pawsitive tonic for you, my dear human friend. I believe in that wondrous day when religion and it’s labels are a thing of the past.

    A peaceful, pawsitive Easter to you and your loved ones, my lovely human friend.

    Pawsitive wishes and doggy kisses,

    Penny 🙂 x
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    April 19, 2014 at 6:02 pm

    What beautiful and inspiring words. We should all live by them!

    I believe that we all have a purpose in this life of ours. Our goal is to find out what that purpose is and carry it out. I believe that in every bad situation, a silver lining exists, if only we look hard enough. I believe that it was no accident that I stumbled upon your blog a few years ago. I was meant to read about your sister. It helped me so much dealing with my own sister’s similar situation. Thankfully, she able to remove herself and my nephew from that environment.
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    Manal The Go Go Girl
    April 19, 2014 at 6:08 pm


    I believe that everything in life, good or bad, happens for a good reason. Although it hurts, we just have to be patient and let Him do his work.
    I believe that you’re an AWESOME human being to share all your feelings with us. You are helping so many people out there.
    Happy Easter! Kay is celebrating with you from Heaven and I bet she’s so proud of you 🙂
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    Elephant's Child
    April 19, 2014 at 7:53 pm

    I believe in you. So very much.
    And in persistence.
    And in the wonders of the natural world.
    And in kindness.
    And in love.
    I would like NOT to believe in abuse, but honesty is another of the things I believe in. Abuse happens, but we are stronger.
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    Vidya Sury
    April 19, 2014 at 11:29 pm

    I believe that love conquers all.
    I believe everyone deserves kindness.
    I believe in you.
    I believe in each of the 22 things you listed.
    I love you more than a field of lemon-yellow tulips!

    Hugs. ♥

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      My Inner Chick
      April 22, 2014 at 4:44 am

      I believe I was meant to meet you all the way to India because you are a prayer in the universe.

      Love you more than 5 gold kittens playing in the sandbox. xxx
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    April 19, 2014 at 11:35 pm

    I believe in the beauty of your words. So real and gut-wrenching honest. Of course the writer in me immediately gravitated to this one:

    I believe writing words saved me from absolute & utter psychosis.

    Absolutely amazing, Kim. Hugs!
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    Goodness and Grit
    April 19, 2014 at 11:43 pm

    I like that you have claimed yellow tulips for yourself. That leaves honeysuckles and lemon blossoms still up for grabs! I believe we are all on a journey of purpose.
    Happy Easter Kim!

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    April 20, 2014 at 4:17 am

    I believe that one simple nice word from someone I love can save my life,

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    April 20, 2014 at 4:26 am

    I believe that one simple nice word from someone I love can save my life.
    I believe that love can do miracles and cure my broken heart.
    I believe that friends don’t criticize me to hurt me or make me cry, but true friends do it to help me.
    I believe I love you 🙂
    Happy Easter <3

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    Deborah Batterman
    April 20, 2014 at 8:43 am

    A wonderful list, Kim, filled with reminders of what it means to live a deep, rich, meaningful life. The list itself speaks loudly and clearly to the very power of words.
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    April 20, 2014 at 10:25 am

    Thank you Kim. Wonderful words to read today!

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    Elisabeth Kinsey
    April 20, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Can I be your best friend? I am giving you a cyber hug. Everything you wrote I believe. I laughed and I cried. I am a crazy animal lover. Their souls are so obvious. How can anyone not share in their respect? Wonderful post. Thank you!

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    April 20, 2014 at 2:03 pm

    I believe sooo many of your beliefs, dear Kim. Thank you for laying them out and expressing them so eloquently. I, too, believe we’ll see our dead pets in Heaven; however, I believe we’ll also see colors and hear music the likes of which we cannot even imagine here on earth!
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    April 20, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    I love that Ed is breathing with your sister’s beautiful lungs. And those mandarin poppies? They’re dancing all over Sicily’s fields, and they’re making me happy. Such a fine list, Kim. Happy Easter! xxxxxooooooo

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    April 20, 2014 at 2:59 pm

    I believe that you are wonderful!!!
    I hope you had a beautiful Easter, sweet friend. xo.
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    April 20, 2014 at 6:05 pm

    What a marvelous list…so many resonate deeply! I believe that a sweet treat at the end of the day is capable of lifting your spirits. No reason to deprive yourself. I’m saving a slice of cake for you! xoxo
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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    April 20, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    This is beautiful, and you are beautiful, Kim. I just had to smile when I was reading No. 17.
    Have a wonderful and peaceful day!
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    April 20, 2014 at 8:21 pm

    I believe that kindness comes first. Always. Xx
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    April 20, 2014 at 8:52 pm

    Great list and it brought a smile to my face. I too definitely feel yellow tulips were invented just for me 🙂 I have great fur-children by the way and also believe animals can also teach us so much about ourselves.
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    April 20, 2014 at 10:14 pm

    So beautifully written! And number 14 really is a lesson to remember throughout life.
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    Choc Chip Uru
    April 21, 2014 at 2:26 am

    I believe that people are always given a second change to become something they want to be, and to bring themselves back from the darkness they sometimes find themselves in.

    Lovely post!


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    Hotly Spiced
    April 21, 2014 at 2:47 am

    So many beautiful things here. I agree with you that God put the animals here on this Earth for us to learn something from them. And they totally need to be treated with loving care and a lot of respect! I also believe in God and as much as I need him every day, when times are tough, there’s no one better to turn to. Great post, Kim xx
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    April 21, 2014 at 4:13 am

    I completely believe and agree with your #15
    I also believe that you are an amazing woman
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    April 21, 2014 at 5:39 am

    I love all of these, Kim. And I’m going to write my own post, if that’s okay. xoxo
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    Katie @ Pick Any Two
    April 21, 2014 at 7:06 am

    “Our pain becomes our purpose.” So very, very true!!!

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    April 21, 2014 at 8:24 am

    What an amazing list – I love it.

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    Ms. CrankyPants
    April 21, 2014 at 12:01 pm

    #17 – amen!

    Not sure what it means that by getting a THIRD cat, we had to put one of the first two on Prozac…I’m almost 62% sure that deeeeeeep down, Squeaky-the-Prozac Cat loves her new-ish little sister.
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    April 21, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    What a great list Kim.
    1. I believe in you Kim, your love & honesty.
    2. I believe in hope.
    3. I believe in true friends.
    4. I believe in family.
    5. I believe in the unconditional love of pets.
    6 I believe in the trinity, Father Son and The Holy Spirit.
    7.Most of all I believe in the resurrection of Jesus Christ who gives us hope for eternal life.

    Love You

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    Carrie Rubin
    April 21, 2014 at 2:24 pm

    I believe in the Golden Rule. It’s so simple, and yet sadly, too few people follow it, especially online where the vitriol flies more freely than the electricity that currents it.

    Lovely post.

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    Dawn in MI
    April 21, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    I believe that out of pain and grief change and education can happen and that goodness makes it all survivable.

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    April 22, 2014 at 1:35 am

    Hi Kim, beautiful words and heartfelt sentiments as always. There’s no doubt in my mind that those who choose to live and love in the face of adversity are so deserving of the best of what’s out there.

    May your strength continue to bring you much happiness in life!
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    April 22, 2014 at 5:38 am

    I believe in the power of your words Kim
    I believe in LOVE
    I belive in God
    I believe in survival
    I belive in the grace of a sunset
    I believe God has great plans for all of us
    I believe Kay is VERY proud of you
    I believe in family
    I believe that friends are golden stars
    I believe that peace can be acheived if we start treating each other as members of the same, big and great family
    I believe in the power of PRAYER
    I believe in the day we will all meet up again, for good…

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    Balroop Singh
    April 22, 2014 at 11:45 am

    I believe each true and honest confession comes from the goodness of our heart.

    I believe in love that is selfless.

    I believe life would have been meaningless without pain and suffering.

    I believe God is visible.

    I believe goodness can change this world.

    I believe mother Nature can teach us more than people and qualified teachers.

    I believe your definition of an abuser is most apt and the best of all.

    I believe persons like you can conquer all.

    I can connect with your strength and resilience so well! May God bless you.
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    Suzanne Lucas
    April 22, 2014 at 5:35 pm

    I believe that there are beautiful people in this world and those people make this world go round.

    I believe that we are here to make someone’s life better.

    I believe that everyone has a North Star and if they follow it, it will make them happier than they ever thought possible.

    And I believe in those 22 things you mentioned.
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    Jodi @ Heal Now and Forever
    April 23, 2014 at 6:45 am

    YOU are my favorite beginning! There is nothing to agrue with, you shine!

    LOVE! xoxo
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    April 23, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Number 5 punched me in the gut. That couldn’t be truer than true.
    I believe in the people I love to hold me when I can’t stand…when life is far more difficult than dying and when dying is far more attractive than living.

    You my dear, you have helped me more than you know.
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      My Inner Chick
      April 23, 2014 at 12:55 pm

      ——- your VOICE resonates deeply into my heart.
      Will you write a list like this? I’d love to read it. xxxxxxxx
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    April 23, 2014 at 4:07 pm

    I believe that being of service in even the tiniest way is one of the greatest things we can do. No only for others, but for ourselves.

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    April 24, 2014 at 2:25 am

    I believe in you and your power to inspire, and use the pain of your experience to change the world to a better place. I have posted about you and your walk on my Blog, and I hope it helps you in your wonderful work.
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    April 24, 2014 at 11:29 am

    I believe sunshine warms the soul.
    I believe that forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not the person who wronged you.
    And I believe that you are an amazing woman whose passion and positive energy is contagious.
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    Rita @ The Crafty Expat
    April 27, 2014 at 12:26 am

    Love your post Kim, love your words, love you and everything you write about. I totally believe in the power of words. And, this picture… I have goose bumps all over my body…
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    April 30, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Love this list. I believe that you should treat yourself exceptionally well and never sell out because in the end, it’s you and you alone.
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    May 2, 2014 at 5:01 am

    I found out about your blog at Chris’ post today and I dropped by to say that I admire your strength, your faith, and now your writing.
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    Susan Casey
    May 2, 2014 at 10:30 am

    I believe in all 22 of your beliefs

    I believe we must mine for the joy in the deep river of grief

    I believe your writing is helping all of us to do this…one. word. at. a. time.

    Thank you for being a “light that is greater than the darkness dark.”

    Love and gratitude to you…xo

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    May 3, 2014 at 9:36 am

    #3, #7, certainly #12. And oh my gosh, #16 gave me chills. Your entire list gives me Goosebumps, as do you my dear. It’s been too long, and I’m sorry. But it’s great to see your light still shining through your words, through you. Oh, and congrats on the memorial for Kay. How cool! Love, Tara
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    May 7, 2014 at 7:52 pm

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful list.

    I believe that in the end…the love you give and are given is all you take with you.

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    May 15, 2014 at 9:52 am

    Love this. SO so so very much. This in particular: “I believe poetry flows into veins and minds and souls like small gods.”

    You have such a beautiful way with words, Inner Chick. All of this is poetry to me, and it inspires me to want to take my writing even further. Thank you for this. XOXO
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    Valentine Logar
    May 15, 2014 at 1:41 pm

    #18 is the absolute truth.
    So are the rest of them, but #18 is the absolute truth.

    I believe the cracks in our heart can either seal out the dark or let in the light, which ever we need and whenever we need it.

    I believe we can fall all the way into love without ever see a person face to face. I loved you long before I met you.

    I believe dancing cures many hurts.
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