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Barbie, Miley, Malala, & Believing In Your Authentic Self


***For once, you believed in yourself… you believed you were beautiful and so did the rest of the world.***   —Sarah Dessen

—Dedicated to all of my girls who are
E   N   O   U   G    H…

 

Just.   The.   Way.   They.   Are.

 

Barbie: Hey Little Girl, thanks for buying me.

 

 

Little
Girl:
Mommy did.
Is Barbie your real name?

 

 

Barbie: What did you expect, Miley Effing Cyrus ?

 

Little
Girl:
You’re really pretty.  Am I going to look like you when I grow up?

 

 

Barbie: Sure, Little Girl. All you need to do is
insert plastic stuffing, expensive creams,  and
Botox into those cute little cheeks.

 

 

Little
Girl:

You have nice boobies, Barbie.

 

 

Barbie: Well, I should, Little Girl.  I paid big bucks for ‘um.  You see, people are more interested in your
boobies than your intelligence.

 

 

Little
Girl:
Can I get some, too?

 

Barbie: Sure you can.  But at least wait until you’re fifteen.  Boys like that.  At least,
that’s  what Cosmo says.

 

 

Little
Girl:
Can I be skinny like you,  Barbie?

 

 

 

Barbie: Yes,
Little Girl.   Eat lots of
chocolate laxatives, plenty of green shit, and stick your chubby fingers down
your throat.

 

 

Little Girl:  Do you still date Ken,  Barbie?

 

 

Barbie–Oh, nooooo,  Little
Girl.  I’m way too old for him now.  He traded me in for one of those
new Bratz dolls.

 

Little Girl:  How come you don’t have no hair down
there,  Barbie?

 

Barbie: Weeeeeell,  apparently,
your mommy can’t afford a simple Brazilian Wax.

 

Little Girl: I don’t want to play with you anymore,
Barbie.  You’re boring boring boring.  Nothing like I thought
you’d be.  I think I’ll pull your stupid
head off.

 

Barbie:  NOOoooo.  What shall I do?  Where shall  I go?

 

Little
Girl:
Frankly,  Barbie,
I don’t give a damn.

 

 

—Darling,  Reader,
Who is your idea of a   ”” REAL
role model
””  for women today?  Who are some of your greatest influences?  Do you love yourself just as you are?

–My Newest Hero. An authentic  ROLE Model HERE She Is. Watch & be Amazed. I LOVE!!

xxXx   I Love MEEeeeeee Just The Way I Am!!!


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  • Reply
    Liz
    October 11, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    You are a role model Kim.
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    Tara
    October 11, 2013 at 2:51 pm

    My role models are the women in my family, specifically the Italian immigrants who came straight off the boat. More specifically, my Aunt Domenica, who loved her husband enough to bring him back from cancer even when the doctors said he wouldn’t last another month. Would you believe it if I said he was alive and kicking (and joking around) to this very day…five years later?

    My other role model is my Aunt Domenica, whose house always smelled of Italian Wedding Soup and warm, home-baked bread. If I could buy it in a Glade scented-oil, I would. Her house was illuminated with life and love, because she put her heart and soul into it and her family.

    These women are a dying breed. They are the epitome of feminine beauty and love and nurturing and softness with society seems to be starved for nowadays. It pains me to see the media young girls are presented with, all of which seems to insist they demean their inner beauty by revealing all and everything to a world that frankly doesn’t deserve it.

    The secret to female beauty is in their mystery, plain and simple.

    I will pray for Mylie Cyrus…and all of today’s young girls. May they find the power (and love) within themselves capable of bringing an old man back from cancer into life again

    Love you, Kim.

    Tara
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    Jen
    October 11, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    I raised two daughters and it used to drive me crazy when I’d see some of their peers doing “the dumb but i have boobs or a nice butt” thing to garner attention or worse.

    Stupid is not attractive no matter what package it’s wrapped in, IT’S JUST STUPID. and that’s what I drummed that into my girls heads.

    With some in our society telling our kids that all you need is to stick your tits in the right face or act especially outrageously to make millions, frankly my friend I don’t know what this world is coming to .

    If Miley was my daughter…….. well lets just say she wouldn’t be my daughter.
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    debbie
    October 11, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    My grandmother who came here from Italy with my grandfather not knowing a soul, The days before cell phones and texting and emails. She never knew when or if she would see her family again. That is real strength and courage.
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    October 11, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    This was SO good – SO SO SO SO good. And, unfortunately, so true. I read an interview where Miley said she was young enough to explore her sexuality (also because older people, you know, those over 40, don’t have much sex so she didn’t want to wait). I am a bit surprised Matt Lauer didn’t call her on that lie because that is not what she is exploring. She is exploring herself: a young woman who gave her virginity to the wrong person, who is so insecure that she is exploring her 100 percent trashy side thinking she’s making a statement to the ex that she’s too sexy for him to have dumped. All she does is reinforce that he was right for walking away. She has no clue who she is.

    We must stop allowing the wrong influences to tell us who we should be. My mom is/was my role model. She worked in careers that were not really open to women in the 1940’s forward, always remained a lady, never took crap off anyone, loved my dad passionately and boldly and put him first until the day they died. They had an amazing love affair and I’m still finding love notes and romantic cards when I go through all their paperwork. She hated titles, refused to call herself a feminist because she felt the word did not have a good connotation and certainly did not define her. She was a woman. Period. She didn’t fight her way into the careers she accomplished (like training young men pilot fighters in the fundamentals of flying [and she owned her own Piper Cub airplane]). She simply was the best at what she did to the point they’d be stupid not to hire her.

    She just LIVED her life to the fullest.
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    Lisa thomson
    October 11, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    OMG! Love this Kim! That young lady is amazing! As for Barbie? My daughter did not like her. She cut off all her hair one night. She never played wigh her or dolls. I still skip the pink aisle when shopping for her whether it’s food, clothing, cards, Anything! She is at 21 very active in spreading the message for girls’ rights. Freakin plastic Barbie !

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    Lisa thomson
    October 11, 2013 at 3:34 pm

    OMG! Love this Kim! That young lady is amazing! As for Barbie? My daughter did not like her. She cut off all her hair one night. She never played wigh her or dolls. I still skip the pink aisle when shopping for her whether it’s food, clothing, cards, Anything! She is at 21 very active in spreading the message for girls’ rights. Freakin plastic Barbie !don’t get me started on MC

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    Mike
    October 11, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Another incredible post, Kim!! My biggest female role model all of my life would be my aunt. She has essentially been my mother my entire life. She wanted with all of her love and heart to get me out of really bad home environment when I was a kid but it was out of her hands at that time. I eventually moved in with her and my uncle when I was 18. She is a two time cancer survivor and put herself through college working four jobs. She built up one of the biggest CPA firms on the West Coast and now travels around the world. She leads a very NON materialistic life in a small apartment. When she’s not traveling she works full time (as a volunteer for free) in the animal shelter cleaning up the pens and walking the dogs every day. She is my love, inspiration, motivation and heart and soul 🙂
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    Terri Sonoda
    October 11, 2013 at 3:42 pm

    LOVE you Kim. You say like it is. Can’t get more real than that. Also, just bought my Kindle copy of “I am Malala” and looking forward to the read. I saw her interview on tv and it brought tears. What an amazing young lady.

    XOXOs
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    Elephant's Child
    October 11, 2013 at 4:07 pm

    Oh yes, she is one of my heroes. As are you.
    All of the people who do what is right – not for themselves, but for others. Regardless of the personal cost. Some of my heroes do big things, and many of them work on a much smaller scale. Making one life at a time better.
    Celebrities? Nah.
    Athletes? Nah again. Not that they can’t be heroes, but I am not impressed with fame built on money or looks.
    Love myself? Another nah – a work in progress.
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    Debi
    October 11, 2013 at 4:31 pm

    Malala and Miley. Two young girls who have been used and fucked by stupid men. Two completely different reactions and outcomes. So, so interesting. When I look at both of their photos that you posted, Malala is the beautiful one. You see the beauty in her eyes. Miley is a reflection of the men that have used her. So sad.

    I love your Barbie convo! 🙂
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    Yvonne
    October 11, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    I have several role models in my life. Learning to love myself is a work in progress -for me. Great write!
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    Valentine Logar
    October 11, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    No, I don’t love myself just the way I am. I am flawed. I am imperfect. I am a work in progress. I often find myself comparing myself to others and finding fault, I know this is wrong on more levels than I can count.

    Who are my heroes? I have so many, the women I speak with in Victim Impact who have recovered from terrible brutality and stand up and speak out against domestic violence in prisons. The women who paved the way in business so I could follow. Women who walked in ice and rain, braving brutal beating and social ostracism to gain the vote and civil rights, so I can vote and I have a voice. Women who braved societies wrath, so I could control my womb. Women who write beautiful and brave words. Women who paint demanding art. Women who I watched dance across stages, moving their bodies as if gravity did not exist.

    I have so many. So I will leave you with this, you my friend you my Kim are one of my heroes.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkYh2BYONms

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    Vidya Sury
    October 11, 2013 at 9:50 pm

    You just never cease to amaze me, Kim! Love you! What an excellent lesson in being one’s authentic self!

    Hugs!
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    Phil
    October 11, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    Kim,

    What a wonderful way to impart an important life lesson. Focus on inner beauty (the soul), for outer beauty of flesh and body is fleeting at best and surrenders to the ravages of time no matter the person.

    This place of yours is a thing of beauty too – lots of inner beauty.

    Phil
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    Hotly Spiced
    October 11, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    This is so true. I wish the media would focus more on inspiring role models and people who are out there who are actually doing the world a good turn rather than the trash we see coming from certain celebrities whose parents and mentors and agents and producers and choreographers and stylists should all be ashamed at the appalling work they’ve done xx
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    solidgoldcreativity
    October 12, 2013 at 1:59 am

    Killer post, Kim. You and your readers are my my role model. In what? In LOVE and power and generosity! xx
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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    October 12, 2013 at 3:26 am

    When can gals learn and stop wanting to be someone else except being herself? Well, I still want a pair of LONG legs….:-(
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    Tia
    October 12, 2013 at 6:12 am

    That Rocked! Love You!

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    Alison at Diamond-Cut Life
    October 12, 2013 at 7:10 am

    Thanks for asking. Yes, I do love myself the way I am. But then, I’m still able to climb mountains, and to write anything I want on my blog with careless flicks of my fingers, thanks be to the Goddess. I watched Parkinsons disease slowly take every pleasure in the world away from my mother. The quiet grace with which she endured that still breaks my heart. But then, my heart became bigger through being cracked open.

    Incidentally, my mother never bought me any Barbie dolls. Yet another indication of her greatness 🙂

    Thanks for a good post, Kim. You excel at sending us into the raw places where we are the most fully alive.
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    Pamela
    October 12, 2013 at 7:58 am

    Love.

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    dad
    October 12, 2013 at 8:22 am

    Great Post Kim
    Love You
    Dad

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    Kathy
    October 12, 2013 at 8:38 am

    Goodness, Kim this is fucking brilliant! Dare I say “fuck?”

    Oh, well, I love posts about Barbie. They are so iconic and so dangerous, all at once. I played with them. I still have mine, even–moved them all the way to South America with me–hoping to write more about them. I did so once about a year ago.

    But, goodness, isn’t Malala a more appropriate role model for little girls!?

    Hugs from Ecuador,
    Kathy
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    Kathy
    October 12, 2013 at 8:43 am

    Had to Facebook and tweet this one!
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    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    October 12, 2013 at 8:49 am

    Physical beauty might get someone notice but if there’s nothing of substance beneath it, who cares? I’ve never looked up to anyone because they’re beautiful. It’s the spirit of the person that matters.

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    Debbie
    October 12, 2013 at 11:11 am

    Great thoughts, Kim! Sadly, young people today are so influenced by media perceptions of what is “perfect,” when each of them bears the seed of perfection. I look at their flawless skin and wonder why they feel the need to cover it up with makeup.
    Perhaps we all need the wisdom of years to swap those external goals for inner beauty. And inner strength, the kind that comes with having survived pain, hardships, suffering.
    Thank you for pointing this out in your forthright, honest way!
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    Hilary
    October 12, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    Honestly – you are… I so admire you…
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    Marie Ann Bailey
    October 12, 2013 at 2:35 pm

    What a great post! I saw Malala on The Daily Show the other night. Both my husband and I were so moved by her! I hope Miley can someday get over herself enough to learn from young women like Malala.
    It’s taking me a long time to learn to like myself and accept myself as I am. After reading this post, I suppose part of the problem was all the Barbie dolls I had when I was growing up (I also had Skipper, Midge, Ken, and Alan). I was precocious enough to know that the dolls (at least Barbie) were not anatomically correct and that my little girl dreams of “living” like her were beyond impossible. But my attraction to the dolls had more to do with my desire to leave an unhappy home environment than a belief that I could have a Barbie doll future.
    And now I feel too old for role models; I’m just trying to accept me as I am, flawed but happy. Still, young women like Malala give me hope for the future. And that is all I ask for.
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    Gary
    October 12, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    Greetings Kim,

    “Come on barbie, let’s go party!

    I’m a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world
    Life in plastic, it’s fantastic!
    You can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
    Imagination, life is your creation

    I’m a blond bimbo girl, in the fantasy world
    Dress me up, make it tight, I’m your dolly…”

    Ahem and moving swiftly on 🙂 A real roll model? My baker makes models of real rolls. Sorry, ignore that.. What is my idea of a real role model? Somebody who is not afraid to show who they really are. Somebody who understands that mistakes do not define us, what we learn from our mistakes, defines us.

    Malala is the face of pure reality through the face of adversity. Be well and together, with hope, we cope.

    Hugs to you and all your adoring friends,

    Gary 🙂 x
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    injaynesworld
    October 12, 2013 at 5:16 pm

    Malala on the Daily Show was an amazing thing to see. As for role models, let me just say I’m so glad I never had children. What a scary world these days.

    Your Barbie piece is very clever and inventive. Yet another reason to forgo Barbie and get your kid the Breyer horse collection.
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    Jann
    October 13, 2013 at 12:12 am

    Super super SUPER duper post, Kim!!!! To read through all that and then see Malala at the end was powerful, indeed. xxxxxx
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    Alison
    October 13, 2013 at 12:31 am

    Malala is truly amazing and inspirational. xo
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    October 13, 2013 at 2:06 am

    There’s a lot of wisdom in this post Kim! And Malala for a role model any day! 😀 xxx P.S. What did you think of the ending of Breaking Bad?
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    Mandy - The Complete Book
    October 13, 2013 at 4:19 am

    What an incredible young girl Malala is! 16!!! WOW, WOW, WOW!!!
    Thank you for putting in the link to her interview Kim – WOW!!!
    You dear Kim, continue to remind me to be happy and to love unconditionally – you are AWESOME!!!
    Love you and sending you a bug hug and a kiss!
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    Kimberly
    October 13, 2013 at 6:55 am

    It is such a shame that the media chooses to sensationalize sexy instead of senses. That is what’s important in life. Being you and not being someone that society want’s you to be…what is “beauty”…That girl was on a political satire show (I cannot remember his name…it was on that channel when I turned on the tv) and she nailed it with humor and grace and such strength. She is a role model.
    xoxo
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    Ellen M. Gregg
    October 13, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    Oh, how I love the outcome of the conversation! 😀

    A public role model for women, in general: Meryl Streep. She found her life calling early on, and continues to honor it to the very best of her ability, to our good fortune. She’s a real woman, with a real life, and she manages to keep her private life private in spite of her very public vocation. She also does good and important work, and chooses to keep it on the down-low. She doesn’t appear to have the need for validation.

    A personal role model: My mother. She’s strong; way stronger than she gives herself credit for. She has her human frailties, as we all do, and sometimes she exposes them to the air, while other times she keeps them hidden from view. She’s real. She’s imperfect. She doesn’t pretend to be who she isn’t.

    Malala is a force of spirit. She is intended for greater things than she can probably imagine, as wise as she already is.

    Love. Peace. <3 xoxo
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    lisa
    October 13, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    What a wonderful post this is, Kim!
    So many poor role models, it’s no wonder so many young girls get so messed up.
    xo.

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    Monica
    October 13, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    Kim, I love this post. So right on.

    it was so disappointing when Malala didn’t win the Nobel Peace Prize, simply because she’s too young. She is so wise beyond her years. Did you happen to see her on the Daily Show? Brilliant interview. I love how Jon Stewart was so in awe of her and even asked if he could adopt her. Her response to what she would say if faced to face with the Taliban was remarkable.
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    Pamela @ Brooklyn Farm Girl
    October 13, 2013 at 8:19 pm

    Love that you mentioned Malala, she’s such an amazing role model for everyone around the world.
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    ed p
    October 13, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    i think the women role models are those who have spoken up against the violence of men. and that’s because this world is diseased from the violence of men, the industry, the war making, economic injustice for the majority of people nowadays. you are a role model, kim. clearly, keeping kay’s story alive is a strong voice warning against possession. i think a lot of women role models held up by the consumerist media chatter are those who embody the male characteristics of good in business, tough, competitive and so forth. women working for peace, breaking free of subservience are role models for all time. that’s the kind of women i’ll attempt to steer my daughter toward.
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    Blond Duck
    October 14, 2013 at 5:08 am

    I love this. It reminds me of when I was at Baylor and everyone was size 2 with Double Ds. The only way for me to get to size 2 is to eat 1200 calories a day– all green stuff– and workout 4 hours a day.

    What a terrible way to live.
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    Pam Hogeweide
    October 14, 2013 at 5:53 am

    SO bummed I wasn’t able to blog on Intl Day of the Girl…But SO GLAD that you did and you have totally rocked it!

    I watched Malala on The Daily Show earlier this week and I CRIED. Her answer about how she reflected on what would she say or do when she discovered her life was under threat was pure wisdom and love as she braced herself for confronting evil. And I cried as I sat there in my living room wondering if I’ve done enough to empower my daughter to Be Her Authentic Self in the Big Scary Fucked Up World out there.

    Many thanks for spreading the word about the courage of this young woman. SHe gives me hope for women around the globe in this next generation….!

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    Beverly Diehl
    October 14, 2013 at 6:44 am

    While Miley (and her tongue) don’t impress me much, I don’t want to be one of those gathering in a circle to culturally stone her for her “sluttiness,” either. Someday she may regret carrying out her explorations of sexuality and young womanhood in front of every camera possible, but we’ve all done really dumb things.

    And oh, Barbie, with the wasp waist and legs that go on forever until ending in feet designed for porn star shoes. What can we says about THAT image?

    Malala is only 16, but she is 16 to the 16th power more awesome than Barbie or the images people are trying to sell us. Love her and her thirst for knowledge.
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      My Inner Chick
      October 14, 2013 at 9:08 am

      I agree about Miley.
      My intent was to use her as an example of our superficial, sexulaized culture today.
      I mean, come on, I LOVE Gaga & she is quite naughty w/ a cause!
      And about Malala. YES, I love “”the 16th power more awesome!!””
      Superb.
      xxxx
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    Elisabeth Kinsey
    October 14, 2013 at 8:57 am

    Love this post. I think Malala is an amazing woman, already! If we could all have this bravery it takes to be true to oneself.

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    countingducks
    October 14, 2013 at 9:57 am

    I thought the ‘Barbie’ interview was hilarious. You’ve got such a cheeky touch. Brilliant stuff. As for Malala she is one of my new heroines. Her maturity, bravery and perspective are just amazing in one so young. You never know who may inspire you next, but she certainly inspires me, as so you do Kim, with your courage and your humour.
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    Liz
    October 14, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    Such a revealing dialog with Barbie…it’s hard to believe that any girl can grow up uninfluenced by our culture these days. Lots of bad influences. The video has been blocked, but hope I can view it some day soon. xo
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    Fireblossom
    October 14, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    Miley Cyrus is just embarrassing. She’s not sexy, she’s not original, she’s not anything but too dim to know she’s being used.
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    Rita
    October 14, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    Oh… This picture of Miley. It’s so sad…
    My role model are women I know. There are so many of them: the doctor who started a sewing group for migrant women so they can have a place where they can socialize and practice their English. My mum who left her country and the war to give a better future to her children.
    Malala is absolutely wonderful. We should see more of her on social media for example. Maybe that will teach some young girl what’s s real role model.
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    ladyfi
    October 14, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    Yes – Malala is a real role model – so beautiful!

    I’ve never allowed a Barbie to enter my house and often talk about how she doesn’t represent an idea with the kids.
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    Sandra
    October 15, 2013 at 5:34 am

    My role models are women who embrace themselves no matter what size they are. Who aren’t afraid to break a fingernail and work hard when they have to. Also, women who allow themselves to be happy.
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    Tina @ Girl with a New Life
    October 15, 2013 at 10:16 am

    My role models are the women in my real life, the ones that pick me up and dust me off and tell me to keep going. The ones that call me instead of leaving facebook status updates. The ones that ring my doorbell and offer me pie. The ones that share their hard stories so that I am better prepared for what’s ahead.
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    Blond Duck
    October 16, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    Hope you’re doing well!
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    marie
    October 16, 2013 at 10:25 pm

    Awesome!
    Malala, another beautiful young woman! A real inspiration. My role models are all the women of this world, who stand up and never give up, who raised from the ashes.
    You too Kim.
    As for loving myself it is still hard work, too many broken pieces to put back together. But I wil’ succeed one day..
    Love

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    Stasha
    October 17, 2013 at 9:50 am

    This is awesome! WORD!!! also Bratz made me laugh hard 😉

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    TheKitchenLioness
    October 17, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Kim, there is a young woman with the name Sabriye Tenberken. She was born in 1970 in my hometown Cologne in Germany. At age 12 she became blind. In addition to Mongolian and modern Chinese, she studied modern and classical Tibetan in combination with sociology and philosophy. As no blind student had ever before ventured to enroll in these kind of studies, she developed her own methods in order to follow her course of studies and she also developed the “Tibetan Braille Script”, she founded the “Centre for the Blind” in Lhasa, the capital of Tibet, to educate blind people. Sabriye is also the co-founder and co-director of “Braille Without Borders” and has written three amazing books about her experiences….and so much more…I am in awe of her courage, determination, her kindness that seems to have no limits and so much more…she is a true inspiration!

    Love absolutely all of your wonderful thought provoking posts, dear Kim!
    Hugs and kisses from afar!
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    Shana Norris
    October 18, 2013 at 6:43 am

    Kim, thanks for sharing the video interview with Malala. I had no idea. What an absolutely amazing young woman!
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    Ms. CrankyPants
    October 18, 2013 at 6:58 am

    I was about to laud the good old, pre-Miley days, but then I remembered being super impressed by Charlie’s Angels and I had to shut myself up. When we pretended to BE Charlie’s Angels, no one wanted to be Sabrina, the smart one. We all argued about who got to be the “prettier” ones. Sigh.
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    Charlotte
    October 18, 2013 at 7:33 am

    YOU are very inspirational to me 🙂 And I loved this post.

    It’s refreshing to see women who ARE positive role models in society. I was rooting for Malala to win the Nobel prize. What she did in the face of unimaginable circumstances serves as an important reminder that there’s much more to life than stuffing bras and how to make ourselves attractive to the opposite sex.
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    Noeleen
    October 19, 2013 at 1:52 pm

    Kim

    I’d never seen this video, & so valued it.

    Actually, I’ve never seen such a Barbie doll before – it’s grotesque! I have a Barbie from when I was 8 and living with my Aunty, & there isn’t a crease where a vagina would be. That’s really too much. I don’t know how they got away with that.

    Anyway, re Malala – MAGNIFICENT. Did you see in the video “They are afraid of strong women” – so simply true. Simply true. She is magnificent, and a reminder to live.

    Re Miley, I even heard Daniel & his friends (17 yos) saying “She’s tried way too hard” and negative stuff, and I did say “But the world wants sexy women all the time, so she thought that’s what she needed to do”, & really, it was all very interesting this “sexy” and “too sexy”. It just gets downright ugly, doesn’t it.

    Wonderful post, Kim, wonderful 🙂

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    Adriana Boatwright (@AdrianaIris)
    October 21, 2013 at 9:19 am

    great post. I always beheaded all my Barbies. 🙂
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    Bella
    October 28, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    Kim, I love, love how you address these type of subjects! It’s time women understand that we are enough. Without having to resort to plastic surgery, without dumbing ourselves down to allow men to appear smarter, without acting assertively so we’re not labeled “ball busters” and surely without being afraid of being labeled a bitch. I say, if Miley is comfortable with her sexuality and wants to put her goodies on display, then that’s her choice. I just hope she’s not doing it because she thinks resorting to nudity is the only way to be noticed. Feminism is about free choice–a woman’s right to do as she pleases without having to bow down to patriarchy or a society/culture that has us believe we have to look a certain way in order to be deemed sexy, pretty, or desirable. Love you, lady. Hugs and kisses from Roxy and me to you! 🙂

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    Amy@Souldipper
    November 5, 2013 at 10:38 am

    This is salve to my soul, Kim. What a promise to see many younger women and men express identical feelings!

    So how can we simply enjoy BEAUTY without taking a strip off ourselves? Last week, a friend and I were having lunch at a table next to a young woman, dark featured, exquisitely naturally beautiful, who quietly read a magazine as she ate. My friend Susan faced this woman.

    Susan whispered, “I can’t take my eyes off the woman next to us! She’s taking my breath away every time I look her way. If Jerry were here he’d never take his eyes off her.” (Her husband Jerry is an exquisite artist who paints such beautiful features of women. If he wasn’t the husband of my best friend, I might have worked up the courage to have a nude done of myself. Show me my beauty, Jerry!)

    “Why are you whispering, Susan? Tell her!”

    “What? Just out and tell her?”

    “Of course! What a shame if we only keep it to us!”

    I leaned over to the woman, “Excuse me. We are a pair of older women who find your beautiful such a delight we wanted you to know. Why just think these positive thoughts and not tell the one causing them?”

    Her face lit up and she thanked us through a big, warm, genuine smile. We found she was just visiting our island for the day. If she had an ounce of make-up on, it was applied so well it was unseen. Her long, dark, shiny hair swished like strands of silk. She tucked back a strand of her hair with a graceful gesture and when she got up to leave, there was no awkwardness or embarrassment as she said, “That was so kind of you. You just put the icing on my trip.”
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    Tempest
    December 7, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    I certainly don’t think that Miley Cyrus is a good role model for young girls. I also don’t think she’s a horrid, wanton strumpet with no redeeming qualities. She seems kind of lost and at the mercy of those controlling her image. I hope she finds the strength to become her own person.
    I think its sad that we live in a world where one is seen as being a “winner” for simply looking like Barbie, but someone who looks like Gabourey Sidibe (don’t know if I spelled that right, she’s the star of the movie Precious) can’t win no matter how much good she does in the world because this society is so biased against people with non-slender body types.

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