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Facebook, Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

Posted on August 16, 2013

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Something’s been bothering me.

 

The other day while scanning Facebook,  I noticed a sentence   (
written by somebody I don’t actually know personally out of my 600 closest, dearest
friends).

 

But…

 

Seriously,  and I’m
not kidding you,  it said:    “I put in my status about 3 hours ago and nobody “liked” it.  I feel like a loser.  Now I’m having a horrible day.” 🙁

 

Initially I thought she was joking,  until I read the responses that followed.

 

She.  Was.  Not.
Joking.

 

How utterly heartbreaking that one’s identity and self worth
could be altered by a simple click of the finger, a simple like or no-like.

 

Bullshit.

 

Is this what we’re all truly searching for as Sally Field blubbered
in her famous Academy Award speech?

 

“You like me.  You
really like me.”

 

Is the social media really that influential, powerful, and
dominant that it can manipulate and dictate, like a bully,  somebody else’s day to day disposition?

 

Unfortunately,  sadly,
the answer is YES.

 

We all want to be seen, heard, valued, needed, and
appreciated.

 

But truthfully,  the
social media IS NOT the place where we should be  searching for fulfillment, love,  validation.

 

For example,  how many
friends you have on Facebook, or how many followers you have on Twitter does
not make you amazing &  wonderful.

I mean, like, you could still be an asshole with 5000 followers.

 

For bloggers,  listen
closely,  it’s not how many people read
your blog posts, or how many comments you acquire,  so stop looking at your stats like it’s the
end of the world.

 

If you’re doing this, you may be severely disappointed.  And if you’re disappointed, you might sell
your soul to the devil, and if you sell your soul to the devil,  you might lose the beautiful uniqueness of
your own voice.

 

Do not be, I repeat, do not be manipulated into writing for anybody but yourself.

 

For Facebook freaks,
it’s not about how many ‘likes’ you get throughout the day.  It’s about how many “likes,’ you get in Real
Life with Real People.

 

Get it?

 

Oh, I do hope you get it.

 

Because nothing can possibly become a substitute for a
living, breathing, pulsating human being.

 

Watch Sally\’s Famous Academy Award Speech!

Watch My ALL time Favorite moment From Oprah about Validation!

—Darling, Reader,  Are you LOOKING for love in all the wrong places?  What do you think of Facebook & other Social Media sites?  xxXx

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  • Reply
    Dawn
    August 16, 2013 at 7:39 am

    So. True.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:26 am

      Thanks for reading my rants, Dawn!
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      Noeleen
      August 25, 2013 at 2:37 am

      Excellent post – & 63 people liked it, I note!! 🙂
      You’re so right though – & that comment that girl made “I feel like a loser”, is really sad. I’m so glad I’m not on Facebook. I just don’t need it.
      I didn’t know Sally Field had said that in acceptance speech – that was interesting.
      Great post!
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    Liz
    August 16, 2013 at 7:40 am

    I get it.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:27 am

      I thought you would, L. xx
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    August 16, 2013 at 7:43 am

    Beautifully said Kim!
    Love to you from a chilly SA.
    🙂 Mandy xo
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:27 am

      Is it Winter in South Africa? Xxx
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        Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
        August 30, 2013 at 12:28 am

        We are nearing the end of winter thankfully! Spring is officially on 01 September which is just around the corner – yippee!!! Not sure it will be warm enough to call it Spring for a few more week though.
        xoxoxo
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    karen sosnoski
    August 16, 2013 at 7:50 am

    I totally get it, both the addictive quality of being virtually liked and that this virtual like ability is an addiction, no substitute for real relationships–you’re right Kim! The thing about facebook is it’s so easy to manipulate reality, show only the beautiful, or loving, or adventurous moments which may be, which probably are real, but which of course are only part of the story. We all realize this about each other’s posts and about our own, certainly (hopefully, and it’s not all meaningless–how we are seen is a real part of who we are–but as you point out we need to be there for the less than pretty, exciting, compelling moments which are a big part of being a real parent, partner or friend. And then there’s blogging. I can’t even do it right now while trying to devote myself to novel writing, even though everything I read and everyone I talk to says I should. It’s partly because it’s hard for me not to try to write well (which means revising and time taken away from the other project); but a bigger part of my aversion to blogging right now is I can’t seem to do it and let the stats fall as they may. If the whole point is to build a platform, connect with readers, etc., how can I help not obsessing about whether or not the readers are there? How do other bloggers avoid this? (Real questions, I guess, since I do need to blog again and tweat more etc.)

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:30 am

      Karen,
      I’ve NOT ONCE looked at my stats. I have NO idea how many people read my blog. Truly.

      How do bloggers do it? I believe they come to the conclusion that if only ONE person gets it, loves it, relates to it, the writing is worth it.

      Love your perspective and insight. ALWAYS. Xx
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    Liz
    August 16, 2013 at 7:58 am

    This is a really hot topic right now about how social media makes us feel. I’m glad you posted this Kim. Right, we should not utilize Facebook to ‘feel’ our worth but to connect with other people and find out about things going on.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:31 am

      Right on. Perfect advice, liz. Xx
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    August 16, 2013 at 8:04 am

    I understand the driving need but thank God I don’t need it anymore. I walked away from all that a couple of years ago. I never did learn how to check stats and stuff like that. I almost got caught up in the “# of followers” thing along with social media brouhaha but I found out after I disconnected from Twitter and a few other social things like SITS that I didn’t die, when Google took its Friends thing away, I didn’t die, and for truth, I never could get into Facebook because I hate, loathe and despise it with a passion. It’s a time-sucker and I don’t have time to give to that demon. I hate reading blogs that get so cluttered with advertising that they flash me to distraction (even while understanding why that necessary evil is there).

    I have a few bloggers I read who inspire me, make me laugh, make me cry, and move me with passion (YOU). I have the few precious e-friends I’ve made and LOVE who read me faithfully, and especially Alpha Hubby. What else is there?
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:31 am

      Nan,
      I love your honesty! Xx
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    elizabeth
    August 16, 2013 at 8:13 am

    I get it! so come to NY so I came hug you in person. xoxox
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 8:32 am

      Oh, believe me, e,

      I shall! We shall hug and talk into the night about stuff that matters. Xxxxx LOVE>

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    Tara
    August 16, 2013 at 8:43 am

    I totally agree. It seems the more technological we get, the more impersonal we get. We become all consumed in our selves, and less concerned with those around us. I wonder if that person you’re referring to bothered to notice the status updates of everyone else, rather than whine about how nobody “liked” hers.

    I will admit, though. There is a certain high you get when a bunch of people like what you’re saying. I guess we all have our egotistical issues to deal with. At least, I do. :/

    Kisses!
    Tara
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 9:16 am

      Tara,
      yes, there is a rush, I agree, but the problem is…when we do not get that rush, that “like,” that validation, how are we going to deal w/ it?

      KISSES back, sweets. xx
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    Dangerous Linda
    August 16, 2013 at 9:15 am

    the most important ‘like’ must come from within…

    • Reply
      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 9:16 am

      Linda,
      now that, my dear, is the most profound quote of the day : ) Xxxxx
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    Red Dwyer
    August 16, 2013 at 9:28 am

    I am heavily immersed in social media because of my business. My friends think I have lost my marbles or fallen into a hole when I do not bother with my personal SM. Frankly, if I get there, I do. If I do not, they all have my tele number!

    While I have FAB friends, I also have friends I have met online who live not only in my computer and in my CrackBerry, but, like you, also walk directly into my life in the FAB world. Virtual life closes the distance for me with my overseas friends, but nothing will ever, ever, ever, ever, ever replace being able to touch someone who loves me in spite of what I post online.

    How sad to let virtual applause drown the sweet sound of true endorsement.

    Much love, my sweet can caring friend.
    xxxx
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 9:19 am

      Dear Red,

      YES! I agree. I’ve met some AWESOME, fabulous people on-line, including YOU, Val, my pen pal, soooo many others… But… this ‘like’ thing and how many reads we get etc…is going too far.

      Our “Being” should not depend on this, does not make us better than anybody else.

      Sending you love, hot mama. x
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    Vidya Sury
    August 16, 2013 at 10:03 am

    It is a sad world when people must depend on random likes from strangers and acquaintances for validation.

    Love what you wrote “Because nothing can possibly become a substitute for a
    living, breathing, pulsating human being.”

    And that is the absolute truth. My son asked me how I would feel if the internet ceased to exist. I told him I would miss my friends, the ones who are in my heart.

    Hugs! Beautiful post, Kim. I fantasize about meeting you one day. I know I will 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 9:21 am

      Guess what?

      When we leave on vacation or whatever…I am NOT connected AT ALL.

      I feel liberated and free.

      That is weird, cuz I love being connected.

      Love more than the stupid internet! xx
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    Carolyn Hughes
    August 16, 2013 at 10:17 am

    I totally get it! It isn’t about quantity, it’s about quality. Social media can be a great place to form relationships (how else would I have had the pleasure of connecting with you Kim 🙂 ? ) But it should never be the be all and end all.

    You’re experience reminded me of all those messages I get in my ‘other’ box from guys looking for relationships. Mainly I think they’re just creepy but there’s a sadness about going down to that level.
    I enjoy my online friends, but as you say, nothing beats face to face contact!

    Love to you my friend 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:10 pm

      Carolyn,
      Yes, it’s true. I’ve met AMAZZZING people thru the internet (YOU, for one) but it goes a bit far when this is the only way we connect & gain validation!

      Love back to you! xx
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    Mayor Of Crazy Town
    August 16, 2013 at 10:21 am

    I agree 100%! I stopped blogging for years because I thought no one “liked me” anymore. That’s not why I started blogging to begin with so how did it go that direction for me? I really had to start getting personal again, because for me, blogging was an outlet. A way to vent and be healthier. I don’t care if anyone reads what I write – although if you did that would be awesome! I’m Jus’ Sayin’!

    Sometimes I am sappy, and sometimes I am funny… either way it’s all me. My self worth isn’t in the amount of likes I have. Otherwise I woulda been really sad by now! hehe
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:13 pm

      Dear Mayor,
      you are right!

      I started my blog as a way to mourn. I was surprised when people actually started reading it my mourning. You see, it was for me, my outlet, my release. When people read, it’s was just an extra plus…

      but it was never truly for them!

      Xx
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    Sandra
    August 16, 2013 at 10:30 am

    Oh how I hear ya! Despite the utter pain I am putting onto the screen, I am enjoying my voice far more now than I did when I was obsessed with stats on my other blog. Now the writing is about the writing, not about the accolades. As usual, your wisdom is a gift to us.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:13 pm

      Amen, Sandra!

      You nailed it <3 Xx
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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    August 16, 2013 at 10:36 am

    Totally with you, Kim. I saw some people have more than 10000 likes…and really wonder how they manage all the communication and stuff like that…
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:14 pm

      Angie,
      not sure how somebody gets 1000 likes unless they’re like, you know, Lady Gaga! Xx
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    Lorre Lyons
    August 16, 2013 at 10:47 am

    Hell yeah!

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:14 pm

      I second that, babe! x
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    Barbara
    August 16, 2013 at 10:49 am

    I won’t be surprised when someone like this person, or perhaps this very person you speak of, appear on Dr. Phil, or some such program. There will, likely, be therapy for some people who place their personal worth and self esteem in the hands of virtual strangers.

    On the other hand…it’s easy to see how the responses you receive through social media can have an effect, whether positive or negative. Guess it comes down to being grounded and giving and receiving real love…not the virtual kind.

    I hope the person you mentioned saw this and ‘got’ it.
    xob
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:16 pm

      I hope this person does not see the post. I’m not sure who she is…but I think she’s feel badly about it.

      Xx
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    Debi Pasricha
    August 16, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    This is so spot on. And I think so important for young kids to KNOW: Our friends are not summed in our FB likes. And I love that Sally Field Speech, btw!
    xo
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:17 pm

      I know.
      I loved that speech from the first time I saw it on the awards!! She received it for Norma Rae, right? Xx
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    totsymae1011
    August 16, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    Life is full of a mixed bag of nuts.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:17 pm

      Aint that the truth, Nut!? Xx
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    Sandra
    August 16, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    Say it again girl!!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      Okay,
      second verse, same as the first! x
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    Hotly Spiced
    August 16, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    You have truly spoken a word in season. It’s so true that we are all (with the exception of your good self) so obsessed with social media and that is not where we should feel validated. As you have reminded us, it’s so much more important to live the kind of life where you’re the kind of person people want to be around. But I do have to say, I love your ‘likes’ and comments on all my FB statuses! xx
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:56 pm

      HaaHAaaa,
      Me, too!! Xx
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    Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson
    August 16, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    Love this sooooo much.

    And more importantly, reach out to this person.

    Maybe she is depressed and reaching out the only way she knows how.

    xo
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:55 pm

      I did make a comment on her status, Renee. 🙂 Xx
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    Elephant's Child
    August 16, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    How very true. And, at the end of the day there is only one person you have to live with. Yourself. So loving, liking, respecting yourself and personal integrity are sooooo important. Which is not to say it is easy. Liking myself is certainly a work in progress.
    Hugs to you, you wise and wonderful woman.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:56 pm

      Respecting one’s self.
      That is 3 powerful words, dear! Xx
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    lisa
    August 16, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    Really, really great post, Kim.
    I feel bad for the person. She sounds like someone who might be very lonely.
    I wish you a wonderful weekend, my friend! xo.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      Lisa,
      I feel bad, too and it’s sad there are MANY people out there just like her. Xx
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    lisa thomson
    August 16, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    Oh, I love this kim You are so right. I think it’s a great reminder for the younger crowd who seem to be getting all of their social needs met on social media outlets. Unlike us ‘old timers’ who understand the power of presence in real life like coffee with a friends who just needs to talk, or a walk on the beach with someone you love…or fill in the blank with your favorite pastime with friends. Social media is highly addictive apparently more so for women. I love that you point out you might have 5,000 followers but still be an asshole…LOL xo
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:58 pm

      –Yes, it is VERY addictive.

      I am SO glad I decided to NOT have the internet on my phone! Xx
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    Mike
    August 16, 2013 at 8:14 pm

    Kim, this is a fantastic post and not spoken about amongst folks often enough. I’m not going to get into a long rant but there was a day before computers and the internet (yes, I was there) where life was far more fulfullling socially. Unfortunately those generations of people are fading away through attrition and any hope for passing down this wisdom of life will be lost forever. Keep up the great writing! 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:58 pm

      –Thanks for reading my rant, Mike! Xx
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    Amy Tong
    August 16, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    Great post and wonderful message! I agree, people these days are obsessed with the social media. And frankly, the more that we rely on the “social network” thing, the more that we are disconnecting from real life, real relationships! 🙂 Hope more people will read your post and “wake up” and stop the obsession.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 4:59 pm

      Amy, I know. It’s SO weird.
      We assume we are CONNECTING, but at the same time, we are becoming anti-social and disconnecting from the Real World. Xx
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    Hilary
    August 17, 2013 at 4:37 am

    Great post! you are so right.. it is so sad that so many people value their worth by these things – but equally sad, I can understand why… the way we interact with others has changed so drastically with technology – these tools should help bring us closer, but I feel in a lot of ways it has hurt our social skills.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 5:00 pm

      I understand, too.
      And I’m sad about this.

      When I disconnect completely while on vacation or weekends…

      Well, I feel utterly FREE)))

      Xx
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    debbie
    August 17, 2013 at 6:14 am

    Right.On.Sista. Don’t need to say anything else.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 5:01 pm

      Right On! Glad you get it. Xx
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    Debbie
    August 17, 2013 at 8:37 am

    Kim, thank you for saying this! It’s so easy to obsess over statistics, when all they are is numbers. Why must we feel so pressured to PROVE we have worth? Why is a number proof anyway? You’re so right in saying that living, breathing people who “Like” us are much more relevant, and we should be concentrating on building/solidifying our relationships!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:06 pm

      Debbie,
      if our self-worth is determined on how many reads we get or how many likes we receive, we are up shit creek! Xx
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    Rita
    August 17, 2013 at 8:39 am

    I love this post Kim and it’s really a timely post for me. I like what you said for bloggers. It’s hard to not look at stats but to be able to blog with honesty, it is indeed important to stop looking at them. I have made some changes lately on my blog. For example, I don’t link my posts with other blogs as much as I use to do because I decided that I wanted people to visit my blog because they wanted too not because they had too. My stats dropped but I can live with that because at least I know that people that still come and visit do it because they love my blog.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:08 pm

      Rita, I’ve never looked at my stats….not sure even how to do this.
      I don’t want to know! Glad you are blogging honestly!
      Xx
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    Dad
    August 17, 2013 at 8:55 am

    I get it I GET IT.
    Love You
    Dad

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:09 pm

      Love you MORE, Daddy. XxxxxxxxXxx
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    Jann
    August 17, 2013 at 9:01 am

    You are so right, Kim! I haven’t looked at my blog stat page for over a year. Life is better!! xxxxx
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:09 pm

      Jann,
      not even sure how to do this 🙂 Xxx LOVE flowing.
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    Ellen M. Gregg
    August 17, 2013 at 10:09 am

    I love this post, Kim. I see such statuses with alarming frequency. (Seeing it at all is alarming, to be clear.) I saw two them, in fact, just this past week.
    The first was, “One person unfriended me this morning. :-(” My response, unwritten, was, “I don’t even know how many Facebook friends I have, to be able to know that has happened.” It means she’s looking at those stats, and hinging on their fluctuation.
    The second was, “Two people unlike my page today. I wonder who they were. :-(” Since the page is more on the business side of things, I get the wondering, because it could have to do with the content being put out, and lost likes could mean lost business. Even so, focusing on that would drive me nuts.
    I hope you’re enjoying a lovely summer, honey. 🙂 xoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:10 pm

      Ellen,
      I believe we are focusing on the wrong things/issues…& It’s scary!

      Xxxx LOVE.
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    Elisabeth Kinsey
    August 17, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Yes! Rock this post! 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 7:10 pm

      You. Rock.
      Elizabeth!! X
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    injaynesworld
    August 17, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    This should be scrawled on bathroom walls all over the country. And I mean that in a good way. There are so many lonely, isolated people of all ages who depend on social media to make them feel alive. A “like” or a comment is like a crack high. And then comes the crash and they need more and more. It’s very sad. Wise words, my friend. And for the record, I really, really like you. 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:48 pm

      And I like you, too, Jayne. I really really like you! Xx
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    Monica
    August 17, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Here, here, Kim.Well said and I couldn’t agree more.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:49 pm

      Monica,
      love when you pop over to my side of town! Xx
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    solidgoldcreativity
    August 18, 2013 at 4:40 am

    Well said, Kim. I particularly liked this line, “Do not be, I repeat, do not be manipulated into writing for anybody but yourself.” I get surprised when people forget that writing can only ever be for ourselves. Sure, it might speak to many others along the way, and that’s in the nature of a happy bonus.

    I’ve had a few people over the years tell me what I should be writing in my blog and how I should be writing it, even while they were reading it and, supposedly, enjoying it. The funniest incident I saw was a woman who got irate on a famous knitter’s blog because the blogger had used the word, “nipple”. In the next post, the knitter replied in the only way possible: she wrote a post full of “nipple”, and nothing else.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:49 pm

      Nipple. Nipple. Nipple.

      I love it!! ))))) Xxx
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    Goodness and Grit
    August 18, 2013 at 6:14 am

    Writing should flow without critique, and Facebook should add a HUG button.

    Klem,
    Kimberly

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      Perfectly said, Kimberly! Xx
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    Shreya Kashyap
    August 18, 2013 at 6:14 am

    I hope as many fb critters get to read this !
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      Critters!

      I Like! Xx
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    Bella
    August 18, 2013 at 6:20 am

    Bravo, Kim, bravo! You are a woman after my own heart! I tell my daughter exactly this on a weekly basis. I cannot understand the need for social validation, much as I try. I think that if a woman doesn’t feel beautiful, or believe herself to be beautiful, no amount of ego stroking is going to change that. Sadly, so many women post hundreds of “selfies” on Facebook looking for just this. Such a waste of energy and time, if you ask me. Methinks the reason for this is that we’ve lost our passion–our passion for life, our passion for following what we believe in, our passion for standing up for what we believe to be true. Instead, many use their time on such trivial pursuits as that of seeking admiration from acquaintances and strangers. How very sad.I miss the days when a day well spent included spending time with family and friends, helping others, or doing something for the good of our community. The idealistic side of me still believes we can get back to that. You are proof that our voices make a difference and that one person can instigate change. Loved this post! So spot on and such a great reminder that our worth is not measured by how many likes or followers we have. We, and we alone are responsible for thinking ourselves to be worthy and valuable. The opinions of others should matter not. Hugs to you from Roxy and me! 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      Bella,
      you said a mouthful, dear. And all of it is TRUE! Sad, but true.

      Love to you and Rox. Xxx

      How are you?
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    Jennifer Wolfe
    August 18, 2013 at 11:07 am

    Kim, those people sadly are ones who live their non virtual lives seeking approval from others as well. I e spent time teaching my own kids about this, but I feel sad when I see those types of posts. Everything in balance is my belief.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      Ahhhh,
      balance…. that’s the rub! Xxx
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    Beverly Diehl
    August 18, 2013 at 1:33 pm

    I’m on FaceBook a fair amount of the time – but sometimes I am busy having a LIFE, and I don’t get on it for days.

    Even if it is a day that I don’t talk to anybody via phone, text, Twitter, FB message, whatever, I have to be happy with ME. Or at least content with myself – maybe I am having a day where I feel blue, and that’s okay, too.

    So sad that this young woman (or young man) – I’m guessing s/he is young, anyway – is still so in need of instant confirmation of worth from outside sources.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      Beverly,
      it seriously made me sad…but there are so many more like her out there….

      just searching for love.

      Xx
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    Fireblossom
    August 18, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    Amen to all of it. I do have my three people without whom a poem doesn’t seem complete, but as for the rest, I enjoy comments from everyone, but i certainly don’t measure the worth of my poems or myself by that.

    That said, thank you for your recent comments! 😛
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:53 pm

      Fireblossom,

      Glad you dropped by to visit! Xx
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    Dawn
    August 18, 2013 at 4:14 pm

    Exactly. Though I guess the reason I don’t look at my stats is because I don’t even know where they are. I do enjoy a good comment though and think of many of my regular readers as friends…just another category of friend from the people I grew up with or went to school with. You know? Not lesser friends….just different friends.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      I agree.
      I love reading comments, dawn! Xx
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    Liz
    August 18, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    So true! What a great message, Kim…and a push to call some girlfriends up to have lunch 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      August 18, 2013 at 10:55 pm

      Yes, Liz.
      I do love a good lunch w/ girlfriends and wine! xX
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    Alison
    August 19, 2013 at 1:30 am

    I feel bad for the person who write that loser update – how can one be so wrapped up in that?

    Over the weekend, my sister and simultaneously decided to spring clean our Facebook friend lists – we were competing to see who will have less friends, haha! (she won)
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      My Inner Chick
      August 19, 2013 at 6:44 am

      HaaHAaa.

      that is funny.

      It seems like lots of work, Mama A. Xxx
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    August 19, 2013 at 2:40 am

    Wow I would have thought that she was joking too! I agree, social media is lovely but take it for what it is, like a cocktail party. Real friends are real friends. BTW you asked me about Breaking Bad? I am LOVING it! How good is the latest season? :O xxx
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      My Inner Chick
      August 19, 2013 at 6:45 am

      Lorraine,
      The newest season is great.
      Walt has changed so much. It is REALLY GOOD. I’m hooked and don’t want it to end.

      Are you on season 5? Xx
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    Blond Duck
    August 19, 2013 at 6:00 am

    They’re all like that now!!!! Life is not worth living unless you can throw it on instagram. Ridiculous!

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      My Inner Chick
      August 19, 2013 at 6:46 am

      SO true, Ducky! It is RIIIIdiculous. xx
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    Coffee and Crumpets
    August 19, 2013 at 8:10 pm

    With all the social media available now to our young generations, they have no idea on how to be sociable! I see my daughters friends and not one knows how to hold a conversation or to be be polite. All this social media as great as it is for fun, is terrible for somebody insecure. Thank you for stopping by my blog!

    Nazneen
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      My Inner Chick
      August 19, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      I LOVE the social media. It has changed my life in a good way…

      but I can see the dark side of it, too….

      That’s for damn sure. I feel sorry for our children.

      Thanks for popping over. Xx
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    ladyfi
    August 19, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    Amen sister! Your message is true and needs to be heard!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 20, 2013 at 7:23 am

      Lady Fi,
      does Oscar ever get hassled on Facebook? Xxxxx
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    Heather @ Sugar Dish Me
    August 20, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    This is the 2nd time in a week I have read a post about not defining worth by numbers and I NEEDED IT!!! Especially because this is how I earn my living. When it comes to advertisers and a paycheck all they care about are the numbers and it can be SO defeating. You are so right to remind all of us that it is quality NOT quantity! Thanks so much for this!!!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 20, 2013 at 10:17 pm

      Heather,
      people don’t really care about quality out there…

      I mean, look at the Karadashians!

      Xx
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    ed p
    August 20, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    do not be manipulated by anyone else. that’s divine.
    you are a freedom writer. you have that ability to stir in the direction of the light, i believe.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 20, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      ed,
      LOVE when you visit me w/ your exquisite words of encouragement. Xx
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    Barbara @ Barbara Bakes
    August 21, 2013 at 5:34 am

    It is sad that technology has separated us so much that we resort to social media for validation. There are so many lonely people out there. It is sad.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 21, 2013 at 7:18 am

      –Barbara,
      it is sad. I suppose the social media fills them, all of us, in some strange way. Xx
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    Lady Jennie
    August 21, 2013 at 7:17 am

    The end was the best part of it all: Because nothing can possibly become a substitute for a
    living, breathing, pulsating human being.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 21, 2013 at 7:18 am

      Lady Jennie,
      Love when you visit from France! Xx
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    Pure Complex
    August 21, 2013 at 11:36 am

    I couldn’t agree with you more on just about every point you made. You should’ve seen me giving you the church “Amen” over here lol. But you’re so right, especially about the blog. I had to learn, the content is more important then the stats. Stats change and will work in your favor if you love what you do and your content shows that. LOVED reading this
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      My Inner Chick
      August 22, 2013 at 9:15 am

      Kay,
      you hit it on the nail: If we “Love What We Do!”

      This, yes this, makes all the difference. Xx
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    Blond Duck
    August 22, 2013 at 4:00 am

    Have a wonderful day!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 22, 2013 at 9:16 am

      You, Too, Ducky Xx
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    Girl with a New Life
    August 22, 2013 at 8:20 am

    Thank you for this post.

    Trying to generate a “life” on facebook is not the same as going out and living it.

    One of my friends from across the pond once told me, “Watching people living exciting lives on tv is not a substitute for actually living your own life.”
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      My Inner Chick
      August 22, 2013 at 9:17 am

      Absolutely True, Tina.

      Sometimes I get so involved w/ what I’m doing, I forget to live! Xx
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    Marie
    August 22, 2013 at 8:50 am

    You are so right Kim.
    All this craziness around “likes” or “follow ups” makes me a bit sad. Some people really need this to exist, to feel loved. It feels so wrong.
    XXXXX
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      My Inner Chick
      August 22, 2013 at 9:17 am

      I am sad about this, Marie.

      Especially for our kids.

      How are you? Xxx
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    Brenda
    August 22, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    You’re a beautiful person, Kim. I suppose getting likes is like all those other thing people view as really important. I am PATHETIC when it comes to self-marking and socializing, and I don’t lose any sleep over it. What I do worry about besides my family, is writing every day and hit submit on a story. That’s what matters to me. Thank you sending love out to the universe, my sweet.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 22, 2013 at 10:15 pm

      The “WRITING” is the important thing. After family, of course.
      Blogging is my writing practice for the “real thing!”
      How about you, B?

      Xxxx LOVE.
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    TheKitchenLioness
    August 23, 2013 at 6:33 am

    Dear Kim, I really appreciated reading through this wonderful and inspiring post of yours – so true and really such a wake-up call for many of us – I often think that we spent way too much time looking for friends in all the wrong places instead of doing the things that we should be doing like taking the kids for a walk, talking to a friend or read your wonderful blog posts (HA!) – one thing is for sure, I love spending time here and get inspired each and every time I visit – your blog makes me happy and thank you for that, Kim!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 23, 2013 at 7:15 am

      ….and I LOVE when you visit me!

      Your blog inspires me, too. Xxx
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    Ameena
    August 23, 2013 at 6:48 am

    So sad to read that someone’s day can be affected by the number of Likes they receive on FB. I find myself moving away from FB every day…just realizing that it’s not that important in the grand scheme of things!

    Great post Kim.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 23, 2013 at 7:16 am

      You know what?

      When I’m vacation, I am completely disconnected.

      It is LIBERATING)))

      xx
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    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    August 24, 2013 at 1:57 pm

    That’s why I didn’t start blogging until my kids were out of the home. I wanted all of me to be filled with the joys of the people I loved most and I couldn’t give up a second of it to social media. However, now that my dear people have flown my nest, I find social media to be quite a nice time filler and it allows me to be able to afford trips to see my babies.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 25, 2013 at 9:18 am

      Liz,
      you are an awesome Mama! Xxxx
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    Adriana Boatwright (@AdrianaIris)
    August 24, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    Social media can be detrimental when it runs our lives like the status you speak of above. Sad this person is needing so much love and not getting it in real life. Like everything we need to know thyself. 🙂

    I hear a lot of this being said by many bloggers then the comments pour in about how we don’t care about numbers or social media but it is obvious we do. If we didn’t we just would not go around making sure we comment, tweet the new post etc. If we did not care about who read we would write on a journal and no one would have to comment on it would be for self satisfaction. Bottomline we hit publish in hopes we are heard. I also know many asshole bloggers with little readership as well as large.

    Now I am just rambling.

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      My Inner Chick
      August 25, 2013 at 9:21 am

      Dear A,
      I think we do care…but I’ve NEVER looked at my stats. I have NO idea how many people are reading. I don’t want to dictate what I write by who reads or who does not read.

      Yes, I agree. There are many assholes out there! Xxx

      PS. SO glad you like your package. I had fun putting it together for you.
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    Sammie
    August 25, 2013 at 2:25 am

    hahaha.. I totally agree with you! It’s unhealthy to be so obsessed about these things!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 25, 2013 at 9:22 am

      Sammie,
      and the thing is…sometimes I fall into that obsessive category! Xx
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    Noeleen
    August 25, 2013 at 2:33 am

    Excellent post – & 63 people liked it, I note!! 🙂

    You’re so right though – & that comment that girl made “I feel like a loser”, is really sad. I’m so glad I’m not on Facebook. I just don’t need it.

    I didn’t know Sally Field had said that in acceptance speech – that was interesting.

    Great post!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 25, 2013 at 9:23 am

      I know.
      Isn’t Sally Awesome!

      How are you, Noeleen? Xxx
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    countingducks
    August 26, 2013 at 1:32 am

    You always say the right thing, with a directness I just love. Unless you know someone well over a period of time being a FB book friend can almost be an keyboard accident, and any liking or not liking is irreverent. Having actually met you, I do consider you to be a real friend, but even then I wo9uld not over do it. Mr Liverpool would understand I’m sure. I( came across a forum recently where people referred to each other as ‘family’ even thought they had never met and I just thought that was bonkers. Where will it end.?
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      My Inner Chick
      August 26, 2013 at 6:06 am

      Peter,
      well, I must say, I really really dig you, man. Xxxxx
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    Blond Duck
    August 26, 2013 at 3:57 am

    I hope you’re doing well!

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      My Inner Chick
      August 26, 2013 at 6:07 am

      You, too, Ducky. <3
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    Jodi @ Heal Now and Forever
    August 26, 2013 at 4:34 am

    *I mean, like, you could still be an asshole with 5000 followers.* Too true.

    I like to think of the prayer of St Francis when I get down about feeling unliked.

    O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
    to be consoled as to console;
    to be understood as to understand;
    to be loved as to love.
    For it is in giving that we receive;
    it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
    and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

    It’s about what we give from our heart that matters, not what we get.
    xoxox
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      My Inner Chick
      August 26, 2013 at 6:08 am

      ****and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life***

      what comfort!

      I love it more than you know, Jodi. XXxxx KISS from MN.
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    Kathy
    August 26, 2013 at 5:29 am

    OMG–I was convinced you weren’t blogging any more! Just saw your comment over on Val’s last post and decided I had better check, just to be sure. Yikes, why am I not getting your emails anymore?

    Hugs from Ecuador,
    Kathy
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      My Inner Chick
      August 26, 2013 at 6:09 am

      I know, Kathy.

      Something happened w/ wordpress.

      I’ve miss you. Xx
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    Ms. CrankyPants
    August 28, 2013 at 8:51 am

    So good. And true. You are awfully wise. XOXO
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      My Inner Chick
      August 28, 2013 at 11:01 am

      Well, thank you, dear. Xx
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    Diane Clark
    August 29, 2013 at 12:25 am

    I could not agree with you more about this sad situation. Social media makes some of us sick. It’s totally natural to look for love and attention. Yet, it’s unnatural to look for these things online from your friend list, whom you hardly know. I wish everyone could just get back to real world and live a real life.
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      My Inner Chick
      August 29, 2013 at 6:18 am

      Diane,
      unfortunately, the social media is taking over the universe. X
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    reneejohnsonwrites
    August 29, 2013 at 4:17 am

    Instantly reminded me of those little handwritten notes from grade school with the two little boxes that said: I like you. Do you like me? Check yes or no. Geez. I don’t even check mine on a regular basis and have certain blogs set up to post to groups automatically – another reason for having two blogs – a personal and a profession-based.

    Great post! I ‘like’ you!!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 29, 2013 at 6:17 am

      & I like you! I really like you. xx
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    Wild Child Mama
    August 29, 2013 at 2:17 pm

    I’ve seen this same type of thing on FB. It drives me f’ing crazy!!! I don’t get on facebook that much. I can’t keep up with people’s lives that way. If I didn’t see your post, don’t assume I don’t like you!! Jeez!
    Drives me crazy.
    And, holy cats, if I wrote in my blog for ratings I’d be pretty disappointed, HA!!! Man oh man.
    I love your honesty. Someone had to say it!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 29, 2013 at 3:45 pm

      I like you, too. I really really like you! Xxx
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    Charlene Ross
    August 29, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    Well said, Kim. And I love you. (In all the right places!) Even when I don’t comment on your Facebook page! (And I love that you know that too!)

    xoxo
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      My Inner Chick
      August 30, 2013 at 7:39 am

      & I love you, too, Charlene. <3 XXxx
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        Charlene Ross
        August 30, 2013 at 4:15 pm

        Mwah!
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    Blond Duck
    August 30, 2013 at 5:03 am

    Have a good weekend!
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      My Inner Chick
      August 30, 2013 at 7:39 am

      you, too, Ducky. Xx
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    Francesca
    September 4, 2013 at 3:19 am

    This is so true. Great post.

    One of your readers linked this post up to my monthly linky, Francesca’s Festa of Favourites for August, as it was their must-read post for August 🙂
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 4, 2013 at 4:49 am

      Fabulous!

      Glad you started a blog about EMPOWERING WOMEN!!! xx

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