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9 Ways To Kick Blog Ass


1. Post At Least 2 Times Per Month: But no need to feel guilty if you don’t. Never apologize.  This is your home, your words, your creative space.  If your writing is unique, interesting, surprising, & relevant, your readers will be thirsty for more of your delectable words and perspective. I LOVE reading blogs about imperfect people with imperfect lives. You know, people like me.

2. Create Intriguing Titles: For example: 9 Ways To Kick Blog Ass.  And I would definitely read this post!:  40 Effed Up Things About Being 40

3. Authenticity: Never, Ever, Nooo way in hell— underestimate your readers. Believe me, they will determine instantly if you’re a plastic, bullshit person. Furthermore, they’re not interested in your oh-so-perfect life & your oh-so-perfect Harvard bound snot nosed kids. They want to read about Real Life, True Life, Relatable Life. They want to be able recognize themselves through you. FYI: The famous mommy blogger, dooce , gives her readers everything. Yeah, every. rotten. dirty. detail. The payoff is 4,040,000 page views per month

4. Social Networking! Promote! Pump It Up! Immediately after I finish a blog posting, I begin the social networking: I tweet, Digg, facebook, Google, Bing, Yahoo, Pingoat, Yahoo, Liquida, del.icio.us, Whew! Social networking is unbelievably, fantastically, exhausting—but if you don’t promote, it’s like writing profound words and leaving them dangling on your computer to rot in loneliness. Note: Even though you may disagree, it helps to know big-time bloggers & stars. Do you hear me Lady Gaga? All I’m asking for is a single tweet.

5. Comment / Acknowledge Your Readers: This is a good thing. This is the right thing. Especially when the comment advances the conversation to another level. Disregard this tip if you don’t give a damn about receiving comments on your blog or building relationships with your readers.

6. Engage With Your Readers: I’ve grown to love my readers and other bloggers. Quite seriously, several of them have become my friends, encouragers, inspirations, and pro-active voices for my cause. I talk to some of these chicks, especially Elizabeth Cassidy– on the phone regularly & I’ve even met some face to face, skin to skin, eye to eye.

For example, I met fabulous Wild Child Mama last year at Kay’s walk!

7. Do Not Preach: Unless you’re a priest, pastor, monk, Shirley MacLain, or Jesus Christ himself. Readers want to make their own decisions & conclusions. Remember, they have as much intelligence and brilliance as you do, so Do. Not. Tell. Them. How. To. Think.

8. Give Good Voice: If you’re not passionate and motivated about your writing, ideas, content, or life— believe me, NOBODY else will be either. Why should they be?

9. Find A Cause You Fully Support: I’ve observed that several kick ass bloggers have a cause they care deeply about. For example, Art, Animal Rescue, Female Empowerment, God, Post Partum Depression, Fabulous Food, Politics, Domestic Abuse. When you find your true calling, you will quickly realize others will advocate, uphold, and generate your mission to transform the world, too.

 

—More Sensational, Beautiful- Kick Ass Bloggers/Writers I’ve met, hugged, loved & kissed:  Karen SosnoskiDangerous Linda, Mr. London, Counting Ducks, Tilted Tiara, Red M3 Blog

—Dear,  Reader,  what is your calling, passion, joy?  Click here for ideas &  More Causes


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  • Reply
    injaynesworld
    June 11, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Excellent advice, Kim. I can’t believe I’m coming up on the 4th anniversary of my blog, but like you, it’s the interaction with the readers that is most important to me. I’ve met some wonderful people.
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    elizabeth
    June 11, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    Kim- great advice and that Cassidy chick sounds marvelous! Thanks to skirt.com for bringing us together.xoxox
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    Charlene Ross
    June 11, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    One of these days I want to be one of those bloggers that you hug and kiss Kim. One of these days! Love you and your FAB blog so, so much.

    xoxo

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      eyerollingmom
      June 11, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      This has inspired me to shut off Facebook once in a while and just post the f****king blog already. And Kim, you’re soooo right: keeping up with the social media component is time consuming to the maxxxxx. Let’s find the app that calculates the EXACT equi-distance between us all & just meet there, See ya in Tulsa, 2014???? xoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 4:37 pm

      Me, TOOOOO, Charlene.
      One day we shall drink red wine together and talk all night long. Xxx
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    Debi Pasricha
    June 11, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    Great blogging advice. Thank you for the motivating reminder of why we blog in the first place. I haven’t posted anything for three months on my site! Holy crap.
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    Abby Byrd
    June 11, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    Thanks for this, Kim! I appreciate the advice!
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    June 11, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    My passion? You mean other than Alpha Hubby? Helping others find and live their best life possible. Teaching them the importance of the words of their mouth. Our words create our lives, good or bad. And then there is the fact so many women don’t see themselves as anything wonderful, special, worthy. I’m on the other side of that. I will drag you kicking and screaming to the place you really respect and like yourself!

    HEY – that’s a good passion – I think I’ll write about it!! A MOST EXCELLENT POST, dear e-friend!!
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      June 12, 2013 at 6:51 am

      Nan, you are INDEED PASSIONATE.

      Btw, I sent you a little package, my little passionate sweetheart. Xx

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    Michael Ann
    June 11, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    All true and great advice….I say as I’ve all but given up my baking blog. I just lost interest. I don’t bake anything new, I bake the same tried-and-true recipes I’ve already shared because they are my favorite. So there sits my little blog, neglected and dormant. Except for Face Book updates. I always tell my readers what I’m baking and I like to share with them recipes from other blogs that I’ve tried or want to try.

    We’ll see…..there are SO many blogs out there. People don’t have time to sit around and read blog after blog, so yeah, if you want them to choose YOURS, you have to stand out. You definitely take your own advice. Bravo, Kim!
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    totsymae1011
    June 11, 2013 at 3:38 pm

    Well, I’m inspired to kick butt now. I’ve been slacking lately and I definitely don’t social network that much. By the time, I finish thinking of what to blog these days, I’m ready to take a nap. Or a drink. Or something to make me think about something other than what I just blogged about.

    Beautiful ad of Kay.
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    lisa thomson
    June 11, 2013 at 3:51 pm

    This really is a kick ass post, Kim! Thanks for these reminders and suggestions. Preachy is boring and dirty details are fun…yes? I think I get it. Love it! Thanks for this list. Now I will check out these other bloggers and the comments. One thing that I have to mention, is it’s kind of a pet peeve of mine when bloggers don’t respond to their readers comments. If there are a lot of comments I understand but when there are only 2 or 3 comments? I think it’s kind of weird…or maybe I’m weird but I like to respond to every comment.
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    Valentine Logar
    June 11, 2013 at 4:03 pm

    What a spectacular name! Of course you could name your blog “dirty diapers” and I would still read it, wouldn’t matter one single iota, nary a one.

    Things we care about, I am morphing. I might be becoming more activist. I might be becoming more loud.

    There was a time, two years ago I said I would stay away from controversy. Now? Maybe not. We will see.

    I adore you, love you. You are teaching me.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      –Um, excuse me, YOU MIGHT BE BECOMING AN ACTIVIST? Are you kidding?

      YOU. Are. An. ACTIVIST!

      Love you more.

      Xx
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    Brenda
    June 11, 2013 at 4:04 pm

    You should host a blog 101 class. You are spot on, woman. Thanks for reminding us. I think what gets me sometimes (besides not fully marketing myself, which is changing with my new plan) is bloggers who don’t respond in kind, meaning leave a comment on my blog if I read and leave one on theirs. I am slow in responding but if someone takes time to read my blog I ALWAYS go back to read theirs. I heart you for your never ending support. xoxox
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 4:51 pm

      Brenda,
      blogging is time consuming. I mean, it’s a full time job, babe.

      Only if we could get paid for it.

      Ahhhh, what a groovy gig. Xxx
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    Dangerous Linda
    June 11, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    Dear Kim,

    Great Advice!

    How surprised and honored am I for the Super-Sweet Shout Out??? WoW! Thank YOU!

    You know I love, love, LOVE YOU!

    XOXOXOXOL2

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    Elephant's Child
    June 11, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    Your posts are a must read because of you. You are real, you are honest and you are lodged deep in my heart.
    I don’t play any of the social media, but love that you use it to reach out and spread the Kimmy love across the world.
    You, and your blog, rock.
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    Joan Peterson
    June 11, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Great advice, Kim. Thanks for this advice to someone who blogs with a cause and a passion in mind. As to comments, it’s sometimes hard to respond and in my case, I get some pretty ugly comments. I suppose that means I hit a nerve and maybe kicked some ass?
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    solidgoldcreativity
    June 11, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    Great advice, Kim. I especially like this one, “Never apologize. This is your home, your words, your creative space.” Your blog is such a outstanding example of these principles. It all adds up to “Unmissable”!

    Nxx
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    Pam Hogeweide
    June 11, 2013 at 6:02 pm

    Perfect timing as I have been trying to sort out my blog’s mission. It has been dormant for 6 months after years of blogging. And I think I finally realized why: I am done spelunking into the faith and religion caves. What to do? My readership liked my perspective as a rogue woman faith writer, but I am ready to move on to other caves and I have. How do I evolve my blog?

    Maybe that needs to be the topic if my relaunch post.

    Love your voice and your mission and your warmth for readers like me. You inspire me!

    I am on a mission To Have A Mission. I misplaced it somewhere. If anyone finds it, please return it.

    🙂
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    Barbara
    June 11, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    OK…this will be the first of two responses to this post. I’ve had a bit too much wine to make the sense I know I can…tomorrow. So, let me just say, I am surprised every time I post on my blog, when I see the response of people I didn’t know 4 years ago. The integrity of the people who read my blog (and yours Kim), is mind boggling, and life affirming, to me.

    I’ll be back tomorrow….
    xob
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    Hotly Spiced
    June 11, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    Great advice and wonderful post (as always), Kim. I agree with you re the whole social media thingy I just need to learn more about how to take advantage of what a wonderful tool it can be for bloggers xx
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    Alison
    June 11, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    I can tell you this Kim – YOU kick blog ass! You’re always you, and I love that.

    Yes, being unapologetic is so key. I cringe when I read the first line of someone’s blog post, and it’s an apology as to why they haven’t been blogging, etc. Truth? I didn’t notice. Other readers probably didn’t either. Until it’s been pointed out.

    I would add: be kind. If someone asks for bloggy help, or a small favor, be kind. Especially if they’re new. Because we’ve all been new bloggers, and we’ve all needed a little help and love when we first started.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      June 12, 2013 at 6:46 am

      Alison Lee,

      “BE KIND.” YES YES YES.

      This goes a LONG way. & this is why I LOVE you, dear. Xxx

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    Jann Huizenga
    June 11, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    Kim, I love how you put your HEART and SOUL into each and every post. You are a born blogger!! I wish I could get more excited about social media, but to tell the truth, I don’t even know what most of those things are (Liquida? Pingoat??? Never even heard of them.) Maybe someday I’ll have the time and energy? Here’s hoping Lady Gaga hears you!!! Loooooove to you. xxxxxxx
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:02 pm

      Jann,
      who cares if you’re not excited about social media.

      I do this so people can read about Kay’s Story.

      Xx LOVE flowing to you, sweet girl. Xx
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    Unknown Mami
    June 11, 2013 at 7:49 pm

    You are sensationally you. Love how kick blog ass and just ass in general.
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    Candy
    June 11, 2013 at 8:00 pm

    I need to follow almost ALL your advice. I have an ass. I have a blog. I have kicked a thing or two in my day. Perhaps I should put my kick, ass and blog into the same idea now.

    Thanks –

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    Monica
    June 11, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    Love your blog, Kim. You’re a real pro and this post is honest and very helpful. It’s about being authentic and caring about your readers and yes, I love receiving comments. It’s like getting a basket of rose petals, or blessings, a gift conveying support for your work. That makes it all worthwhile. Sharing the love. I knew you were doing something right because you yourself get so many comments. I know you take the time to read and comment on tons of posts each week, so knowing that you visit mine makes it all the more special. Yet I had no idea how big a part social media plays in what you do. I tweet, facebook and use pinterest. But OMG I have a feeling I”m going to have to expand. Thanks again for all these nuggets. You’re the best!
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    Vidya Sury
    June 11, 2013 at 9:11 pm

    I lurrrv how you kick blog ass, Kim! You’re one of the most authentic bloggers I know. And you’re such a lovely, um…sexy person! Huge hugs!

    This is such a fabulous post!

    Ah, I fondly remember the day I met you! Hugs!

    Love you, Vidya
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    carrie
    June 11, 2013 at 11:57 pm

    Kim, great post, I never in a million years thought my blog would grow the way it has. I nevrr promoted it nut I have decided to concentrate on growing it this year and these tips will help. You sure are right about the connections with my readership. Even without meeting them face to face (which would be totally awesome) i have really formed a bond with many of my readers.
    I feel blessed to have stumbled upon your blog, you are an inspiration and I am honored to know you. I would love to mee you some day for a hug.
    Hugs
    Carrie
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    TheKitchenLioness
    June 12, 2013 at 1:19 am

    Kim, thought provoking advice and so very true! Love your honesty and the fact that your blog posts”linger” in my mind for quite some time while I go about my life!
    Vielen lieben Dank,
    Andrea

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    debbie
    June 12, 2013 at 3:34 am

    You’re so right on Kim. All your tips make sense. I just know I look forward to each of your new posts. My passion – animals….Love them dearly. I’m hoping to eventually write about them on my new blog. I haven’t been posting much lately but would really like to have my writing just flow and not have to think so hard about what to write. I guess that would come if I simply start writing about my passion.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:09 pm

      Yes,
      follow your passion.

      The writing will flow. I promise you that.

      —. I follow a few CAT blogs! Meow. Xx
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    feeling beachie
    June 12, 2013 at 4:08 am

    great post – isn’t it amazing when you meet / talk to a fellow blogger?
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:11 pm

      Yes, it is quite surreal.

      And I get soooooooooo NERVOUS because -I think- “I wonder if they don’t like me?!”

      Is that weird?

      xx
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    Ana
    June 12, 2013 at 4:11 am

    Twice a month? I like this! I have been giving myself a hard time because I couldn’t manage every day for thirty days for one of those blogging challenges that are around 🙂 I do have to admit to using a pen name for privacy though (pink face). I write from the heart just not with my name. So definitely points off for authenticity there. The main reason is because I care about those I write about – I am OK writing about my private life – that is my choice – but my husband is not keen on being on written about so I respect his wishes by using a different name. Just wondering how other moms who are bloggers square it with their kids. Do they get a say in the matter?
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    Dad
    June 12, 2013 at 4:32 am

    Great advice Kim, Telling the truth is great, you never have to remember what you say.I think the
    best advice is be yourself & tell the truth & never try to be or act like someone else. It don’t take
    long for people to know when someone is a phony.
    Love You So Much
    Dad

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    Girl with a New Life
    June 12, 2013 at 10:08 am

    You are a rock star.

    These reminders were good for me.

    Hugs.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      From one rock star to another rock star, Tina. Xx

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    Barbara
    June 12, 2013 at 10:08 am

    Ok…I’m back. Had my coffee and I want to add…
    It would have seemed impossible to me, 4 years ago, that I would have the blog friends I have today…including you Kim. How funny that we met through Peter, at Counting Ducks, all the way across the pond!

    I also wanted to say…A lot of the blogs I followed early on, the ‘How to’s, helped a bit in the beginning, but after a while became ‘one note’ preachers with nothing else to offer, except how to build your blog. I’ve unsubscribed to more than I can count, lately. I can’t say I didn’t learn some basics from them, but if you believe someone can give you a fool proof way to boost your blog traffic by 1000%, you’ll believe anything.

    In the meantime, I did what you’ve done all along. Shared stories, ranted when I needed to, bared my soul, and responded to those who have followed me, with the same love and respect. If ever there was a medium that lived and breathed the saying, You get what you give…it’s blogging.

    You nailed it with this post!
    xoxoxob
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:22 pm

      –Barbara,
      Counting Ducks was precisely as I imagined him. He was HILAROUS and such a gentleman. Mr. Liverpool thought he was great.

      Xx
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      countingducks
      June 15, 2013 at 5:36 am

      The amazing thing is Barbara, that I actually met Kim nearly under the clock at Waterloo Station. She is as lovely in real life as in print, as is her fantastic family, even if Mr Liverpool, an exceptionally nice man, supports the wrong football team. We all have blemishes
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    Goodness and Grit
    June 12, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    40 Effed Up Things About Being 40!
    Brilliant!
    I´d read that too cause a lot of stuff is pretty EFFED UP! (almost 50 here)

    I look forward to meeting you face to face, skin to skin, eye to eye and discussing the EFFED UP stuff over a glass of RED. And when the bottle is finished, we can open another and discuss my latest causes…
    teenagers, basement floods, and a pain in the ass blog host! I may have finally gotten the comment section up and running again……….SO DAMN FRUSTRATING!!! Yes, we will need more than two bottles.

    GREAT POST!

    Hugs Girlfriend!
    Kimberly

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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 5:25 pm

      You are too funny. HAaaa

      Yes, lets get effed up and talk all night long about shit and life and writing. xx
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    Linda Medrano
    June 12, 2013 at 1:03 pm

    Kim Darling, you hit this one out of the friggin’ park! There is nothing I enjoy more than reading an honest, no bullshit blog.

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    Red Dwyer
    June 12, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    I love the complete and utter lack of BS around here. I think I got that twice a month thing whipped, eh?

    My passion stays bared, and you are part of it.

    Much much much LOVE,
    xxx
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    mamawolfe
    June 12, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    I agree-the best part about blogging are the relationships I’ve made with fabulous readers/writers like YOU!
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    Kim Gagnon
    June 12, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    Kimmy
    You are one of my true passions and inspiration !!
    You are truly one of the most passionate , honest and
    true people I know. I have one of Kay’s buttons on my bulletin board
    in my office and I brought some wrist bands and wow
    the questions and conversations ! I don’t think there is one person who
    has in some way not been touched by abuse or knows someone who
    has been. Public awareness is so huge!! Miss and love you!!!! Wine next
    week?!!!!!! Xoxoxo K

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    Sandra
    June 12, 2013 at 5:55 pm

    I really needed to read this. Thank you! And if any blogger I know has written with a purpose, for a cause, and with a passion, it’s you my lovely friend.
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    DG
    June 12, 2013 at 6:44 pm

    Many thanks for stopping by my blog today. I am so glad you did because It brought me back here to read this posting and I couldn’t agree more.

    Great advice. Particularly the part about being authentic. If it’s not written in your voice then it may as well be someone else’s blog.
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    Wild Child Mama
    June 12, 2013 at 7:32 pm

    Thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou
    THANK YOU!
    You answered my prayers in this blog.
    I know you understand the power of words.
    How they heal
    and transform
    and sing
    and scream
    and cry out
    And these are the words I was longing to hear. Just blog twice a month and be authentic.
    AND…you included me!!!
    I have been suffocated and alone without writing. Confused and angry that the words weren’t coming. But reading this just set me free.
    I love you Kim Sisto Robinson.
    You are a liberator. A total badass!!!
    xoxoxoxoxo!!!
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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 6:13 pm

      ~~~Wild Child Mama,
      I remember the first time I read your blog—I knew immediately that I’d want more of your voice, words, authenticity.

      & Now that you found Jesus, you even kick ass more abundantly.

      I LOVe that about you! Xxxxx KISS
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    Annette Molitor
    June 12, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    Dear Kim, I’m so happy to read your blogs. I feel so honored to be a woman who is going to be an effing 50 in September. And finally growing up to have a voice and say hey, I’m ok. I’m a loved daughter of God. So now I’m feeling inspired to show some of my unveiled bitchin beauty. Here it goes. READY? …Here I sit in my computer chair wearing only my underwear, Apartment too hot cuz thermostat on heater broke. I had to flip the circuit breaking switch to off and that’s no joke. I lean back, its a habit and and let my neck rest on the back of the chair, my back, arms and shoulders feeling the touch of long swishing hair. Call it self comfort, it’s what I do. The cat doesn’t mind, and I talk to her too. She shows her happiness while lying on her rug, belly in the air, one proud happy fat thug. I’m bloated cuz I ate too much pizza while gathered with family and now I’m chuggin ice water cuz I’m thirsty from too much spice and heat.

    One year ago from now I was with a self centered abuser. I was not allowed to be Annette. No wonder I always felt upset. I see him on dating sites and know from a friend, he cannot keep a woman, HA! Was I his means to an end? Does God bless a man who mistreats one of his daughters? I don’t know what the future holds, only that tonight I’ll enjoy my solitude, embrace my freedom, I’ll drink some more water and watch my goldfish. And heck, maybe I’ll indulge myself with a dish of ice cream with malt and nuts. Who cares if I add a few more dimples to my butt.

    Hugs…Annette

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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 6:14 pm

      Annette,
      have I told you lately that you are FABULOUS, hilarious, interesting, and write like a true kick ass writer? I Love! I love your details about cats, ice-cream, and sitting in your underwear. CLASSIC. Xxx

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        Annette Molitor
        June 15, 2013 at 8:55 pm

        Thanks Kim! Tis quite a pleasure to rcv such a compliment from someone I consider a great blog creatress. AM

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    ladyfi
    June 12, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    Great advice. I know of no blog that is more authentic than your own.
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    June 13, 2013 at 2:45 am

    Such great tips Kim!! 😀 They’re words from a wise woman and I think you totally hit the mark. Authenticity is key! Readers are clever and they can spot it if someone is faking it! xxx
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    June 13, 2013 at 5:54 am

    Perfect advice Kim! Although I am a shocker when it comes to the “self-pro,mote” thing – probably why I never wanted a job in sales!
    Have a beautiful week.
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    Amy@Souldipper
    June 13, 2013 at 11:23 am

    At times, it’s a pain in the behind to live on a small island! I’ve had the opportunity to meet one reader – and that’s because one of her old school mates/family friends just happens to live here, too. She recognized some scenes from my photos and said, “Do you live on ____ Island?” Outed. Amazing…and she’s only an “amateur sleuth”!

    So, Kim – good advice! I cheer when I see bloggers confident enough to only post once in a while. Actually, I look forward to notices of one of their posts! (Which reminds me…I’m AGAIN not receiving notices of yours. I think our two “platforms” must be at war. 🙂 ) At first, I tried to keep up with reading every one of my subscribed DAILY posters and just about drove my body into slug-dom!

    I really appreciate your style, topics and naturalness. Refreshing and rejuvenating!

    Keep it up – oops! Preachy? XO
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    Liz
    June 13, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Such a useful post, Kim…one I need to take to heart. I love my blogger friends…and hope to develop my writing skills to be half as awesome as yours! And if you and Lady Gaga become best buds, put in a good word for me 😉 xo
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    Jen
    June 13, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    You’re a wise cookie 😉
    As sweet as you are smart!
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    Dawn
    June 13, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Good advice. So hard to be a thoughtful, provocative and creative writer all the time. I think I bounce around too much. But I know I have several different groups of readers…the dog people…the truck people…the bank people…the library people…the family…on and on. So I figure whatever shows up out of the fingers will find someone. Though maybe if I were more focused I’d write a better blog. Hmmm…

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      My Inner Chick
      June 13, 2013 at 6:18 pm

      ~~~~Dawn,
      be yourself. Write whatever you damn well please.

      Like you say, whatever shows up — shows up.

      Never apologize for your brilliance. Xxx
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    Adriana Boatwright (@AdrianaIris)
    June 13, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    I read and comment because I honestly read and comment.
    I found you while I began blogging my first blog was on Skirt magazine,
    Later became a photographer for our local Skirt mag and kept on reading you.
    I am grateful you even bother with my posts. I feel they are insignificant and you are
    so polite to leave me a comment and some love right back.
    I must say one day I hope I get to hug you.

    Anyway. Your blog kicks my blog’s ass and I love your blog. xoxo
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    Amy Tong
    June 13, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    Excellent post, my friend. Not only I had a good laugh reading along, I learn a few good points to kick blog ass at the same time! 😀 Thank you so much for sharing. Happy Friday and have a great weekend ahead.
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    Angie@Angie's Recipes
    June 13, 2013 at 9:34 pm

    I just had to giggle a few times while reading this…you have a ass-kicking writing style that I totally enjoy.
    Have a wonderful day!
    Angie
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    Emily
    June 14, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    You always draw me right in. These are all really good tips!
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    countingducks
    June 15, 2013 at 5:30 am

    Well lets face it. This post is dripping with common sense and the understanding of someone who walks the walk with a passion and understanding few us can match unless we are having a one on one conversation with a box of chocolates. In particular, I am impressed with the way you hit social networking. This is my greatest weakness. No rephrase that. This is the greatest weakness I know about in myself, apart from chocolate, of course, beer, peering mindlessly into space and several other unprintable failings. I am going to go back and read the networking piece again. Perhaps I can learn. I have sweated over posts which have been read by three men in caps and a pigeon so I now what that is like.

    Thanks again for all your valuable words and for being you. Oh, and add ‘wind-bag’ to my list of admitted faults. This answer is too long xxx
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    ed p
    June 15, 2013 at 9:29 am

    what you say is so true, not that i know from a blogger’s perspective, but being real and true and honest is the way to live, so it must be the way to blog. this is beautiful wisdom, bringing our dark sides into the light. so difficult to be fully human openly. so worthwhile. thank you.
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    Bella
    June 16, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    Kim, I think we can never read enough tips on how to be better bloggers. I love what you bring to the table! I wholeheartedly agree with all that you’ve suggested here–especially the part about authenticity. I click to the next blog when all I read is a blogger’s toot tooting horn. Really. Like you, I want to be able to relate to someone who is as flawed and real as I am. Not only does this help me connect, it allows me to breathe knowing I am not alone! hee hee! Thank you for this post. I’m walking away more knowledgeable on what makes for a great blog! Hugs to you from Roxy and me! 🙂

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    Jodi @ Heal Now and Forever
    June 17, 2013 at 9:00 am

    People love you because you are love! Your card made my days! All the days since receiving it!

    BTW, I hope I don’t preach! xoxo Come guest on my blog, lady love, please!
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      My Inner Chick
      June 17, 2013 at 3:37 pm

      —Jodi,
      glad you received the card, dearest. I appreciate your support and love and words and encouragement so much!

      Love.
      Flowing. Xx
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    Blond Duck
    June 18, 2013 at 5:11 am

    I feel like I suck at blogging lately because I don’t do all the Facebook, Twitter stuff…I just want to write, not promote and market!
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    Tom Nardone
    June 18, 2013 at 5:32 am

    Hey this was a great post. And I love the title. I have never even heard of some of those social sites you mentioned. I will check them out.

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    Beverly Diehl
    June 18, 2013 at 8:21 am

    This posts kicks blog ass – have shared here, there, and everywhere. 🙂

    There’s nothing wrong with vanilla, or tapioca pudding, nice little girls out there who never, ever, say or write anything that might make people uncomfortable, let alone piss ’em off.

    But there are plenty of nice little blogs out there that do just that already. Why should *I* blog, if I’m going to blend into the sea of sameness? I’d rather kick some cans and light some fires. he-he-he
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    Lady Jennie
    June 20, 2013 at 10:55 am

    Something in your list caught my heart because I have been thinking – praying – about whether or not I should include posts on studying themes in the Bible. I know I would lose some readers, but hopefully not too many, and I hope I wouldn’t be preachy. (Would I?) I was thinking about studying things like what the Bible says about being judgmental (it says don’t be) or what it says about suffering (it doesn’t mean the person sinned).

    I was pleased as punch to get your card in the mail with a big smackeroo in it! 🙂
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      My Inner Chick
      June 20, 2013 at 1:06 pm

      ~~~Lady Jennie,
      No need to be preachy. Just present the bible as your heart allows you to. I find that the heart knows more than the head!

      Believe me, God will help you w/ this.

      So glad you got the card.

      YOU ROCkkkk, my French beauty!
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    Kimberly
    June 21, 2013 at 11:21 am

    Yup it’s the real raw honest writing that draws me in.
    I don’t give two shits that you just made a pie while holding your child while making your husband lunch and then vaccuming because you have nothing else to do.
    I call bull shit.
    I love you.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 21, 2013 at 11:30 am

      Haaaaaaaaaaa,
      That is funny, Kimberly.

      But there are those rare chicks who can write about vacuuming and making burnt pie and make the post fabulously deliciously kick assy!

      Chicks like you. Love you back
      Xx
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    Barbara @ Barbara Bakes
    June 22, 2013 at 5:46 am

    I definitely love my readers too. Your comments always make me smile. Thanks for your sharing your creativity and passion!
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    Noeleen
    June 24, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    Excellent! Pumped! Well said!

    🙂

    Oh, & social networking…. I’ve joined Twitter in recent months – would love to make some connections… https://twitter.com/InTheRoar

    🙂
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    The Redneck Princess
    July 6, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    I am sharing this everywhere…awesome post, great photo and the blonde is beautiful 🙂
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      July 6, 2013 at 9:42 pm

      Thanx, Redneck P.!

      The blonde is just as beautiful inside as outside! Xx

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    Ms. CrankyPants
    July 7, 2013 at 4:34 am

    WTH? How have I missed these posts? I thought I was following you, and you’re on My List Of Fabulous Bloggers, but somehow there are a shitload of posts I’ve not been alerted to.

    Okay, will remedy this at once (as much as my computer skilz allow, that is). Anyway, great tips!

    XOXO,
    Ms. C-P
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      July 7, 2013 at 8:23 am

      WHY the eff aren’t you getting my posts, man?

      FIX that! Xxx

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    Heather @ Sugar Dish Me
    July 11, 2013 at 5:43 am

    Well said!!!!!!! I think #3 was my favorite– the cookie cutter perfection annoys me. And there is A LOT of it in food blogging! (of all things! we all hafta eat, right?) Anyway… great post! Pinned to my blogging tips board 🙂
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      July 11, 2013 at 7:24 am

      Thanks for dropping by, Sugar!

      I love FOOD BLOGS. There are some kick ass foodies out there! Xx

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    Noeleen
    July 12, 2013 at 7:44 pm

    Awesome post – love it. BLOG ASS – YEAH 🙂
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      July 13, 2013 at 10:42 am

      You Def. Kick BLOG ASssss, Noeleen! X

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