In Memory of Kay

Flickers Of Light In A Dark Universe


–Sometimes words are not adequate to describe the astonishing
experiences of life.


This is one of those times.
This is one of those blogs.  This
is my emotional overflow.


Below are photos of my sister, Kay’s, walk to end domestic


Kay was murdered by her soon to be ex-husband May 26, 2010.  The world darkened, shook, & transformed into
blackness.   I literally lost my breath and heart and part of my soul.  And that’s the whole truth and nothing but
the truth.


…But in the midst of shadows and shade—surprisingly awaits
some flickers of light.


Here are a few photos, which have offered hope in a dark


–Beautiful Kay Modeling

Kay’s Walk to End Domestic Violence…Fox News was Fabulous. Thank you for bringing awareness to this epidemic.

Abby had Pink Lips, too.

Ed Dean, the man who received Kay’s Lungs- was there being interviewed by the news channels.

-Friends came to the walk from School!    How Sweet.

–Annette & I  Soaked

–More Friends.  Thank you for the support!

–Bloggers!  Val came in  from Texas.  Red flew in from South Carolina.  Can you believe it?  My blogging friends, whom I never met before–were at Kay’s Walk.

–Cupcakes with Pink Kay Lips!

–Two of my favorite chocolate chip loving people!  x

–My daddy grilling hot dogs.  LOVE Youuuu More.

More friends, cousins, and The Goddess in the middle.  Xx

–Daddy getting a massage.  How cool is that?   Thanks for coming Health Source.

–Sweet Nancy came prepared in rain gear.  Xx

–My mommy (The Goddess) meeting Ed Dean for the first time.  Ed has my sister, Kay’s lungs.

–Dinner after the walk w/ Tia, Val, Red, Me, & Trish in her veil.  Xx

–Ed Dean at Kay’s Gravesite the next day on his knees.  So many emotions.  So many hugs.   So much Love.

–This song dedicated to Kay & Ed with LOVE LOVE LOVE.

—Short Video of Walk:

—Help for Domestic Abuse:

—Info about Donating Your Organs:

—Val’s Fab Blog:  Val’s Tilted Tiara

—Red’s Fab Blog:  The M3 Blog

X X xxx



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  • Reply
    June 4, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    These photos took my breath away. Just so much love in them all. This is proof that there are good people in this world. To think that bloggers you never met came for the walk. And to see the man that received Kay’s lungs. So touching and beautiful. And your dad grilling hot dogs…..beautiful Kim…..what you’re all doing is wonderful.
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    Debi Pasricha
    June 4, 2013 at 2:30 pm

    Whoa, Mama. Thank you for sharing this. After my Kay-dedicated run on Saturday, seeing these pics made it all more touchable for me. I love thate your blogger friends came. How cool is that? And the photo of Ed and The Goddess is just too much to bear. He has her baby’s lungs. My gosh, it certainly like light in a dark universe.

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      My Inner Chick
      June 7, 2013 at 5:11 am

      I LOVE that you dedicated your run to Kay. I love love love that.
      Thank you, Sweet girl. Xxxxx

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    Red Dwyer
    June 4, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    Love love love being there. The walk was amazing! Everyone was so nice. Ed and Mr. L were so funny!

    The Goddess is fabulous, and Daddy is amazing. I was so glad to get to meet the boys.

    Had a fabbo time at Little Angie’s and Old Chicago. Cannot wait until next year!

    Much love and more posts coming!
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      My Inner Chick
      June 7, 2013 at 5:12 am

      Dear Red,
      thank you for coming, for your support, encouragement, Love.

      I LOooooooooooooVED seeing YOU and Val. WOW. Xxx

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    June 4, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    What an amazing weekend. The support at the walk is truly incredible. I am so lucky to be entering such a loving family with so many people who love amd care about you all!

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    June 4, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    Wiping tears reading this, and seeing these amazing photos. Kay is smiling down…so proud of you. So much love. So much awareness. Thank you.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 7, 2013 at 5:14 am

      Dear B.
      thank you for all of your support. It is MUCH appreciated. Xx

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    June 4, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    This warmed my heart. Every single bit of it.

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    Elisabeth Kinsey
    June 4, 2013 at 3:02 pm

    What a great turn out and wonderful for Fox News to support it by filming. Great!

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    June 4, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    What a fantastic event! Thank you for sharing these wonderful photos — each one filled with such love.
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    June 4, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Well done Kim, the pictures are great. It was great meeting some your blogging friends.
    Love You

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    June 4, 2013 at 3:44 pm

    This was a beautiful day and God Bless everyone that showed up. Digging the pink lips.
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    lisa thomson
    June 4, 2013 at 3:59 pm

    Wow. What a fantastic event you have put on Kim and the support for you is amazing. You are an inspiration! To see light after all the darkness and deep loss you have experienced is just a true symbol of hope.

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    Abby Byrd
    June 4, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Hi Kim, it’s “Abby.” Visiting your blog again after a long while. This is beautiful, all these people coming together. I bet Kay would be proud. Love ya. xoxo
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    Valentine Logar
    June 4, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    Loved being there, loved meeting you and all of your family and friends, loved being able to support you and support a cause that is so close to my heart in a real and meaningful way.

    What fabulous pictures!

    What a wonderful time, I love you more now than I did before the trip if that is possible.

    The cookies were perfection, how I am holding myself back from eating them all in one setting is beyond me.

    I cannot wait till next year!
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    Kim Gagnon
    June 4, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    My beautiful Kimmy
    What a beautiful blog. I was so glad to meet Dean and his family. I wish I had met your blogger friends too. You all are surrounded and saturated with so much love. I’m always honored to be a part of it. Love you forever and always. Xoxo

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      My Inner Chick
      June 7, 2013 at 5:22 am

      I love you forever always eternity, my Sweet Kimmy. Xxxx

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    Ellen M. Gregg
    June 4, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    I was with you in spirit, sweet Kim. The pictures are marvelous! What a fantastic surprise to have two bloggers show up, too. And Ed… I can only imagine how it was for The Goddess.
    Holding you *all* in the light, my dear. With love. xoxo

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    Hotly Spiced
    June 4, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    A sad day I’m sure but how wonderful that so many came and that you had your friends there, school friends, family, bloggers you’d never met before, and Ed, the recipient of one of the most generous gifts ever. I didn’t know Kay was an organ donor. How thankful that man must be. xx
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    June 4, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    No words. Just love – you are amazing.
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    Choc Chip Uru
    June 4, 2013 at 7:04 pm

    The love, commitment and number of people supporting this walk is truly heart-lifting 🙂
    A sad day, but also a day showing the generosity of humanity!
    And your sister my friend, she would be smiling down without a doubt. A beautiful post.

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    Joan Peterson
    June 4, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    Dear Kim,

    What a beautiful post. I am so thankful to have become a friend of yours and to share in this annual walk in Kay’s memory. In spite of the rain at the end, it was such a good event and for such an important cause. Meeting Ed was very special and also having a chance to talk a little to your blogger friends who came from so far away to honor Kay and support you. Thanks to you and to your family for doing so much to put on this walk.

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    Annette Molitor
    June 4, 2013 at 8:12 pm

    It was an awesome event Kim. As I walked along the path with the posted signs, I kept saying to Starr, Yes, I’ve heard that, Yes, I’ve had that happen and so on… Very validating and eye opening for people who question why they left their abusers.

    Blessings! Annette

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    June 4, 2013 at 8:15 pm

    I’m wiping away the tears here. A very moving and beautiful post.
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    Beverly Diehl
    June 4, 2013 at 8:42 pm

    Love you Kim, love the walkers and those who will always honor Kay’s memory, regardless of how they got to know her.

    Especially moved by Ed, her lung recipient. That picture of him at her grave made me cry.
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    June 4, 2013 at 8:52 pm

    I love seeing these and I love you. I think about you so often! I will make it there one day, too! amazing, amazing grace.

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    ed p
    June 4, 2013 at 10:52 pm

    hey great work. the video was really good.
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    Elephant's Child
    June 4, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    You will be shocked and surprised (not) to hear that I read this post, listened to the song, watched the video – and sobbed.
    You and your family are my heroes. I am sorry that you were forced into that role, but love the way that you have turned a tragedy into a force for so much that is positive. And, because you have we share your grief for the loss of Kay.
    Thank you.

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    Corinne Rodrigues
    June 4, 2013 at 11:38 pm

    I wept reading this, Kim. The power of love – the power of kindness – the power of words – the power of passion …… harnessed all of those along with your anger and grief to create this. You are a shining light. Kay must be so very proud of you and your loving, generous family and friends. In the words of my nephew, love you hundred to the sky! ♥
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    June 4, 2013 at 11:46 pm

    So glad you shared this. LOVED the pictures because I could only be there in spirit (and $) but am so proud of all the work you have done for this… for Kay… and for you. You rock, my dear e-friend.
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    June 4, 2013 at 11:50 pm

    Love, love, love everything about this post. And you.
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    June 5, 2013 at 1:27 am

    Kim, what a beautiful post and we should learn from this tragedy and never let it happen again xxx
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    Goodness and Grit
    June 5, 2013 at 2:09 am

    Just when I think you can’t possibly have more pics to share, you do!
    Each one amazingly out shining the next.
    I love that you shared this story and your memories from this monumental event.

    I would have loved to have been there.

    Klem, (hugs in Norwegian)
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    Jann Huizenga
    June 5, 2013 at 7:28 am

    Beautiful beautiful, Kim!!! You’ve warmed our hearts with this post. Val and Red are two amazing women, as are you, for having the strength and courage to make this special Kay-Day happen. A great big virtual hug to you for being so wonderful.
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    June 6, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    A lovely, touching post.

    Despite the loss of your precious sister, you are wealthy indeed to have so many friends to share your grief and your hope.

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    June 6, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    Val told me that you had more pics … thanks for sharing an it looks like the event was a success!
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    June 6, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    I have tears in my eyes…and thankful for your flickers of light. AND how cool that bloggers came to Kay’s walk!!! We are a special lot. xo
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    June 6, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Oh my. Certainly wonderful bits of light. Made me cry too. Kind of a combination of sad and happy tears. I imagine it was much the same with you and all those there. Somehow I missed that this was coming up. Maybe next year, you are not that far away. You’ll do it again next year…right?

    Hugs to you and your family and friends. An amazing lot you all are.

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    June 6, 2013 at 10:13 pm

    Kim, I’m so proud of you and I know Kay is, too, smiling and beaming her love on you. For you’ve turned your heart wrenching pain into something so good. I love your pictures, everyone is there in harmony for one purpose. And you made it all happen. I love that your dad is grilling hot dogs for the occasion. And that’s not rain. That’s Kay crying tears of joy for what you’re doing. Hugs to you, my blogger friend.
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    June 7, 2013 at 8:56 am

    I’m speechless, Kim. What a wonderful thing that was, to have a walk for Kay. Tell me, did you feel a connectedness to the man who received Kay’s lungs? I just know how grateful he must be, but how hard it must have been on her family to have her life cut short.

    Thank you for posting these photos. You’ve surrounded yourself with so much loving support! Know that those of us who couldn’t make it are sending you big hugs, too!
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      My Inner Chick
      June 8, 2013 at 6:35 am

      yes, we all felt the connection immediately.
      We now consider his family our extended family & talk on the phone etc… it is quite cool.

      btw, Ed says he hugs a lot now and devours chocolate. he never did this before, but Kaycertainly did.

      Xxxx LOVE.
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        June 9, 2013 at 2:15 am

        That is gorgeous. I never thought to ask that question – but this answer, that’s just wonderful.

        She lives on, Kim.
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    June 7, 2013 at 11:20 am

    That must have been such a great event! Although I can see you haven’t had too much luck with the weather, but I bet you have had such a great time!
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    feeling beachie
    June 8, 2013 at 4:50 am

    I have chills…. what an amazing post. The last picture of ed got me…
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    June 8, 2013 at 7:25 am

    The walk was amazing, your friends are amazing and you are amazing. There is so much love here, and raw goodness of heart that I know I would have loved to be on it. We’ll just ignore the fact that I’d love to eat one of your Dad’s Hot Dogs. I love Hot Dogs Mmmmm. Oh No, I’m going off topic now.
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    June 8, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    You are awesome, Kim, sharing your life and its sorrows and triumphs with us so generously. Very moved by you and your Mum and Dad, and Ed, and Val and Red coming to be with you. All my love and admiration, Narelle xxx
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    June 9, 2013 at 2:13 am

    My gosh, this is fantastic WHOLLY fantastic.

    Bless you for moving and shaking everything. You are awesome, truly. You are full of spirit, & your sister’s spirit lives.

    That Ed who received her lungs – how magnificent he was there, and vocal. Just magnificent.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      June 9, 2013 at 6:52 am

      yes, it is abundantly MAGNIFICENT! Truly.

      Xxx LOVE.

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    Amy Tong
    June 9, 2013 at 11:37 am

    What a great event with wonderful cause. My eyes teared up as I read your post. Thank you so much for sharing the pictures with us and bring on the awareness to many.
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    Blond Duck
    June 10, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    I should have flown in! 🙁
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    Lady Jennie
    June 11, 2013 at 11:16 am

    I’m all choked up. There is so much beauty through the sadness. I am particularly touched that the gentleman who received Kay’s lungs came.
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      My Inner Chick
      June 12, 2013 at 6:53 am

      it was a very emotional, beautiful weekend. I always find it amazing how sadness and laughter can somehow melt together. That’s kind of how it was.

      Love Xxx
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    Vidya Sury
    June 11, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Oh Kim, I am crying so much reading this post. I wish I could have been there! The love, the miracle of science and life…unbelievable.

    I just hugged you and Kay in my heart. I have the lovely Tshirt you sent me last year…and the gorgeous pink Kay lips. Thank you for being my friend.

    God bless.

    Love you more than the soft cottony puffs of white clouds in the beautiful blue sky right now.

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      My Inner Chick
      June 12, 2013 at 6:55 am

      Ooooo, you make me warm inside my soul, Vidya.

      I love you more than gold tigers sleeping in the moonlight of Nairobi.

      I wish you could come to the walk next year! O MY. xxxxx
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    June 13, 2013 at 5:49 am

    My darling Kim, I was with you in spirit and thought of you the whole day of the 1st!
    Such a sad yet beautiful and emotional, special day!
    Much love, hugs and pink kisses to you.
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    June 13, 2013 at 10:57 pm

    A long time ago, we had a foster daughter who lived with us for several years. We wanted to adopt her, but that was not possible.

    Later in life, she wade contact with us again. She was married with a couple of kids. We met her, her husband, and children.

    Marriage was more challenging than she could handle. She left her husband, and moved to a safe, supported space. One day she wanted some things from home. She thought it would be a safe thing to do. When she got home, he was there. He beat her do death.

    Domestic violence is very real. We ned to end it.
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