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Blogging Without Boundaries


–{For my daddy who accepts me,
understands me,  loves me, and reads
every single blog.  I loooooove you more
than 15 ebony panthers sunbathing in the Kisumu sunlight.}

 

In real life—I  have
boundaries.

 

For example,  If you were
to ask me about my sister Kay’s murder,
I’d tell you clearly and quickly – “It’s none of your business.”

 

If you cut me off on highway 61 like some asswipe,  I’d never in a million trillion years give
you the finger.

 

It’s just not my style.

 

Even while vacationing in the Virgin Islands,  Bermuda, or
London,
you’d not catch me sunbathing without my clothes on, my breasts exposed, my
skin open to the elements.

 

No.

 

But when I write,  when
the sentences fall to the page, when the metaphors drip from my mind….

 

I remove everything.

 

Every.  Single.  Layer.

 

The nylons.  The
necklaces.  The bra.  The gold bangles. The black boots.  The red lipstick.  The toenail polish.

 

Everything…

 

Until I’m standing totally naked in front of my readers.

 

All my imperfections dripping, glimmering, darkening.

 

It’s scary as hell showing the world who you are, what you
fear, how misunderstood you are.

 

After all, they might imagine you’re insane, sinful,
unworthy, ridiculous, incompetent,  irrelevant, and god forbid, mediocre.

 

On the other hand, they might discover you’re just like
them.

 

Overflowing with flaws, struggles, impurities, and a
thousand questions for your God.

 

In the Journals of Sylvia Plath, she asked the reader:   “Can you understand?  Someone. Somewhere.  Can you understand me a little, love me a
little?”

 

In reality, it doesn’t matter a flying shit if the reader
loves you.

 

What matters is that you write your truth.

 

That you remove your heart and write with your own blood.

 

That you strip your inhibitions.

 

Okay.  Let me start
again.

 

I found my “writing voice” when I finally let go, when I gave
myself permission not to worry about the judgment of others.

 

When I did this,  in
many ways…

 

I found myself.

 

 

—-Dearest Reader,  do
you undress when you write?  Metaphorically
speaking that is.


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  • Reply
    adrianairis
    November 25, 2012 at 9:09 am

    Most of the time I write commando. 😉
    Love this post.
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    Terri Sonoda
    November 25, 2012 at 9:28 am

    Hi sweet Kim;
    I haven’t written ‘naked’ in a very long time. Something has ahold of my right now, and I’m struggling to let go of it and get back to my truths. Your post reminded me of that. Thank you. I’ll be free again. I only need to allow myself the journey.
    LOVE you! XOXOs
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    Ashley Pariseau
    November 25, 2012 at 9:52 am

    I’m naked right now, metaphorically speaking that is. I think this just inspired my next post.
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    Vidya Sury
    November 25, 2012 at 10:08 am

    There’s truth in what you say. Except, while writing online, sometimes it is necessary to be guarded.

    But I signed up for the NaNoWrimo this year on Nov 8 and am writing as naked as I could get. But I’ve had to keep my spectacles on.

    Hugs. Love you just the way you are.
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    Heal Now and Forever
    November 25, 2012 at 10:10 am

    I’ve discovered that you are just like me! Full of looooove and willing to share all for that love!
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    Sandra
    November 25, 2012 at 10:11 am

    That was 10,000 leagues under the sea deep.
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    Irene
    November 25, 2012 at 10:23 am

    Sometimes. I like to be respectful of others feelings. I can be down right nasty, so I like to keep it tolerable.
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      My Inner Chick
      November 27, 2012 at 12:07 pm

      Irene,
      when I am talking about authentic writing, I’m not talking about being NASTY. NO! Never.

      I’m talking about your own experience & truth and life….

      I’m talking about showing your imperfections, flaws, shit.

      I’m talking about writing about Kay’s murder in a VERY raw way.

      I’m talking about not being a FAke.

      You. Are. Not. Fake!! Xx
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    Lafemmeroar
    November 25, 2012 at 10:43 am

    Love this post … very honest. I feel your voice with every blog post I read … your voice is strong and it’s yours … YOU GO CRAZY CHICK!
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    Trish
    November 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

    Sure dont, but always wished I could because I have so much admiration for those that do (you!)! xoxo

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    Barbara
    November 25, 2012 at 10:54 am

    I don’t know any other way to write. The blogs I love, like yours, are honest and sometimes raw with emotion. They grab you with their honesty and hold you waiting for the next post.

    I don’t know that’s why people come back to my blog but it seems most prefer raw honesty.

    great post Kim!
    b
    p.s. Thanks for tweeting my black friday rant! xo
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    erin margolin
    November 25, 2012 at 10:57 am

    Hi,

    I found you through Vidya Sury, whom I adore. And I’m so glad I came to read this. I identify completely. I need to get back to writing naked more…I’ve been stagnating. I’ve got a lot on my plate and my blog has taken a back seat. But must change that soon.

    Also? I love Sylvia Plath. Always have. The Bell Jar is my favorite book and her poetry is stunning.

    erin
    @erinmargolin
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      My Inner Chick
      November 27, 2012 at 1:54 pm

      Erin,

      Sylvia Plath is the first writer I encountered who UNDERSTOOD me.

      I was like “OMGgg, this is ME!”

      Xx I Love your work!!
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    Amy@SoulDipper
    November 25, 2012 at 11:43 am

    Have I ever gone to bed saying, “Omigod, did I REALLY click on “publish”.

    Yes.

    Did I want to get out of bed, come and delete it?

    Yes.

    BUT! That very same bare naked post had a host of readers compared to other posts.

    More phenomenal? I can’t even remember which one it was – except it was posted in the first year.

    That experience gave me the courage to put a stickie up on the wall in front of me. “Do it anyway!”
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    Kathy
    November 25, 2012 at 1:12 pm

    Wow, this is an important reminder. I try to write in my birthday suit, though I don’t always succeed. Hope your weekend is going well.
    Hugs,
    Kathy
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    November 25, 2012 at 1:14 pm

    What imperfections? You don’t have any ’cause you are perfect just the way you are!!!

    I semi-undress because some stuff I believe is way too TMI and no one’s biz. Raw is OK as are honesty (even brutal), and transparency. But just like some people’s TMI makes you cringe, I don’t want to do that to others. Other stuff I share because it builds up inside me so much that if I don’t strip down and throw it into a blog post, I will not get any sleep. It overwhelms me, overtakes me, forces me to write. In the end my writing goal is to make people think, smile, feel good, and hopefully to learn something sometimes. I am not out to change the world. I just want someone to feel awfully glad they stopped by.
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    Choc Chip Uru
    November 25, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    You are so honest and open my friend it is true – expressing yourself through writing is one of the best ways to let your guard down 🙂
    I’m very shy in real life 😛

    Cheers
    Choc Chip Uru
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    Unknown Mami
    November 25, 2012 at 2:05 pm

    You are beautifully honest in your writing and your imperfections are what make you perfectly you. I would say that when it comes to my writing I am a flasher and expose myself.
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    Joan
    November 25, 2012 at 3:58 pm

    I loved this post. I am too guarded usually because of the nature of my posts. I get attacked when I am honest about what I believe and challenge violently held beliefs about guns. But that’s the only way to affect change, right? You challenge people to think differently and to open up. Your posts often make me cry and if they don’t make me cry they make me smile or even laugh. That’s what good writers do. Your gift to your readers is your nakedness. Thank you for that.
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    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    November 25, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    That has to feel like therapy to write then!
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    Liz
    November 25, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    Love this post!!!!

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    Tara
    November 25, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    This reminds me of a quote by Cyril Connolly:

    “Better to write for the self and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.”

    I wish I could write like you, Kim. But I’d be lying if I said I wrote without boundaries. I’m still growing in that aspect, I guess. But I admire your courage, and appreciate it so very much.

    Love you!

    Tara
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    Jann Huizenga
    November 25, 2012 at 7:04 pm

    Kim, you are certainly a Blogger Sans Borders!!! BRAVA for your bravery. We love you for that.
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    Alison
    November 25, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    I love the real you. The real, raw you.

    I can’t quite go naked yet. There’s just too much at stake. I can’t even explain myself nakedly. Sigh.
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    Annette Molitor
    November 25, 2012 at 8:07 pm

    Kim, I just love and admire your boldness when you write. God Bless you!

    Annette

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    Noeleen
    November 26, 2012 at 3:06 am

    This is so lovely. You must have a wonderful relationship with your dad, and that’s…. just so beautiful.

    He’s done a huge and wonderful job.

    And your site rocks! 🙂
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    November 26, 2012 at 5:58 am

    Kim, you are such an inspiration. You are such a wonderful human being!
    Lots of warm sunny South African love to you,
    🙂 Mandy xoxoxo
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    Valentine Logar
    November 26, 2012 at 6:00 am

    Sometimes I wear pasties (with tassels) and a g-string. I twirl them, even set them on fire. The spirit gum reminds me how much it hurts to strip entirely. Even when I write in blood, I still hold something aside. I am still opening the doors of my heart, still finding the cages I have hidden away.

    I understand the statement ‘It is none of your business’.

    I suck at complete revelation. I am still to fearful, still scared if I show everything I will be rejected.

    This is why I love you. You lost your fear.
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    Charlene Ross
    November 26, 2012 at 7:41 am

    Love your brutal honesty Kim. I love everything you write. I don’t actually stand as naked as you do when I write. I’d like to, sometimes I do, but often I’m very guarded and protective. Maybe one day… I hope so.

    Keep doing what you’re doing – you are doing it right!
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    Ellen M. Gregg
    November 26, 2012 at 8:08 am

    Kim, your quote reminded me of Ernest Hemingway: “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”

    I love that you are able to shed all your clothing inhibitions and write unfettered. I aspire to that, but I self-edit to a fault. It prevents me from bleeding all over the keys.

    It’s a strange thing, to want to bleed (in that way), and yet I do… It will come. xoxo
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    Debi Pasricha
    November 26, 2012 at 9:32 am

    I love this! Yes, I do completely undress when I write, but then the editor in me comes and usually manages to put all my clothes back on. :/
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    Brenda
    November 26, 2012 at 10:21 am

    I approach whatever I am writing with my heart. What comes after is always a surprise, regardless if I am writing fiction or nonfiction. I believe each of who write approaches the task from different corners. some such as yourself are not afraid of the honesty within, others are more circumspect. The writing process is a mystery and as unique to the person doing the writing. Lovely insight, Mistress Kim.
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    Kimberly
    November 26, 2012 at 10:42 am

    YEs. YEs….this is why I come here all the time you write. You let it all out and now that I know that you’re naked, it makes it that much better…was that creepy?
    PS. I’m not wearing a bra. IT’s braless monday in Canada.
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    Debbie
    November 26, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    My dear Kim, that’s why you’re so loved — you put it all out there for everyone. No judgment here! I so admire your ability to say what’s on your mind, to express your feelings whether happy or sad. Good writers don’t give a hoot how their work will be evaluated, whether they’ll be liked or respected or go down in history. They say what they say and move on. Good for you — xoxo
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    Kimmy
    November 26, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    My dearest friend. You are perfect to me! Love lots!!!!

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    Nicole
    November 26, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    I got naked on the piece I posted Friday. Waiting for the fallout.
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    Dad
    November 26, 2012 at 6:43 pm

    Kim, You are a perfect daughter, and i love your writting. When you get ready to write your book i am
    so looking forward to read it.
    Love You More Than 15 Hippos Bathing in Lake Victoria
    Daddy

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      My Inner Chick
      November 27, 2012 at 9:38 pm

      Daddy,
      I love you more than 10 siamese cats, 5 tigers, & 5 panthers swimming in the Kenyan Moonlight.

      Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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    Bridget
    November 26, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    I do not. But then, I usually write about poop.
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    Solid gold creativity
    November 26, 2012 at 7:59 pm

    Wow, I’m transfixed. “Write with your own blood.” Yep, that’s what you do and what has us all coming here.

    Most days, it’s my intention to write naked. Some days, I manage it; others, I don’t. The days I like best are those days when I write something raw and from the moment I hit the publish button it vanishes like it never was. On those days, there is nothing anyone could say to me about the post that would disturb my perfect peace.

    Do you know you’re also channelling F Scott Fitzgerald in this post? Here’s the advice he gave in a letter to a family friend on her short story: “I’ve read the story carefully and, Frances, I’m afraid the price for doing professional work is a good deal higher than you are prepared to pay at present. You’ve got to sell your heart, your strongest reactions, not the little minor things that only touch you lightly, the little experiences that you might tell at dinner. This is especially true when you begin to write, when you have not yet developed the tricks of interesting people on paper, when you have none of the technique which it takes time to learn. When, in short, you have only your emotions to sell.”
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      My Inner Chick
      November 27, 2012 at 9:40 pm

      **You’ve got to sell your heart**

      Ahhhh, A man to adore. Xxx I Loooooove.

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    ladyfi
    November 26, 2012 at 9:40 pm

    You are the most honest and genuine blogger I know! And I love that about you.
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    November 26, 2012 at 10:18 pm

    The truth and honesty is what people want. I do reveal myself although hubby likes to keep anonymous so he’s a bit hard to write about. But we love your honesty Kim! xxx
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    Kelly @ Inspired Edibles
    November 27, 2012 at 7:50 am

    So nice to see that you are dedicating this post to your loving father whom I have noticed many times commenting, patiently observing and supporting. How lucky are you!

    I would say that my writing, like most actions and inactions in my life, would more accurately be defined as motivated by fear :).

    Thank you for your inspiring words Kim! xo.
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    Monica
    November 27, 2012 at 10:04 am

    Kim, it’s such a scary thing to bare your true soul, to dig so deep where there are so many layers of years, and pain. I try. Sometimes people tell me they can’t believe how much of me I’ve revealed. But I know that I haven’t even begun to scratch the surface. There are certain things I can’t yet write about. I keep trying, though. Great post!
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    Carrie
    November 27, 2012 at 10:42 am

    Kim’s dad, ((((((((hugs)))))))) you must be very proud of your daughters! And you a blessing to them. More dad’s could take a lesson in fatherhood from a man like you.

    I started to get naked after reading your blog Kim, reading your raw emotion I could feel your pain and although I couldn’t relate totally to why you were in pain, I could relate to the pain. I respected your honesty in not holding back and saying it like it really is. I had posted a few “naked” posts but after reading you site I stopped second guessing myself or editing it later. Now I let the words flow, some times I completely change course and end up some where else. But I don’t edit it any more. I think I type naked because I have been stripped of everything, there is a love song with the line in it “lying broken on the floor” and that is the way I felt when I started my blog, I was broken, stripped of everything and left to die, no pride, naked. So that’s the way I write. I replied to a comment saying I was courageous for what I post and I don’t know that it is. I think its desperation sometimes, anger other times and just plain sorrow, other times its because I see the humor in life no matter how silly it is. Like finding a picture of my dog with my ex’s toothbrush in his mouth and remembering I never told my ex about it. I laughed so hard! And I think its hilarious!! So I share it, all I have left to give to the world , to make a difference, to stop another woman from death or death of her soul or to show you can survive abuse if you leave. I am desperate to get that message out. You can’t help other people if you hold back, if you want people to relax and give them a place they feel safe to express themselves you can’t hold back, if you are naked they know you won’t judge them.
    But YOU were the catalyst to unleashing this naked monster!
    Hugs from Canada to you Kim and Kim’s Dad. 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      November 28, 2012 at 6:21 am

      Carrie,
      (( Naked Monster.)) I like that.

      You. Are. Beautiful.
      I shall make sure my daddy reads your comment. <3 love flowing from Minnesota.

      What part of Canada? xx
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        Carrie
        December 3, 2012 at 9:14 am

        I am in Abbotsford, BC about an hour east of Vancouver. I have to tell you Kim, I was just offered my dream job, at a pay rate I picked, company vehicle, medical and dental. It has been two years since I left my abusive ex; two years of struggling, of doubting myself. Reading your blog always makes me cry but it also has given me strength to keep hanging on because I wanted to prove you can leave with nothing, heal and be happy.
        I am more than a “survivor” I am not longer a victim, I am thriving.
        Keep putting the message out there Kim! I am sure Kay is watching and so proud of you.

        You rock!
        Carrie the Ladywthatruck

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    Jack Milgram
    November 28, 2012 at 1:58 am

    I love to hear your voice, and I know how hard it was to find your own blogging style. I put off my hat to you, charming lady. Keep on posting – you are really doing good in it.
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    countingducks
    November 28, 2012 at 3:21 am

    I am pleased and reassured that you leave your real life undressing for Mr Liverpool. This is exactly as it should be in my opinion. As for how you should write, that is also exactly as it should be. It is the honesty and integrity of your words, and the loyalty you have to your sister’s memory which always draws me back. True love is selfless and without agenda. Wants nothing more than to celebrate the person they know. To that extent I love you and your writing.
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    Hilary - Feeling Beachie
    November 28, 2012 at 4:23 am

    Isn’t it amazing how much writing helps us? I am way more open with my emotions on my blog than in real life… I find it easier to get them out

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    Corinne Rodrigues
    November 28, 2012 at 8:01 am

    This is just what I needed to read today, Kim. I’m in the process of learning to be open and ‘naked’ in my writing – I realize it’s the only way. I’m much more guarded in person.
    Thank you for being YOU, Kim. ♥

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    Caroline
    November 28, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    Wonderfully said, Kim, thanks for sharing. The feeling of vulnerability while expressing yourself is a beautiful thing. Writing is such a great outlet. xx
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    Red Dwyer
    November 28, 2012 at 7:13 pm

    Kimmy, dear sweet naked Kimmy,

    I write this way with every word. Every book. Every post. Every love note. Every post it.

    I speak this way. Every sentence. Every nod. Every shake of the head. Every batted eyelash.

    I cannot imagine girding who I am to please anyone else. For you see, those who would look away, those who would not listen, those who would walk away, have missed out on what may well change their lives.

    Keep it naked, chica. I love you.
    xxx
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      My Inner Chick
      November 29, 2012 at 5:39 am

      **I speak this way. Every sentence. Every nod. Every shake of the head. Every batted eyelash**

      Red, you are beautifully magically undressed and gorgeous! LOOooove. Xx
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    Blond Duck
    November 28, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    That is so true. When I write, I feel like I’m slicing open a vein and pouring it out over the keys.
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    Wild Child Mama
    November 29, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    “I found my “writing voice” when I finally let go, when I gave
    myself permission not to worry about the judgment of others.

    When I did this, in
    many ways…

    I found myself.”

    CHILLS, chills spilled all over my body when I read this. My eyes swelled a little with some passionate tears. YES! This is it! This is why. This is why I write, too. And I love you for saying it. I love you for writing it. Because there are so many odd voices that sometimes challenge the beauty of this discovery, people who would rather the truth just be shoved away in a drawer to be looked at in private. But then, they never really get to experience the truth that way. And I JUST CAN’T live that way. And I wish everyone would write! Even if it is never shared with another soul. Just tell your truth!!
    Grrrl, you know I’muna be writin’ tonight!
    Moooowa!!!!
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      My Inner Chick
      November 30, 2012 at 5:37 am

      Mama,
      why do you think I read your blog?

      Cuz you write naked. Your book is going to be a unbelievably naked, too. Xx LOve Love.
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    marenbrekke
    November 30, 2012 at 2:17 am

    I’m just getting started with my blog and it’s scary to open everything up to people I know and don’t know. I’m living between two vastly different cultures and I have to keep them both in mind.

    But, I am really trying. I am really trying to take it all off and get down to the true feelings that I’ve very deliberately trained myself to bury deep in the sand.

    Thank you for this encouraging post.
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    Emily
    November 30, 2012 at 7:15 am

    You know, I think I’m really only just beginning, but yes — more and more.
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    Bella
    November 30, 2012 at 4:36 pm

    Kim, darling, there is no doubt in my mind that you write in the way that you’ve described in this post. I’m in awe of your talent as a writer and of your worth as a human being. If the world had more people like you, I’m convinced it would be a better place. That said, I enjoy every word, every sentence, every post that you write. Because it’s real. Because it comes from the heart. Because it embodies your every feeling, your every emotion, your every angst. And that’s why I keep coming back for more. I can’t get enough of your honesty and the way you call it like you see it. I love, love it. Do I undress when I write? I want to think that I do. I’m at the point in my life when I don’t give a rat’s ass what people think. However, I think I still have a long way to go before I can say I’m as wonderfully naked as you are! Love you! 🙂

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      My Inner Chick
      December 1, 2012 at 7:09 am

      Bella,
      everything you just said, every word…is how I feel about you.

      YOU. make. everybody. Better.

      Love Love Love <3 Xxxx

      Now, Go get Naked!
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    The Reason You Come
    December 2, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    It’s sometimes scary to write without boundaries. I ask myself, what if my words turn people off? But then again, on the other hand, there’s nothing more beautiful – or more pure – than the truth.
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    Jessica
    December 3, 2012 at 6:53 pm

    This is exactly how I write. I once read another writer who had experienced intense grief and she said that she “blogged as if no one was reading” and for me, that is really the only way to do it. I have to write through it or else I can’t seem to keep moving forward. Much love to you Kim.

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    Girl with a New Life
    December 4, 2012 at 10:51 am

    Big. Time.

    And when I read my first page on the radio last week I started crying on air…

    Because that’s how I do.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      December 4, 2012 at 1:56 pm

      I listened to that interview.

      didn’t your read my response?

      You were brilliantly real! Loooooooove. Xxx

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    Renée Schuls-Jacobson
    December 8, 2012 at 4:48 pm

    You have touched a nerve.

    I am mostly honest. And sometimes people don’t like what I’ve said. Like when I wrote about the man who treated me badly and has — for the last 25 years — been abusing women, um…his mother didn’t like that.

    I was okay with that.

    Harder is writing about my family: the cracks in the foundation. I’ve never written about my mother. I can’t. I can’t find an angle that isn’t ugly. And who wants to hear that? And it isn’t my intention to wound her. One day, I’ll be free to write all of that. But not now.

    Right now, there are topics I just dance around in my high heel shoes. But one day, I’ll be naked with you.

    If you know what I mean. 😉
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    Beth Teliho
    December 10, 2013 at 9:58 am

    Hi there. I think we had each other at wine on my blog, so I came to visit you and WOW. First let me say I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and I’m truly and profoundly impressed with the work you do to get the word out about domestic abuse in her honor.

    Onto the subject of this post – writing naked. This is a subject close to my heart! I wrote a post about two months ago (Blogging Takes Big, Hairy Balls) that sort of became my blog identity (hence my badge reading “I blog with balls”:) Anyway, I think in some aspects I do write naked, but only in areas where I’m comfortable being stripped. I conveniently avoid the areas I’m not comfortable, and I’ve been struggling with that lately, which is why I find this particular post timely. I’m totally comfortable being silly, zany, filthy dirty, self deprecating, etc. etc. BUT, I’m not comfortable being emotional or deep. Emotions are too vulnerable for me. I have readers whom I actually see in real life, and it’s too hard for me to look at people in the eyes who might have read about something I’ve opened up about. For this reason I keep certain subjects sacred, even though the writer part of me aches to write of them. I’m at a bit of a crossroads. Your post is inspiring. I hope it helps me!
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      December 11, 2013 at 5:48 am

      Beth,
      I love your honesty.
      When you are ready to write deeper, you will.
      this title rocks: Blogging Takes Big, Hairy Balls.
      I shall go read it immediately!
      Xx

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    Considerer
    December 12, 2013 at 11:54 am

    You’re certainly inspiring – I clicked over here from Beth (see above) who today wrote striptease, so thanks for inspiring that, at the very least.

    I like what you write though. It makes absolute sense to me…to an extent. Because though not physically, emotionally I often find myself naked with people in real life, as well as where I blog. Because some things, some hurts, are too big to hold back. And no, I don’t flaunt them in a tawdry way in order to get attention…but to explain, to engender understanding and (hopefully) compassion. And some things just damn well need to be talked about – the boundaries need to be smashed and the sunlight needs to flood in. And I can do that.

    I can do that.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      December 12, 2013 at 1:45 pm

      Dear Consider,

      YES.
      you. can. do. that! xx

      btw, I find when I smash the boundaries, I continually observe light.

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        Considerer
        December 12, 2013 at 2:59 pm

        It’s a thing, forsure. The responses so far have been incredible. I guess you’d know though – good, ain’t it 🙂
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    Alice
    May 20, 2014 at 5:00 am

    What an amazing group of readers you’ve bought together Kim. To read their honesty & zeal in meeting your words & challenge to blog ‘naked,’ to leave all the imperfections uncovered, wow! I’m so aware that I take the light & fluffy high road a lot of the time. Your words inspire me to go deeper and to listen to my true inner blogger. Thank you!
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