In Memory of Kay

Break The Silence


 

–When
you are silent about domestic abuse, you become part of the abuse itself.  Silence is a killer  I should know;  it murdered my sister.  —Kim Sisto Robinson

Thank
you to my family & friends for being part of this Domestic Violence Video
to End the Silence.

It was difficult
to go back to that horrendous, dark day, but we got through it as we always do…Together.

I love you more than all of the Dove Chocolate
in the Universe, 10 white tigers in the Kenyan moonlight, & every book
written by Elizabeth Berg.

–My sister & soul-mate was murdered by Mike Peterson on May 26, 2010.  The sun dried up.  The world is Less without her.

 

~~~~Get Help  NOW for Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Sexual Abuse,  Physical Abuse, Finacial Abuse- or any other kinds of abuse…..800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.

http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/ PLEASE  Do  Not  Wait   One.  More.  Solitary.  Day.

 


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  • Reply
    Helen Herrick
    October 22, 2012 at 7:07 pm

    Powerful. Moving. Tragic. Beautiful. You are all amazing.

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    Dangerous Linda
    October 22, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    Kim, I love you and I commend you. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m so grateful for all that you are and all that you bring to ALL THAT IS! I would like to share this at https://www.facebook.com/DangerousLinda. OXOXOXXOXO
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    Amy@SoulDipper
    October 22, 2012 at 7:23 pm

    Here we are, Kim, in nations where we have the freedom to speak up and use our voice. In this part of the world silence is an ugly form of avoidance, irresponsibility and selfishness.

    Those of us who can speak up, do so for those who cannot.
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    Blond Duck
    October 22, 2012 at 7:45 pm

    My heart breaks for you.
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    Lady Fi
    October 22, 2012 at 8:41 pm

    So very very moving. Painfully so.
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    nan @ lbddiaries
    October 22, 2012 at 9:07 pm

    I would like to write something for you but my heart is in my throat. I’m choked up. Tears in eyes, running down face. So, so powerful. I just wish it were not necessary. For everyone in the video.
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    Pam Hogeweide
    October 22, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    Heart wrenching and powerful and devastating just as it needs to be.

    Unholy silences destroy.

    Thanking God for your roar. You are saving lives, I’m sure.

    (hug) from rainy Portland

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    Bridget
    October 22, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    It’s so powerful hearing your voice.

    Love you.
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    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    October 22, 2012 at 11:30 pm

    So very affecting and emotional. Wow.
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    Carrie
    October 22, 2012 at 11:31 pm

    Kim, I wasn’t able to view it on my phone but will watch it as soon as I can get to and internet connection. I am sure it is a powerful message. Whenever I have a woman visit my site who has every typical excuses for not leaving her abuser I direct her over here. No one delivers the message with more passion and raw emotion, than you. You are making a difference. YOU are saving lives!
    It just so happens this was my post today

    Silence can say so much.
    Silence tells the victim they are alone, they don’t matter, they deserve the abuse
    Silence gives the abuser the power to continue the abuse
    The only way to end abuse is to end the silence,
    Stop blaming and shaming the victim into silence
    Stand proudly and speak loudly against abuse and
    Put the blame and shame where it belongs.

    You inspire me to speak loudly and proudly about domestic violence.
    Hugs from Canada
    Carrie

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    shooting star
    October 23, 2012 at 12:42 am

    earlier i had this notion that domestic abuse only happens in the Asian countries and that the western world with its powerful women is free of it!!!

    but i guess this is prevalent everywhere!!

    a powerful video!!
    and love to you..i knw how it is to lose dear ones in a such a sad manner!!

    http://sushmita-smile.blogspot.in/
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    Alison
    October 23, 2012 at 12:57 am

    Yes. This.

    Your big heart, your family’s big heart, you put it all here, for Kay, and for all the women out there who can still save their lives. You are amazing.
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    Sabrina
    October 23, 2012 at 1:40 am

    Silence is a killer – Yes indeed that’s really true.
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    Elephant's Child
    October 23, 2012 at 2:10 am

    Oh Kim.
    There are big fat tears rolling down my cheeks again. The work that you and your family do is completely amazing.
    You are all heroes. And I am so so sorry that you had to be.
    Hurting for you, hurting with you. Always.
    I think of you and yours when I take a crisis call from people with domestic violence in their lives. I so hope that I can make a difference and keep one family from the pain that is yours.

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    Solid gold creativity
    October 23, 2012 at 2:23 am

    Kim, thank you for naming the issue: keeping silent. Keeping silent for fear of not looking good, for fear of avoiding looking bad. And here’s my stand for you: that one day when it feels OK by you that you forgive yourself, forgive yourself for being human. Love and hugs, Narelle xx
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    Jodi @ Heal Now and Forever
    October 23, 2012 at 2:37 am

    Keep spreading the message. I love the video.

    Bow,
    Jodi
    xxx
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    October 23, 2012 at 2:40 am

    Kudos Kim, to you and your family for having such a powerful voice for so many people! Kay lives on strong in all of you, always.
    Love, love, love,
    🙂 Mandy xo
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    Debbie
    October 23, 2012 at 3:21 am

    You are so brave and are doing something that will save lives….This video just hits the heart full force…..

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    Valentine Logar
    October 23, 2012 at 4:37 am

    As always Kim I can say only one thing to you and to all your family, I am here and I mourn with you and for you. I have been where your sister was, I was lucky I ran before it was to late, before he could kill me. You are right, our silence fills oceans with our tears.

    I love you

    Val

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    Sandra
    October 23, 2012 at 5:57 am

    Sending you hugs and lots of love. I pray that you never lose your voice.
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    Phil
    October 23, 2012 at 6:03 am

    Kim,

    The video is powerful, moving, and raw. It is so because it is real. It is genuine. You gave me glimpse of what was going on in your head, and as a result, I could feel a pain in my heart as those thoughts spilled out from your voice.

    “Once you witness an injustice, you are no longer an observer but a participant.”
    ~ June Callwood ~

    I found that quote on Aurora Morealist’s blog the other day, and if I could add to that quote it would be, “And once we are a participant, we can no longer be silent.”

    Blessings to you and your family, for not only dealing with a tragedy that can never fully heal the wounds, but for also showing incredible strength and purpose in this life shattering tragedy to help someone else. There is no doubt in my mind Kim, that your work has already saved others, and will continue to do so.

    Phil
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    Jann Huizenga
    October 23, 2012 at 7:46 am

    Kim, your poem is absolutely heart-shattering. What shines through with full force in this video is how beautiful your family is. I love and admire each and every one of you.
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    Debbie
    October 23, 2012 at 8:26 am

    Hugs and Prayers for you and your family, Kim. Such a moving, heart-rending piece here!
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    (FL) Girl with a New Life
    October 23, 2012 at 9:28 am

    So much courage and heart-breaking honesty here.
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    Liz
    October 23, 2012 at 10:48 am

    Kim,

    Oh my god, this made me cry. Your words and the images and stories of your sister. You all are right – BREAK THE SILENCE. As I was watching the above video, the picture slide show of your sister (on the right hand bar of this page) was playing & I just started crying. I did not know her. But I have heard Kay’s story, and so many others, and it makes me cry. And then you have to stop crying & BREAK THE SILENCE. It is scary, hard work but IT HAS TO BE DONE.

    Thank you for sharing your words and this video and empowering people.

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    Adriana
    October 23, 2012 at 10:55 am

    I have shared this through Twitter and facebook. xoxo
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    jen
    October 23, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Kim,
    TV, it should be on TV. It’s
    message is so raw with your
    feelings of love and loss.
    i believe you message is a life
    saver and should be heard.
    You all just amaze me. Love you xxoo
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    Sandy Webb
    October 23, 2012 at 2:01 pm

    Just beautiful Kim. It is such an important message to get out there. If through this you help just one person it will be worth the painful memories that were stirred up.
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    Pat Scattergood
    October 23, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Oh, Kim. This is powerful. It’s so difficult to listen, yet so very important to hear. And hear it we must. All of it. Thank you for persisting in getting the message out. God bless you and your family.
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    Tia
    October 23, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    I am proud of you Kimmers, Love you!

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    Liz
    October 23, 2012 at 6:54 pm

    So well done, my friend. You are helping to break the silence…keep it up. I see your strength.
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    Pamela
    October 23, 2012 at 8:26 pm

    You say so much with so few words, but so powerfully. Beautiful, Kim.

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    Monica
    October 23, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    Kim, What a powerful video. What a powerful message. I hope women listen, if only one. If only one.

    Kim, I don’t know what happened, but I’ve been subscribing to your blog and something must’ve happened because I stopped receiving notifications of posts. Anyway, glad I just figured it out and resubscribed. Sorry I’ve missed a few, but will try to go back and read soon.
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    October 24, 2012 at 5:00 am

    Never forget, never be silent, never think that you’re alone xxx
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    Tina Barbour
    October 24, 2012 at 7:01 am

    This is heartbreaking and powerful. You are doing so much good out of your heartache.
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    Brenda
    October 24, 2012 at 8:16 am

    Powerful voice, message, LOVE, hurt, anguish. Tears. I don’t know what else to stay.
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    Rocky Mountain Woman
    October 24, 2012 at 1:39 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve endured a few losses myself and I know how heart wrenching it is.

    Your tribute to your sister is beautiful!

    xxoo,

    RMW

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    Lady E
    October 25, 2012 at 12:46 am

    Silent hugs to you Kim. Your voice is heard. xoxo
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    Emily
    October 25, 2012 at 4:23 am

    Your voice gives courage to so many. Thank you.
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    countingducks
    October 25, 2012 at 5:05 am

    It always chills me when I think of victims of domestic abuse, who are often too frightened to say anything, certainly at the time the abuse is happening. I have some knowledge of this area, and its one I go into with a heavy heart. Your gutsy and tireless campaign against this evil and the people who perpetrate it always has my support and my admiration.
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    Vidya Sury
    October 25, 2012 at 7:38 am

    Blessed are they who know you, hear your voice and read your blog.

    My Mother was a victim of domestic violence and remained silent. For five years, she tolerated being used as an ashtray in the places that hurt the most, and other unspeakable violent acts.

    It is soothing to see the video and the support.

    Love you more than twenty temple lotus ponds, Kim. Hugs and love!
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    Kelly @ Inspired Edibles
    October 25, 2012 at 3:55 pm

    Powerful. Beautiful. Heartbreaking. Perfect. This video is a blessing.

    xo.
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    Lafemmeroar
    October 25, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Very powerful Kim. I’m sharing this on Twitter … for those who still need to break the silence of abuse. Thank you for sharing …
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    Blond Duck
    October 25, 2012 at 7:15 pm

    I hope you’re doing well!
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    Laci
    October 25, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Sending many hugs!
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    Joan
    October 26, 2012 at 5:27 am

    Thank you for all you do, Kim. I am so grateful that my daughter is leaving a relationship that has gradually turned into one of emotional abuse. She has never been in harm’s way, but she was silent in the face of increasing put-downs of herself and lost some of her self esteem in the process. Now that she has moved back to Minnesota from Pennsylvania, she is away from his hurtful words. By breaking the silence and fighting back, she has regained her self esteem and has become a stronger young woman. Being a single mom will be hard. But it won’t be as hard as what she has gone through. I never thought I would see a child of mine go through such pain. Being involved in the Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs has allowed me to see how her husband has used his power to control her. No more. She is now making noise. I hope other women will heed the signs and get out of relationships that demean them or get the help they need. Abuse takes many forms. Women need to stand tall and stand up for their own power. Like you, I learned the hard way that when a man is angry about losing that power, it is too easy to kill. Both of our sisters are now dead as a result. Keep writing. Make noise.
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    Dawn
    October 26, 2012 at 1:41 pm

    I’m so so sorry you and your family have gone through this. Please know you are making a difference, you are saving lives. It doesn’t make it all better, but it is something. I hope you realize how important your work is.

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    totsymae1011
    October 26, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    Blessings, Kim.
    I only have one sibling. My sister. We have our ups and downs. Mostly up, thankfully, and I’m not sure I could handle anything happening to her. So, I know how deep that love is. You’re most appreciated for your courage to speak on behalf of your sister and other women.
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    Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson
    October 27, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    Isn’t this month National Prevent Domestic Abuse Month or something like that? I’ve always thought it kind of stupid to dedicate a month to things that are unjust. To things that we need to rail against all the time. To tell people we need to watch out for each other, keep our eyes and ears open for signs.

    And yet.

    If it saves one life, well then…okay.

    Do you ever read Alexandra Rosas stuff? She’s the dynamo behind the blog Good Day, Regular People.

    Google her. She just ran a series called “Red Flags.” It is horrifying and stunning, and I know you will get it.

    xoxoRASJ
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    Barbara
    October 27, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    Kim this is so powerful and so important. I think we may be on our way to a serious campaign. You know I’m in!
    xob
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    October 28, 2012 at 3:58 am

    We love you Kim. Never stop talking about this, we won’t either! xxx
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    elizabeth
    October 28, 2012 at 11:09 am

    what a video. I loved hearing your voice, but I hated what you said about Kay being shot. She must be so proud of you right now and forever. We are breaking our silence. xoxox
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    Lady goo goo gaga
    October 28, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    Beautiful, this blog and your relentless passion for domestic abuse victims is amazing! xo

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    Jack Milgram
    November 2, 2012 at 1:52 am

    It’s a tragedy. It’s tearing up my heart when I hear your voice and watch this video. Nobody has the moral right to keep silent.
    We are breaking our silence
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    ed pilolla
    November 2, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    i just covered a preliminary hearing for a domestic murder. thought of you and kay.
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    Mary @ A Teachable Mom
    November 4, 2012 at 7:02 pm

    What a powerful, heartbreaking story. Thank you for sharing this important message with all of us. Bless you and your family and everyone suffering abuse of any kind.

    Visiting from Write on Edge.
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    Kimmy
    November 5, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Kimmy.
    I wish I was part of your video! I’m sorry I had to work. You all did a awesome and courageous job. Love you

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    Deb @ violenceunsilenced.com
    November 5, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    This is so powerful and brave, so very moving. So sorry for your family’s tremendous loss.

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    Elisabeth Kinsey
    March 4, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    Very powerful and very needed! Thank you for turning your tragedy into a movement. Goddess bless her and your family.

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    Tia
    April 12, 2013 at 12:05 pm

    When I think that there is no more tears left in my body, they still come. I love you Kim!

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    Nikky44
    April 6, 2014 at 3:26 pm

    Thank you Kim for sharing it again today. Some days are so hard, they seem endless. On days like today, I feel I loose hope, I feel like I wish I never left and escaped. Some days like today I wish he killed me. Then I start feeling guilty for being so weak. Then I think of you and of Kate, and I cry and calm down. Thank you. Love you.

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