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859 Days


Grief is like sinking, like being buried.—Lauren Oliver,



~It’s been 859 days since he murdered you.


It’s been a Lifetime.
It’s been a Helltime.  It’s been
Darkness & Fog.


It’s been sharp
fingernails and fangs scratching inside my heart.


But I’ve finally gone an entire week without crying, without
going insane, without thinking about your face day in and day out.


I called mom and exclaimed,  “I haven’t cried all week!”


And I heard her smile her Mama smile thru the other end of
the telephone.


I go to see you often to ponder, reflect, pray, listen to
your chimes sing your songs.


I seem to always be alone even when I’m not alone.


I listen to Lady Anabellum & Mercy Me. I discovered a
new artist, whom is probably an old artist who you would LOVE Love love named  Lincoln Brewster.   I play THIS SONG over and over while I sit
next to your marble stone.


Do you miss me?


Because I feel you leaving me, the very scent you, your
breath of sunlight.


Your  pink lips are fading
into sapphire sky.


And I haven’t heard you calling my name in the middle of the




I’ve already forgotten your voice.


I think, I truly think when I hear it again;  that sweet soft sound of wings.


I shall fall.


Fall endlessly–


Into where you are….


And never return.

–My Sister, Kay, was Murdered by Mike Peterson 859 Days ago.  The mourning never Ends.   The Love NEVER ends….

~~~~Get Help  NOW for Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Sexual Abuse,  Physical Abuse, Finacial Abuse- or any other kinds of abuse…..800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224. PLEASE  Do  Not  Wait   One.  More.  Solitary.  Day.


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    Debi Pasricha
    October 1, 2012 at 4:03 pm

    Beautiful. Your pain and your love are palpable.
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    October 1, 2012 at 4:19 pm

    Love you!

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    Heal Now and Forever
    October 1, 2012 at 5:45 pm

    ((Kim)) a big hug full of love from me to you!
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    October 1, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    Sending you hugs, my friend….love the song.
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    October 1, 2012 at 6:03 pm

    Sending love.
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    October 1, 2012 at 6:14 pm

    Oh my heart hurts for you, especially where you’re forgetting her voice. But not her heart, yes? She’s in you, her heart. xo
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    Choc Chip Uru
    October 1, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    Your pain but love is tangible my friend – beautiful and haunting

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    Jann Huizenga
    October 1, 2012 at 7:03 pm

    I’m wiping away tears.
    Pink lips fading into a sapphire sky: You are holding onto Kay with words, and letting her fly free.
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    Jann Huizenga
    October 1, 2012 at 7:05 pm

    Kim, I forgot: a little birdie told me it’s your birthday this week. Happy birthday, sweet virtual friend!
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    Pat Scattergood
    October 1, 2012 at 7:37 pm

    It will be a sweet reunion. Love you.
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    Cait the Arty Runnerchick
    October 1, 2012 at 7:59 pm

    oh my gosh…my deepest condolences! wat a poignant way to remember your sister…and i’m so very sorry. XOXO
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    Impulsive Addict
    October 1, 2012 at 8:31 pm

    Another great post from you! I can’t imagine that pain and I hope I don’t have to. You will see her again. Just be patient and enjoy your time here with us until then…

    Hugs to you!!
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    Elephant's Child
    October 2, 2012 at 12:21 am

    So much love. So much pain. I feel them both.
    Hurting for you, hurting with you.
    She is a part of you, now and always.

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    Valentine Logar
    October 2, 2012 at 2:35 am

    My arms go around you and hug you, it isn’t enough ever I know. But I am here and I will mourn with you. My voice won’t replace hers, but it will be a different voice to remind you, you are loved.
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    October 2, 2012 at 3:21 am

    Your words always touch my heart. So beautiful yet so sad……always holding a good thought for you.
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    Ellen M. Gregg
    October 2, 2012 at 4:05 am

    Beautiful, Kim. I love the “mama smile” through the phone; I know that smile. xoxo

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    October 2, 2012 at 5:04 am

    Hugs, love and tons of birthday wishes. Your heart and your soul knows the sound of her voice.
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    October 2, 2012 at 7:53 am

    What’s the saying? Time heals all wounds? I’m not sure that’s true but I think with time there’s clarity. As certain memories fade perhaps purpose will come clearer. Kay’s in no hurry for you to join her where she is now. She’s with you always and guiding you to new purpose.
    What do you think?
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    October 2, 2012 at 8:24 am

    Such a pretty picture my friend…
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    Corinne Rodrigues
    October 2, 2012 at 8:30 am

    I think of you and Kay so often in my prayers, Kim. All my words sound so empty in the face of your deep, deep sorrow. ♥♥♥
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    October 2, 2012 at 8:36 am

    The love, the pain,
    the fog, the longing, the counting…
    I understand
    xxxooo jen
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    Sandy Webb
    October 2, 2012 at 8:51 am

    I am so happy you have reached this point. The grief will never, ever go away, but most do learn to live with it. Not crying for an entire week mean you are learning to live with it. It will forever be a part of you but the intensity softens. Giant hugs for you!!!
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    October 2, 2012 at 10:18 am

    I wish that I knew what to say.
    Just know that I love you and think about you a lot…xoxo
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    October 2, 2012 at 12:03 pm

    Beautiful writing, Kim.

    Are you contributing to Beverly’s invitation for bloggers to post on domestic violence? You’d be a strong and courageous voice for Kay, as you usually are.

    You’re getting stronger and better every day and will always miss your sister. The arms of comfort will continue to be with you.
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    October 2, 2012 at 12:31 pm

    Kim, You are keeping the memory of Kay alive just like she is keeping several others alive by her
    organs that she donated.
    Love You So Much

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    October 2, 2012 at 12:33 pm

    You’re not really forgetting your lovely sister. This is just Time’s way of numbing the pain. I think that means you’re getting stronger! Sure, you’re always going to miss Kay and wish she were still here, but perhaps it’s a tiny bit comforting that she isn’t missing you?? I mean, if we believe that those in Heaven NEVER EVER suffer, doesn’t that mean she’s enveloped in perfect Love? And one day, when you two are reunited, what a happy celebration that will be!
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    Dangerous Linda
    October 2, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Dear Kim,

    I’m holding you in my heart.

    love, love, love.
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    October 2, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    Love you!!!!! Beautiful song and pics

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    October 2, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    You’re so beautiful, Kim.

    Thinking of you, as always —
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    Linda Medrano
    October 2, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    So beautiful. That’s all I can say.
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    October 3, 2012 at 12:22 am

    Love, love, love to you darling Kim.
    🙂 Mandy xo
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    Solid gold creativity
    October 3, 2012 at 6:11 am

    A week without crying is a milestone. Part bitter, part glad perhaps. All my love from Melbourne, Australia xx
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    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    October 3, 2012 at 6:29 am

    I think she’s smiling that you hit that milestone. I really do. 🙂
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    Beverly Diehl
    October 3, 2012 at 6:43 am

    It’s not that you will ever forget her, but that Kay’s memory will become more and more like a whisper and a caress, and less like a knife in the heart. Love her, love you.
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    Unknown Mami
    October 3, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    Loves and hugs, that’s all I have.
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    October 3, 2012 at 10:02 pm

    Absolutely beautiful Kim. Many thoughts and big hugs to you xxx
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    Lady Fi
    October 4, 2012 at 8:12 am

    So painful yet so full of love and beauty.
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    October 4, 2012 at 9:20 am

    I never read your posts without being moved by the quality of your feelings and the loyalty of your emotions. That she inspired such expression is an eternal tribute to her and her time with you
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    October 4, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    You are setting her free Kim, and you know it’s okay, because she will always be with you.
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    October 4, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    No words, only love. You will not forget her voice. Remember the lines, “i can you in my heart….”
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    Blond Duck
    October 4, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    I’m so sorry.
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    Kelly @ Inspired Edibles
    October 5, 2012 at 5:26 am

    Beautiful and heartbreaking. Thoughts, love and warm hugs to you – xo.
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    Vidya Sury
    October 5, 2012 at 11:54 am

    You know I mourn with you, Kim, each time you express your feelings about Kay. The love we have for those we lose keeps us going, because they live in our hearts, our actions and our memories. Somehow this helps us survive sanely, most of the time. Kay lives on through the people she gave life to. God bless you! I wash you peace, my dearest Kim!

    Thinking of you and love you very much!
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    (FL) Girl with a New Life
    October 9, 2012 at 8:15 am

    Sending more love and light your way.
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    Lady E
    October 9, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    oh Kim, I can feel you torn between hope, the gently fading pain, the life that goes on regardless, and your grief, your sadness at letting little bits of Kay go…
    All I can do is send you much love from across the ocean. Wish I could hold you and say Things will never be the same, but they will be ok.
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    October 24, 2012 at 6:55 am

    Your words are always so beautiful and painful Kim………….hang on there, Kay is with you wherever you go, whatever you do, whenever you feel sad.
    LOVE. xx
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