In Memory of Kay

What Dies Inside

—-“Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside while we live..”—-



–It’s rather odd, I know, but I’ve been thinking about you
all day long-


…like a sort of burning sensation traveling thru my body.


Like a sort of love and hate and indifference strung
together with black indistinguishable pearls.


I awoke remembering it was your birthday.


March 31st.


I remembered.


I don’t know why.


I just did.


And it hurt me, stung me, made me feel physical pain.


Deep Inside.


I thought about how Kay used to invite us all over for
chocolate cake, vanilla ice-cream, and marinated grilled chicken.


How she used to make you blow out all of your candles.


“You did it!”  she’d
scream.  “Now make a wish.”


How she’d try to compensate for your anti-social


“Well, are you going to say thank you for the gifts,” she’d say.


How she’d run round the house trying to please everybody.


“Do you want more coffee?
Can I get you some salad?  Take mooore
cake.  We’re not going to eat it all.”


You sat there.  Just sat


Why were you nothing when you could have been something?


A husband.

A father.

A human being.


You had  e v e r y t h i n g.


Three outstanding sons.


And you had  my sister–


You son-of-a-bitch.


You had the kindest, gentlest woman I’ve ever known.




Today I remembered  it
was your birthday.


&  I felt unspeakably sad for you.


So fucking sad that you remained unchanged—


After so many years of

love.  love.   love.


And I felt sorry for your mother.


Knowing she’d awaken sad, too.


Heart-wrenchingly, horridly sad that today is her son’s birthday


But she can’t call him.


Can’t see him.


Because he’s dead and buried—

& decided to take Kay with him, as well.  He took so many of us with him…….


Mike Peterson Murdered my sister, Kay, on May 26, 2010.   We thought he’d change, but he never did.  Today is his birthday……Will you say a prayer for his mother, please? I hear she is having a very hard time.


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  • Reply
    March 31, 2012 at 4:37 pm

    You are an amazing person.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:03 pm

      Love flowing your way, Liz. X

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    March 31, 2012 at 4:47 pm

    I don’t know if I could have ever written this.
    But you are right, that b-hole took a lot of people with him that day. I will definitely pray for his family.
    And for you. Lots of strength.
    Love you like mad
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:05 pm

      I couldn’t have written this one year ago……believe me.

      Love flowing to Canada from MN. Xxx

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    March 31, 2012 at 5:11 pm

    Kim – what a loving person you are to remember his mother. She will be in my prayers. You. are. amazing. Hugs always.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:06 pm

      thank you for praying.

      You are beautiful. X

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    March 31, 2012 at 5:43 pm

    How sad. It must have been both painful and cathartic to write. The saddest part of this is that he took your sister with him. I could say so many things about this selfish action but will not. It angers and I’m a stranger so I can only imagine how you feel. It’s so compassionate of you to think of his mother on this day. God bless.. …

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:07 pm


      I say many things about him…
      he was a VERY selfish man.

      And sometimes I do not believe he was a man at all….

      thank you for reading my mourning… Xx

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    March 31, 2012 at 5:52 pm

    kim, love your honest and open heart.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:07 pm

      How kind of you to read my mourning. & weeping..


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    Katy Clark
    March 31, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    So many broken hearts, shattered dreams and empty arms. I shall pray for both families –
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      O, Katy,
      so many empty arms…

      but someday I shall wrap my arms around Kay once again. Xxx

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    ed pilolla
    March 31, 2012 at 7:01 pm

    beautiful kay. rest in peace.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      Beautiful Beautiful Kay…

      almost too beautiful for earth…


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    March 31, 2012 at 7:35 pm

    I will pray for his mother; it must be so extremely difficult for her. Your sister reminds me of Jackie O. Has anyone else ever said that? So very beautiful, from what I’ve read here; inside and out.

    God bless you Kim, you are in my thoughts often.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:12 pm

      Jackie O. for sure.

      But most people told her she looked like JLo. xx

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    March 31, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    Kim, It takes a lot to do what you’re doing. To be thinking of his mother in the midst of your grief, well, you are a remarkable, compassionate woman. Sending you lots of hugs and well wishes, my dear.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:13 pm

      thank you for reading, encouraging, commenting, and caring. Xxxxx

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    March 31, 2012 at 8:12 pm

    Why do they always want to take others with them?
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:14 pm

      because they are ASSHOLES and SELFISH and MEAN.

      see you soon, dear.

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    The Flying Chalupa
    March 31, 2012 at 8:15 pm

    It’s amazing just how many days and birthdays and occurrences bring you back to the same tragedy. I am so sorry. It seems like each day has a connection, doesn’t it?
    Big hugs to you

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:15 pm

      Dear Flying,
      each day….every day…

      for the rest of my life.


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    Lady Fi
    March 31, 2012 at 10:31 pm

    You have such a compassionate heart!
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:16 pm

      Lady Fi,
      I’m trying…it’s hard as hell. xx

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    Vidya Sury
    March 31, 2012 at 11:23 pm

    So sad when these memories stay clear. You’re a good person Kim. And such a kind one. Love for you.

    I understand. Hugs and kisses.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:19 pm


      I’d love to Skype w/ you sometime.

      I know you!


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    Corinne Rodrigues
    April 1, 2012 at 12:04 am

    Kim..what a big heart you have ….To think of his mother and request for prayers for her! I will pray for healing for both families. Loving you…
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:19 pm

      Loving you back, Corinne. Xxx

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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    April 1, 2012 at 12:17 am

    Kim, you are an amazing woman!
    Love from a cool SA.
    🙂 Mandy xo
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:20 pm

      I feel your heart beating from South Africa, M. xx

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    April 1, 2012 at 12:43 am

    I can see Kay doing all of those things you mentioned. How tough it must be for everyone that one person can cause so much damage and break so many hearts. Yes, I’ll pray for his mother and family. Your heart is big to make this request.

    Hugs to you.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:21 pm

      Thank You, Tots. I believe in the POWER of prayer.

      ——- isn’t it amazing how ( one decision) can change so many lives?

      He hurt so many people for so many years.

      Love for you. Xx

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    Feeling Beachie
    April 1, 2012 at 5:39 am

    How beautiful… and you are amazing that you wanted us to pray for his mother.. It is funny, when I read about him and your sister, I never once gave thought that he had a family too, and what his mother must be going through….

    Sending you hugs…
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:22 pm

      He hurt MANY…including his own family.


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    April 1, 2012 at 7:33 am

    Kim, I Didn’t remember his birthday, just because i didn’t care. He never meant anything to me,
    it was like he was nothing. When we were around him he had a way of making things a little bit
    worse or sad or even depressing. But i do forgive him only because God forgave me.
    Theres an old saying (DIEING IS EASY IT’S LIVING THATS HARD)
    Love You So Much

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:23 pm


      I know.

      He could have been so much more…but he ended up being a MURDERER.

      I love you more than all the chocolate in the world. Xxx

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    April 1, 2012 at 7:44 am

    Prayers for his mom, for Kay, for you, and even – yes – even for him. xoxo

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:24 pm

      Thank you, dearest.

      Xx Kisssss

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    Jann Huizenga
    April 1, 2012 at 9:12 am

    Kim, I think this is the first time you’ve written about him, or at least in such detail. What a powerful and haunting piece…
    Hugs to you.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:26 pm

      this is true. the first time.

      I had another blog all planned out…. and then awakened w/ that deep pain…
      thus, I changed my post.

      So Ironic….
      ….since I’ve been despising everything about him for so damn long.

      Many Kisses…Xxx

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    April 1, 2012 at 9:30 am

    Sending you peaceful hopes for today.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:27 pm

      I feel you hope. Xx

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    April 1, 2012 at 10:35 am

    You amaze me! I love you!!!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:27 pm

      And I love you, too, Tia. Xx

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    April 1, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    I looooooove you!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:27 pm

      Not more than I love you, dear African Queen. Xx

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    April 1, 2012 at 4:03 pm

    Kay, It’s so sad that there are so many victims in this. Too sad. You are very kind to remember his mom and ask for prayers for her. Prayers and peaceful thoughts are coming your way.
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    April 1, 2012 at 4:04 pm

    Oh stupid me…..I’m sorry…I meant to write Kim……

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:28 pm

      ~~~~Actually, people did this all the time….

      We were that close.

      Do not feel stupid or badly. Xxx

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    Alison@Mama Wants This
    April 1, 2012 at 5:50 pm

    You’re amazing for thinking of his poor mother. I’m thinking of you. xo
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:29 pm

      –Thank you, Mama A.

      Thank you for reading my mourning-weeping-mourning-weeping…. xxx

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    Kelly @ Inspired Edibles
    April 1, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    Sending love your way and Mike’s mom’s way too ~

    hugs, xo

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:30 pm

      Much Love Pouring out to YOU. Xx

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    April 1, 2012 at 6:18 pm

    Kim, how kind and compassionate you are! Your heart is big, lady, and the fact that you’re able to think of this man’s mother, or her pain, is just another step of the healing process. I can’t even imagine what this mother must feel. I would think that this day must be one filled with angst and regret. We can only pray that the good Lord will grant her serenity and conformity. As for you, bless you for your compassion. Surely this is what makes you the extraordinary person you are. I am proud to call you a friend. Hugs and kisses for you.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:31 pm

      If I am extraordinary in any way…

      it is because I know people like you…who encourage and inspire me. Xxxxx

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    Beverly Diehl
    April 1, 2012 at 6:56 pm

    I cannot imagine, if my son did something like this, how I would feel. Besides shattered. Probably ask myself, over and over again, what I could have done differently. Surely I could have done something differently, right, I was his mother.

    Sending love and prayers to his mother, to his sons, and to you, dear lady.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:33 pm

      Thank you for your thought provoking comments (always).

      His mother, I have heard, is taking this quite badly.

      ….and I am sure she is saying over and over again: WHAT DID I DO WRONG?

      Xxx Love.

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    April 1, 2012 at 7:49 pm

    Bastard, Fucking Bastard. Is it wrong to have such strong feelings for someone you have never met? Because I do. Bastard.

    Bless you Kim for making it through each day. You are an inspiration.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:34 pm

      Not Wrong, Laci.

      I’ve been screaming “fucking bastard son-of-a-bitch” for 23 months now.

      Xxx Love to you, sweets.

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    nan @ lbddiaries
    April 1, 2012 at 9:08 pm

    This was touching and yes, I will pray for his mother because she’s the one who lost someone who chose to be unredeemable. How that must have broken her heart – he chose.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:35 pm

      ~~~~ I know you will pray.

      Thank you, my sweet, sweet Nan. XXx

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    April 1, 2012 at 10:01 pm

    sending you all my love. a mothers love. how much heartache and sadness. as a mother we cant help but wonder.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:36 pm

      –A mother’s love.

      Yes. No love is greater…Is It?

      Thank you for all of your kindness, words, & inspiration, Adriana. Xxx

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    April 2, 2012 at 1:21 am

    We love you Kim xxx
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:36 pm

      Not more than I love you, Lorraine. Xxx

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    April 2, 2012 at 1:33 am

    That makes me cry. Your words are full of love, the sad love I talked about. You can always touch my heart with what you write. Maybe because I am living it? Maybe because I know you care, but mainly because I am sure that you understand. You understand more than anyone else can, because you know how Kate reacted and why, you know what she has been through, and now SHE knows how strong you are and she is so proud of you.
    If you remembered his birthday, it’s because Kate wanted you to. She remembered it to from where she is, and whispered that in your ears while you were sleeping. She wanted you to write that post to say I forgave, please forgive so that you can be free and heal.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:38 pm

      I cried reading this..
      because I KNOW this is exsactly what happened.

      I know this to be true.

      Your words moved me, moved me, moved me.

      Because they are true. Xxxx Many Kisses

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    Elephant's Child
    April 2, 2012 at 2:07 am

    Gut wrenching, heart hurting for and with you. And yes, you are a truly wonderful person to remember his mother in the midst of the pain he caused.
    Hugs from afar.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:39 pm

      ~~~~Elephant’s Child,

      I have missed you.

      Hoping you are well. Xxx

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    jodi aman
    April 2, 2012 at 3:49 am

    I will say a prayer for his mother. And kay and the boys… with love, Jodi
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      this is appreciated.
      i believe stongly in the POWER of prayer.

      Xxx Kiss

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    April 2, 2012 at 4:47 am

    So heartbreaking! Your thoughts for his mother are unbelievable. Remain strong and passionate! I am with you! Hugs!
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      HUGS Back.

      Thank you for your kindness.X

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    Lady E
    April 2, 2012 at 7:14 am

    Dear Kim, your compassion humbles me.
    You have a big and beautiful heart. xxx
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:47 pm

      Lady E.

      I am trying,
      but it is hard as hell to be compassionate sometimes.


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    (FL) Girl with a New Life
    April 2, 2012 at 7:27 am

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:48 pm

      Thanks for visiting my mourning / morning pages. x

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    April 2, 2012 at 11:25 am

    You are a beautiful and compassionate woman. Hugs!
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:48 pm

      Hugs directly back to you, dear. X

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    April 2, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    Kim the fact that you can hold compassion for someone who has taken so much from you and others, speaks volumes about you as a person. You are truly amazing. Sending prayers out to all.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 2:49 pm


      One. Day. At. A. Time.

      Thank you, Sweet Girl. Xx

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    April 2, 2012 at 5:46 pm

    I’ve thought about that aspect of all this….his side of the family. I hope they’re grieving just as much. And realize what a bastard their son was.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 10:07 pm

      Dear Irene,
      I know they are grieving ….

      This is what I know for sure…I also know they loved their son…

      And I know this…
      I Shall
      MOURN FOREVER for my sweet sister.

      xxx Kisss for you.

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    April 2, 2012 at 9:11 pm

    Tomorrow, in my meditation, beautiful Kim, I am going to send you a golden blanket to wrap yourself in when the pain feels unbearable. It’s golden light is healing…you are beautiful and deserve healing from anything that may hold you back from truly being alive.

    You’ll be able to do that when you are ready. When it’s your time.

    The best revenge is to live a whole, loving and vital life yourself. Don’t give him the power to kill two sisters!

    I want love and beauty and goodness for my sister while I am alive and I have reason to believe that desire is even stronger when souls move to the other side.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 2, 2012 at 10:09 pm

      your words are just that:

      “A golden blanket.”

      thank you for wrapping that around me…


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    April 3, 2012 at 7:23 am

    What a beautiful heart you have Kim, so rare, so true.
    Because you are Love, only Love can drive your life. Thinking about this woman who lose her son and live with the madness of the past, my prayers go to her………….and Kay, to you and your family, to the ones who stay behind with scars, pain and tears only love can heal.
    Much love.xx

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    April 3, 2012 at 10:55 am

    Sending love on the wings of doves.
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    Stacy Uncorked
    April 3, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    You are amazing. Sending lots of hugs and love your way.
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    April 3, 2012 at 2:57 pm

    When I realized you were talking about Mike, I had to start back over to absorb your words again. I’m sad for his mom, too. It was nice of you to mention her. She is beyond devastated, I’m sure, that her son would do something so horrific.
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      My Inner Chick
      April 3, 2012 at 3:41 pm

      I have a feeling his mother feels as I do ( in a way )..

      that her life is much much much LESS…

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    April 3, 2012 at 5:28 pm

    THat’s so beautiful that you pray for his mother… I can’t picture myself that I would mention the mother of the murder of my sister in a context like yours. You are such a great person!
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    April 4, 2012 at 4:11 am

    Opening your heart for his mother shows how compassionate you are…you are an inspiration.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 4, 2012 at 5:38 am

      I do hope so…

      because it’s been hard as HELL <3

      thank you Xx

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    joann mannix
    April 4, 2012 at 5:05 am

    You are so kind. So very kind. I will say a prayer for his mom. And for you. And your sweet sister, that she is watching over you, in a wonderful place, happy and peaceful until the day you will be united again.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 4, 2012 at 5:39 am

      this is truly what spurs me forward…


      Knowing this is not my home & that one day I will be with Kay once again in Paradise.

      Xxx Kiss

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    April 4, 2012 at 6:24 am

    ”Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside while we live..” Oh, honey, I am thinking of you. Your words really got me thinking.
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    Wild Child Mama
    April 4, 2012 at 10:35 am

    I have said many prayers for her now. That the weight she must carry as a mother be lifted. That Jesus hold her and soften her pain.
    Another powerful and haunting message. Too many dates have taken on new meaning. I am always so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew her!
    Xoxo and so many hugs.
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      My Inner Chick
      April 4, 2012 at 12:43 pm

      –Dear K,
      You would have loved her <3

      thank you for your many prayers….

      I believe in the POWER of prayer.

      xx Kissssssssssssssss
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    April 5, 2012 at 6:05 am

    I will pray for his mother, and for you, and for Kay. It is so hard to understand why, and I know on his birthday, you and his mother were asking the same questions.


    I am so sorry.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 5, 2012 at 10:32 am


      I’ve been asking ((WHY)) more times than I want to remember.

      Love to you. Xx

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