In Memory of Kay

651 Days


 

It was a fine cry – loud and long – but it had no
bottom and it had no top, just circles and circles of sorrow.”
–Toni
Morrison

 

 

 

 

—I hate to call whatever I’m on a journey, but I guess
that’s what I’ve been on for 651 days now.

 

A journey of loneliness, insidious shadows, and unfathomable
aloneness.

 

A journey of a loss so incredibly deep that I cannot
comprehend it all at once, cannot swallow it whole.

 

I figured out that humans have this unique apparatus, which
only allows slices, segments, and fractions of  pain inside a little at a time….or we’d die from
the unbearableness of it.

 

Then I imagine, well, what’s so bad about that?   What
the hell is so bad about that?

 

Before Kay’s murder, I was under the impression that a
journey had a destination, an objective, a purpose.

 

For example, one attends college and receives a degree.  A woman gets pregnant and delivers a
baby.  One flies from here and arrives
over there.

 

However, when one mourns, the so-called-journey is eternal.

 

There is no ending.

 

There is no finale.

 

There is only a birth of sharp black rotten teeth…

 

Biting.
Biting.    Biting.

 

Some mornings, I awaken with a familiar joy.  The kind of joy I had before all of this
happened.

 

And then I remember—Oh,
Kay is gone.  My sister is dead
.

 

Or I’ll begin laughing about some hilarious ridiculous
story, and quite suddenly, I STOP.

 

What the fuck am I
laughing at?  My sister is gone.  My sister was murdered murdered murdered.

But even now thru
this haze of fog,

 

There are those extraordinary occasions when

in between the hours
of darkness…

 

A slight flicker of light seeps thru…

 

And I look at Mr. Liverpool at the end of the day and
exclaim,

 

“You know what?  I
haven’t cried all day long.”

My sister Kay was MURDERED by Mike Peterson 651 Days ago.  The Missing & Mourning Never Ends.  Never.

Donate to The Kay Marie Sisto Memorial Walk on Sunday, May 20th on the Waterfront Trail.  More Info to come….

800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.

http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/

In Memory of Kay

CLick for help if you are being physically abused, verbally abused,

emotionally abused, belittled, diminished, finacially abused,

sexually abused, or  minimized in any way.pink lips Xxx

 


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104 Comments

  • Reply
    Ann
    March 21, 2012 at 7:49 pm

    Wow….powerful stuff. I’m glad there are days that you don’t cry. Everyone should have those days. Hugs to you, my friend.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:14 pm

      Ann,
      And Hugs right back to you. Xx

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    jen
    March 21, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    It is so painful isn’t it kim?
    My heart hurts for you SO much.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:16 pm

      Jen,
      Yes, Painful. Some days are worse than others.

      thank you for reading my mourning. x

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    Wild Child Mama
    March 21, 2012 at 8:08 pm

    That Toni Morrison quote rocked my world. I’ve never heard that one. I will have to borrow it! That works out perfectly;)
    I am going to add you to my prayer list. Not the one-time prayer list. The often one. Where I think of you and my new buddy Jesus.
    Your words are so powerful. The black teeth. Wow. That is a picture.
    Praying;)
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:17 pm

      Wild Mama,
      Glad to hear Jesus is your new buddy.
      When I’ve cried out to Him, He has never disappointed me…

      Until Now.

      Xxxx Love.

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    Alison@Mama Wants This
    March 21, 2012 at 8:16 pm

    I know your grief will forever be a part of you, your love for Kay so deep. But, may more and more light seep through the darkness. For you deserve the light.
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      Beverly Diehl
      March 22, 2012 at 7:33 am

      Beautifully put.

      Kim, not going to tell you how you “should” feel. I can only imagine how you DO feel, and glimpse it through your writings. My heart breaks for you, and with you.

      But I request, when the light comes, that you allow it, enjoy it, let yourself bask in it. From all you write of her, I don’t think Kay would want you to stay in the dark place, all the time.
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        Kim Sisto-Robinson
        March 22, 2012 at 7:20 pm

        Beverly,
        I am trying. I am trying.

        Thank you for reading. Xx

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:19 pm

      Mama A,
      Thank you for you reaing my mourning pages. I tell the same stories over and over and over…

      and I think I shall forever…

      Xx

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    Irene
    March 21, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    I don’t know, I don’t think of this as a journey. I think of it as a nightmare. And you haven’t woken up. It seems all surreal. But I know the tears and anger are real, very real. And the heartache.

    I hate crying. It gives me a headache. But I’m very emotional and get upset easily. And when I see someone else crying, I get choked up as well. Many of your posts have brought me to tears. I also get angry because it’s not fair that someone like you that is full of love and happiness is brought down by this horrid event.

    (((HUGS)))
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:21 pm

      Irene,
      Yes, a Nightmare is about right…

      I keep praying that I wake up…. But this new reality is REAL. Xx Love.

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    Charlene
    March 21, 2012 at 10:08 pm

    Oh Kim, all I can say is that you are loved by those who are still here. We feel your pain, but of course never like you do. Never like you do.

    To know there are days that you do not cry makes me smile. And I am so thankful for Mr. Liverpool.

    xoxo
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 22, 2012 at 7:22 pm

      I know I am loved…

      But isn’t it amazing how lonely one can be (EVEN ) surrounded by people?

      that is how I feel w/ out Kay. xx Love to you, Charlene.

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    Carrie
    March 21, 2012 at 10:33 pm

    You have a real gift with words and are able to describe your feeling in such a way that they become visible.

    I find it absolutely amazing how many tears a person can cry. You think you have cried yourself dry but there is always more. I agree that a person’s mind holds back and you grieve in portions it can handle, if you had to face it all at once it would drive a person mad or they would die of grief. I can relate to waking up and for that brief moment before you are fully awake you feel light and free of grief and then you remember it wasn’t a bad dream; you are living the nightmare. I pray that one day turns to two and three days without tears.

    Hugs and prayers to you from Carrie in Vancouver BC
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:37 pm

      Carrie,
      the first year, I cried every single day. I couldn’t stop…

      Mourning is damn exhausting & SUCKS so damn bad.

      I think I shall mourn forever.

      thanks for reading. xx
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    Helen Herrick
    March 21, 2012 at 10:43 pm

    I have always likened grieving as being caught in inumerable dark, gray, foggy days….the fog and mist so thick you can’t see where you are going, or where you have been. It enshrouds you, it smothers you. Sometimes as it surrounds you it almost comforts you/protects you from the harsh light and realities. But eventually, the sun burns it away and you can see the world in color once again…. We all need a foggy day now and then to retreat into. Peace to you, a million times over.

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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:39 pm

      Helen,
      beautifully articulated.

      I ‘m not sure if I shall ever see in color again…

      Xx Kissssss
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    Monica
    March 21, 2012 at 10:52 pm

    Words cannot begin to express my sorrow for you, sweet Kim. I so wish we could have all known your sister. Kay sounds like an amazing woman. I feel her light through you. Sending you kisses and hugs!
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:39 pm

      Monica,
      Kay made me a “Better” person….

      Kiss flowing to you. Xx
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    Aurora, HSP
    March 22, 2012 at 12:08 am

    Big, warm hugs. I still think of phoning my mother (lost her July 4 2010). I was told that it never goes away but the scars soften with time. I sure hope that is true. Glad you are sharing with us. You inspire me to share so much about my life experiences I would otherwise probably not. Thank you for being you xo

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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:41 pm

      Janice,
      I look forward to reading more about your life experiences, dearest. Xx
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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    March 22, 2012 at 1:07 am

    Waiting with wine in hand to give you a BIG hug!
    🙂 Mandy xo
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:42 pm

      –How long will it take me to get to South Africa?

      Xxx Looking forward to it, Mandy xxx
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    A Daft Scots Lass
    March 22, 2012 at 1:23 am

    It can’t be easy. *beeg hugglez*
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:43 pm

      Dear Daft,
      It will NEVER be easy.

      Not as long as I’m living…

      Xx
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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    March 22, 2012 at 2:16 am

    There is no pain to describe it is there. Although you express it so eloquently and with such rawness xxx
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:44 pm

      Lorraine,
      I cannot imagine the rawness ever subsiding.

      xx
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    Sandra
    March 22, 2012 at 3:00 am

    Wishing you more days of no crying. You are an exceptional writer.
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    Lady Fi
    March 22, 2012 at 4:15 am

    So powerful and moving.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:45 pm

      Lady Fi,
      I thank you for being part of my distraction during my mourning….

      xxx
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    Ellen
    March 22, 2012 at 4:37 am

    Isn’t life – inclusive of our psyches – amazing in that way, Kim? Even in the midst of what could be called our “darkest hour(s),” shafts of light are able to break through the darkness, if even for just a moment, and offer some lighthearted relief, and maybe even some hope.

    Love. xoxo
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:50 pm

      Ellen,
      I know. I find those slants of light utterly amazing….I mean, how do they get thru the darkness?

      Xx
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    Ashley
    March 22, 2012 at 4:52 am

    I couldn’t imagine losing someone that close to me, especially from murder. I hope you can find more days of not crying and of happiness, Kim.
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    Joan
    March 22, 2012 at 5:24 am

    Again, your writing is so beautiful, so mournful and so haunting. I am glad to know that there are days when you don’t cry from your awful loss. I think I have said this before here. It has been 20 years since my sister was shot to death. I go for years without crying now but then, suddenly it can hit me and I shed tears still. I have no idea what sets it off, but it still happens. It is a journey. It is still painful but you will know joy. Your sense of humor also comes through in your writing and it will carry you through some difficult times yet to come. Keep writing.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:52 pm

      Joan,
      I appreciate how we can both support one another…

      It’s quite nice to find somebody who understands.

      Xx Kissss
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    jodi aman
    March 22, 2012 at 6:22 am

    Doing what you do for other is a purpose. Thank God for you. thank God your sister had you to love her and see her. It made her life better. Trust.
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    Kimberly
    March 22, 2012 at 7:13 am

    Hang onto those breaks of light in the clouds…with all that you have.
    much love.
    She knows that you are suffering. Every time you see that light, She’s sending you light to tell you that you need happiness. SHe knows that you will never ever forget her…and never stop loving her.
    Much love friend.
    xoxo
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:54 pm

      —Never.
      I shall never stop…because I am now her silenced VOICE.

      Xx Kiss for you Kimberly.
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    Pat Scattergood
    March 22, 2012 at 7:16 am

    I have never suffered the kind of loss that you’re feeling. I wish I could make it better. Your comment about the unique human apparatus rings true for me, too. The raw emotions come in waves so that we don’t have them all at once. We don’t quite drown. And after enough time passes we start to realize that they’re coming less often, so we start to breathe again, slowly and warily at first. Then more deeply. And we have our memories and we learn to cling to the good ones.

    Love you, Kim.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 7:58 pm

      –Thank you, Pat, for reading my mourning pages..

      I have many many many of them….

      Xxx Much Love flowing to you.
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    columbibueno
    March 22, 2012 at 8:21 am

    So very sorry! Sending out prayers…
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    Sara
    March 22, 2012 at 9:53 am

    Grief sucks. I’m not very good at it. Unfortunately, I’m getting more practice now as I get older. Ugh. You’ve captured it very well here. The part about grief not having a destination, it’s eternal. My heart truly aches for you!
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:00 pm

      —Sara,
      I despise my new reality…

      I shall never learn how to mourn properly…whatever that means.

      Xx thank you for reading.
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    Tia
    March 22, 2012 at 10:17 am

    Love you!

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    Mercy
    March 22, 2012 at 10:40 am

    How beautiful, and sad at the same time
    And such is life,
    And that makes it so damn hard to live in it.
    But then again,
    what else can we do but live?
    I remember when I turned 21, you sent me a card that had the words
    “Continue…”
    At the front.
    Nothing else. And I thought,,,wow! This card is deep. Because it is like a card that just dares you to LIVE!
    If I could, I would sent the same card to you…for you to continue,
    Living. Writing. Loving. Crying.
    Just continue…
    I love you my dear friend!
    XXXX

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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:02 pm

      —–And the same to you, sweet Mercy.

      We make a great team, don’t we?

      You in Africa. Me here. Thousands of miles apart…

      Yet, we connect thru our mourning, lamenting, writing, & love. Xx
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    ed pilolla
    March 22, 2012 at 11:50 am

    if it is a journey, i hope you find a stretch of the path that allows you to laugh longer and smile more fully. like beverly, i hope you find more peace along the way, though you will probably never be completely at peace over what happened to your beautiful sister. the mystics say we must let go in order to allow the spirit of the deceased to move on as well. i haven’t been following your blog for all the 651 days, but i do sense that this is about never forgetting, keeping kay’s bright spirit alive, and also finding some peace along the way becuz time, somehow, does have an effect on grief. i do not know what it is like to have someone in my family or even close to me murdered. i will not pretend to know anything about what that journey is like. all i know is that i care for you very much and want to see you more at peace when that opportunity arrives. i also understand that you might find peace one day or early in the morning, as you say, only to have the pain come double strong a moment later. thanks for taking me with you on this journey. i’m learning a lot.
    big, full-body virtual hug, doll:)
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:04 pm

      ed,
      your beautiful, passionate words move me. Xx
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    Laci
    March 22, 2012 at 11:59 am

    Sending much love your way!
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    Dad
    March 22, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    Kim, IT sure don’t seem like (651) days. We miss Kay so much.
    Love You So Much
    Dad

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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:06 pm

      -I love you more than 10 shimmering panthers sun-bathing in the Kenyan Sun-Shine… Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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    Phil
    March 22, 2012 at 3:45 pm

    Your words convey such raw emotion and power; the haunting reality of a life that is constantly interrupted at any time by the heartbreak you feel. An ever looming threat like a raincloud overhead, just waiting to burst open.

    If only this were a dream dear Kim. If only it were.

    My heart aches with yours at this draining feeling of unimaginable grief.

    Light and love to you dear Kim. Light and love.

    Phil
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:08 pm

      Phil,
      Thank you, as always, for your lovely words.

      Love & Light. Yes. I shall grasp for this….as often as i can. Xx Kisssss
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    totsymae1011
    March 22, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    Yes, I agree with Beverly. She’s ever so wise.

    I suppose reading Kay’s words of sadness brings a certain amount of heaviness to your heart as well.
    Blessings are abundant for the work you do to help other women.

    Much Love,
    Tots
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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:09 pm

      –Tots,
      thank you, always, for reading my mourning pages, which I write so often.

      Xxx
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    Liz
    March 22, 2012 at 4:10 pm

    Written so well…I am so sorry for your continued pain. That last photo of Kay is so breathtakingly beautiful~

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      My Inner Chick
      March 22, 2012 at 8:10 pm

      Liz,
      yes, isn’t that a gorgeous photo. one of my faves. xxx
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    Kelly @ Inspired Edibles
    March 22, 2012 at 4:40 pm

    A journey for sure; one piece at a time. And, some days, even light.

    Hugs to you –

    xo

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    Brenda
    March 22, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    I suspect that Kay is please on the days you don’t cry. She misses you too, and I know she is watching over you, always.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 6:00 am

      –Dearest, Brenda,
      Kay will NEVER leave me…& I shall NEVER leave her.

      Love Xxx
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    nikky44
    March 22, 2012 at 11:38 pm

    I have no words that can comfort you. I can only say that Kay is certainly so proud of you and all the efforts you are putting to bring awareness and try to protect others from abuse.

    Like Jodi said, Kay is very lucky to have you Kim. You loved her and felt her pain. She didn’t feel ignored and abandoned, as trust me, that is the worst feeling I have. When I cry, when I suffer in silence, my tears are not caused by the physical pain He is causing or the fact he destroyed me emotionally, My tears only come from the fact that NO ONE wants to see me, to understand, or at least say, i know what you are going through and i care. That is the real pain, and your love for Kay has healed that pain.

    Thinking of you and praying for both of you <3
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 5:53 am

      Nikky,

      “””” I. Care. About. You.””””

      I Understand. Xxx Love Love Love.
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    Julie
    March 22, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Such a beautiful woman on the pic! I really feel sorry about your loss, I hope that things will getting better with the time…
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    Reid
    March 23, 2012 at 1:08 am

    Reading this post made me weep for the person I also lost. I realized that yes, life goes on, but it was a lot different. You know something is missing.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 5:55 am

      –Always Missing…

      Forever Missing. Yes, this is VERY true…. Love.
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    marie
    March 23, 2012 at 5:36 am

    The photo you shared breaks my heart, through your words Kay is alive, pure soul, one of a kind.

    What amazes me in you Kim, is your love for life when your world has been shattered the most horrible way. Stay strong Kim, keep walking on the road, one day you’ll be reunited for the best. Till then, I send you prayers, courage and much love. xx

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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 5:57 am

      Marie,
      I look forward to running up to Kay once again and wrapping my arms around her…

      In the meantime, I am a vehicle for your VOICE.

      Xx Love.
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    Vidya Sury
    March 23, 2012 at 5:55 am

    Kim, Hugs. The pain does not go away, I know. The loss leaves a big void, never to be filled. But life goes on, does it not?

    I think you’re amazing by doing your part – encouraging people to speak up. Kay would be so proud of you, watching you with love and appreciating you. You have such a big heart, Kim!

    No words that I can say will cover your loss. Please know I understand, because I have lost many of my loved ones.

    I would like to hold you close. Hugs.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 5:58 am

      –Vidya,
      I know you understand…& this spurs me forward.

      One day we shall meet & give one another A large hug…

      or we could SKYPE, too.

      Love Love. Xx
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    Tere Anne
    March 23, 2012 at 6:14 am

    You’re honored with an award… come visit!
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 6:38 am

      –I’ll come over as soon as I can.

      Thank You. Xxx
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    jann
    March 23, 2012 at 6:35 am

    Beautiful piece. When that little ray of light peeks in, or laughter bubbles up, give it permission, Kim. Say YES to it!!!! I’m sure Kay would want you to. Big virtual hugs. xxxxxxxxx

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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 8:31 am

      —-I shall try to give the sun permission, Jann.

      Kisses flowing to Italy this moment. Xx
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    Charlotte
    March 23, 2012 at 7:43 am

    Your words always move me. I don’t know what more to say that hasn’t been said already, but know that your sister’s spirit is with you always… and she doesn’t forget about you. She’s with you in those deep moments of sadness, and she’s laughing alongside you when you hear a joke.

    I know it doesn’t take away from the loss you feel in your life and there’s nothing I can say to replace that, but I just want you to know that a girl in Jersey is sending great big *HUGS* your way.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 8:33 am

      I feel it. I feel your hug all the way from Jersey, Charlotte. Xxx Love.
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    Adriana Iris
    March 23, 2012 at 8:24 am

    taking your words with me…
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 8:33 am

      And I take yours w/ me, as well, beautiful Adriana. X
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    Stasha
    March 23, 2012 at 8:42 am

    Loosing a sister you love must be beyond devastating. I want to tell you that it will get better and you will laugh without holdbacks again. But honestly I cannot put myself in your shoes. So I am going to give you a virtual hug without pretending I know what you are going through. BIG HUGS.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 23, 2012 at 12:45 pm

      —Stasha,
      I do not belive it can ever be BETTER w/out my dear sister,….. but it will be different.

      My world will NEVER be better without her inside my life.

      Xxx Thank you for your kind words.
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    Susan
    March 24, 2012 at 5:57 pm

    Reading this and other work on your blog gives me goosebumps. I hope you find whatever sunshine and comfort on your journey that you can. Ditto hugs from NC and some good southern sunshine, too. -susan
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 24, 2012 at 9:22 pm

      –Susan,
      I don’t think I shall ever feel the complete sunshine as I once did…

      ….but perhaps I’ll see the sun in a new way now.

      It will never be the same w/out my sister…

      Thank you for reading my mourning. Xx

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    Sandra
    March 24, 2012 at 10:08 pm

    You’re powerful words and your authenticity are making their mark on this world. Be assured of that. You are brilliant.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 25, 2012 at 7:15 am

      –Thank you for reading my lamenting, crying, & mourning..

      I think I shall be weeping forever.

      Xxx Kiss, Sandra.

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    Theresa Sonoda
    March 25, 2012 at 10:07 am

    Your messages always cut right through the bullshit…to the core. Kim, you deserve to laugh without feeling any guilt whatsoever. Your beautiful sister would want to see you laughing and happy….I am sure of that. My sister and I have an amazing relationship, and your story has only made it closer. I try to cherish every minute now. Because of you. And your story. Much love, my friend! XOXOs
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      My Inner Chick
      March 25, 2012 at 10:53 am

      ~~~~ I love the relationship you have w/ your sister. You are both so COOL

      Cherish it !!! Savor it!! Always.

      I shall MISS Kay forever, forever, forever…there will NEVER be a day I do not miss her…

      Love to you, My Dearest Terri. Xx
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    Feeling Beachie
    March 26, 2012 at 3:48 am

    I hope there are more days in the future with no tears…
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    lisa
    March 26, 2012 at 9:37 am

    Kim, I am so glad that you have some good moments.
    Somehow I know that Kay would want this for you.
    xo.
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      My Inner Chick
      March 26, 2012 at 9:38 am

      —Thank you, Lisa.

      I am just trying to survive. Xxx
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    Lady E
    March 27, 2012 at 1:59 am

    Dear Kim,
    I guess your journey is towards a more aware, tolerant, driven, better version of you perhaps? And you’re already almost there…
    I cannot comprehend your loss, it is one of those things you have to live to truly understand, but nonetheless, your words give such a compelling idea of what it must be like. I just feel like reaching out and holding you.
    xxx
    ps. love the photo of Kay
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 27, 2012 at 5:49 am

      Lady E,
      I cannot quite comprehend the loss either.

      I don’t think I ever shall…but I will go on living, sceaming, and telling Kay’s Story.

      Xx Hugs back to you in France.

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    Corinne Rodrigues
    March 27, 2012 at 3:51 am

    There are no words to offer you, dearest Kim. I have not known the love of a sister much less the pain of losing someone you love so deeply….All I know is that you’re very brave and you channelize your sorrow to bring a voice to the voiceless women out there. I love you and hold you in my heart ♥
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      March 27, 2012 at 5:50 am

      Sweet, Corinne,
      And I love when you visit me with your beautiful words.

      Xx Kisses from Minnesota.

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    (FL) Girl with a New Life
    April 4, 2012 at 8:25 am

    Wishing you more tearless days. Hugs.
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      My Inner Chick
      April 4, 2012 at 8:57 am

      —thank you FL,
      thank you for visiting my mourning pages of weeping & lamenting.

      Xx <3
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