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What A CREEP!


What the Hell?

That was the name of the blog post.

But I would have named it What the Fuck?WTF T Shirt
At any rate,  I came across this post the other day on Lady Blogger.

I begin reading, and I’m like,  Are You Kidding Me?  Really?

I scroll to the top of the page assuming it’s fiction or something.  You know, like one of those writing prompt thingy’s,  but no, it’s the genuine article.

The blogger is bitching about her hubby.

Yeah, normal.  I like that.  I do it all the time.  My blog is a great place to bitch about Mr. Liverpool  (Whom I love)

Anyhow…

 I continue reading.  

“He comes home from work and sits looking at porn,”  the blogger says.

I’m thinking,  what a damn C::R::E::E::P  Show.

Then she goes on to say, “And now he’s been looking up women on Craig’s List.”

I’m beginning to get  pissed off now.  I mean, the nerve of this perv. 

What is wrong with men nowadays?”    She writes in bold letters.

Suddenly I’m talking aloud…

“What’s wrong with HIM?    Not Men.    YOU Dumb Ass.    And what’s wrong with YOU?”

I  quickly scan down to the comments.

One reader says,  “Men are soooo Annoying.”

IDIOT. 

Another  says,  “Oh, just take a nice hot bath.  That ‘s what men are like”

Am I in the Twilight Zone? 

Was there a memo that went out recently that I’ve not received? 

I couldn’t even read the rest of the blog because my Italian blood was boiling all over the computer table.

But I did leave a comment….

“He’s a JERK.  You don’t deserve that.  He’s a damn CREEP.”

I mean, seriously, this dude is probably the next  Craig’s List Killer.

 Philip Markoff: Craigslist Killer? 

Am I wrong?

Do you think it’s cool to have your man gawk at porn when he has the “Real Thing” at home…

Or look up slutty women on Craig’s List?

Did I miss the memo?

Dear, Reader,  am I overreacting to the reactions by these dumb ass women? 

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107 Comments

  • Reply
    Ann
    September 21, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    First off, I would have been blogging asking for a good lawyer to get half the assets! In all honesty, an occasional girly magazine can be overlooked, but if therapy (for him) and counseling (for them) doesn’t work for what appears to be a problem then it’s time to cut your losses and get a better life!

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:45 am

      –Ann,
      Are you a Lawyer? !!! xx

      • Reply
        Ann
        September 22, 2011 at 4:36 pm

        Nope! I’m just a food blogger….my life is simple, boring to some, but satisfying to me!

  • Reply
    Kim Pugliano
    September 21, 2011 at 6:01 pm

    HELL TO THE NO!!! Creep, ass, dick, loser, but more importantly. WTF IS WRONG WITH HER? She just put herself on blast that she is a complete and utter idiot.

    Let’s not be her friend.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:46 am

      –Kim,
      I think there is something wrong w/ her too….If she puts up with this behaviour. Sad Shit. xx

  • Reply
    lafemmeroar
    September 21, 2011 at 6:02 pm

    You’re right what IS wrong with that chick? What she needs to do is consult a divorce lawyer. She’s the one who needs therapy so she can understand why she puts up with her “better half” ogling at women’s down unders.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:47 am

      –Dear, L.
      Yes, It’s probably more about her.
      That’s why I got so damn mad. I’m thinking -WTF? x

  • Reply
    Jenny
    September 21, 2011 at 6:04 pm

    No you’re not over reacting AT ALL! What a complete asshole!!

    Now I’ll be honest, my hubby looks at porn….BUT….on occasion when he does he watches it WITH ME…and its an agreed upon thing not sprung out of nowhere. If he just plopped himself down in front of it without a word….sheesh!

    Don’t get me started on the craigs list business…..far out!

    It irks me when I hear about women who stand by and put up with that sort of thing…a bit of a bitch fest on your blog is so not the appropriate reaction to your partner behaving that way. Throwing his most prized possessions out of a top story bedroom on the other hand?…moving in the right direction.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:48 am

      Jenny,
      Looking at stuff with Hubs is different…
      I agree about that…. xx

  • Reply
    Theresa Sonoda
    September 21, 2011 at 6:05 pm

    No you are not overreacting, my friend. They are dumbass women. For crying out loud, we get this one life. Why waste time with a loser like that? Begeezus.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:49 am

      —Dear T,
      She must think she deserves a CREEP like him.
      Sad. I find that Quite Sad. xxx

  • Reply
    Alison@Mama Wants This
    September 21, 2011 at 7:43 pm

    This lady obviously has self-esteem issues, to put up with shit like that. I would’ve shook my head reading this, not comment and move on.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:50 am

      Alison,
      Yes. It is DEFINITELY about self-esteem. You hit it directly on the head. x

  • Reply
    Phil
    September 21, 2011 at 8:00 pm

    Guy perspective here. I’ve been married 31 years to my lovely wife and we’re both very visual people, enjoying the beauty of the opposite sex. My wife will gawk at hunky guys and I’ve been known to drink in the sight of a lovely woman – usually accompanied by a smack upside my head by the Mrs. if it’s too long a drink. While we both adore and are drawn to the opposite sex, we adore each other the most.

    Normally I don’t give a rat’s ass about what folks do behind closed doors, because it’s supposed to be their business, as long as it’s a consensual agreement between the two emotionally mature adults. Seems to me however both husband and wife described here are emotionally immature. He’s behaving like a hormonal teen looking for a way to get off that doesn’t seem to include the one person with whom he ought to consider the closest and sexiest partner on earth. She on the other hand seems to lack the emotional maturity to break away, telling me she’s rather dependent upon him, even if she’s frustrated at the behavior. Most of the comments from that blog would seem to indicate that most of her followers are likewise emotionally immature and ignorant, if not brain dead altogether.

    That is, except for one comment. Well said Kim.

    Sorry for rambling…

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:52 am

      —Phil,
      You are Brilliant.
      What the heck do you do for a living?
      You must quit your day job.
      Looooved your perspective. WOW. xx

      • Reply
        Phil
        September 22, 2011 at 9:13 am

        Oh, that reminds me. I need to get me a living and a day job…

  • Reply
    Linda Medrano
    September 21, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    Uh, oh hell no! No and hell no! Enough said.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:52 am

      —Linda,
      Heeeeelllll NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO !! x

  • Reply
    Vidya Sury, Freelance Writer & Blogger
    September 21, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Sounds like an effing jerk. I often wonder a/ why creeps like that ever get married and b/ why the women they’re married to, put up with them. Yuck. I know women who’ll forgive anything. I don’t know who is worse. The woman or the guy. But unless she realizes she deserves better, she won’t go beyond blog posts and sympathetic comments.

    Errrrgh!

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 5:57 am

      –Vidya,
      You are probably right. She will do blog post for support…but she doesn’t seem to be getting any.
      Poor Girl. xxxx

      • Reply
        Vidya Sury, Freelance Writer & Blogger
        September 23, 2011 at 8:36 pm

        Funny thing. I’ve been thinking about this post. So I came back here to read all the comments, and the different perspectives are so thought-provoking.

        Thanks, Kim, for being such a wonderful blogger. You rock.

  • Reply
    ed pilolla
    September 21, 2011 at 8:30 pm

    she has made her choices. she has a man who does whatever he wants, and she complains out of earshot.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:00 am

      ed,
      yes, she did make her choices…but now she can’t seem to get out. She obviously is dependent on this Creep. x

  • Reply
    Trish
    September 21, 2011 at 9:11 pm

    Kim, wow the “take a bath that’s just guys” comment.. blows me away. The lingering 50’s subordinate wife crap makes me simultaneously angry and sad. It is just so alien to me, although I wouldn’t force my feelings on anyone, it sure sounds like she is unhappy. I hope she can find happiness.

    • Reply
      LBDDiaries
      September 22, 2011 at 1:08 am

      T – just sticking my nose in here for a second – you made me smile with that “lingering 50’s” line! My mom was a 50’s “submitted” housewife and I can tell you right now, I would have been visiting her in jail if she caught my dad doing something like that!

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:03 am

      —Trish,
      No woman or man needs to put up with this shit…but some people cannot seem to Get Out of their relationships because of money, kids, etc… I know. I’ve watched this first hand. xxx

  • Reply
    Pure Complex
    September 21, 2011 at 9:16 pm

    Girl.. better you than me because I would have gone off if I read that on another blog. You are absolutely right.. WHATS WRONG WITH HER! You don’t stick around and make HIM think its okay for him to treat you in any matter. Hell NO. If he can’t get it together, then leave. It’s one thing to be annoyed by the things men do, I mean we all get annoyed with each other at times. But looking at other woman in front of you and making it seem as if he is going to cheat on you.. He would be out of my house with his clothes Cloroxed LMAO.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:04 am

      Dear Pure,
      Apparently, this woman is not strong enough to kick his damn ass. Xx

  • Reply
    Kelley
    September 21, 2011 at 9:18 pm

    I’m boiling over here, too! Stupid, stupid, stupid. No, men are not just like that. That’s idiotic. Tell the stupid freak to get off of the computer and to look at his wife. People take porn so lightly, but I don’t. I think it destroys marriages. I know some men like it and are drawn to it, but I think they should stay away from it. Also, he IS a creep to look up women on Craig’s List. I would have been out of there already. Some women have no self-respect. I am particularly sensitive to this because I have 2 sons. I will do everything in my power to let them know that it is not okay to act like that. People are clueless.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:05 am

      —Kelley,
      It is ALL about R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
      He has absolutely NO respect for this woman or for himself.
      Yes. That is the word. xxx

  • Reply
    Jessica
    September 21, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    I don’t want to judge anyone without knowing them but it does sound like there are serious problems in this person’s relationship and that they need help. Not all men do these things and there are many, many good men out there.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:06 am

      –Jessica,
      So true. They need help, but probably will not go. xx

  • Reply
    Monica
    September 21, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    Wow, that’s crazy! It’s also just another reason why I’m traveling solo. 😉

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:06 am

      –Monica,
      Freedom. Liberation. You Go, Girlfriend. xx

  • Reply
    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    September 21, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    I don’t think I got the memo either! I would be fuming if I saw my husband looking up women on a website! 😮

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:07 am

      –Lorraine,
      Um, I think he’d be up shit creek without a paddle :))) x

  • Reply
    Mama Spaghetti
    September 21, 2011 at 11:31 pm

    Ummm….that is insane. It’s insane enough that she reacted that way, but that other people were backing her up. That is NOT the way MEN are. Only bad men are that way. Creepy men.

    She needs friends who will tell her the truth!

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:08 am

      —Mama,
      You know what… I think the comments got me more than the blog post. Creepy followers, as well xxx

  • Reply
    LBDDiaries
    September 22, 2011 at 1:02 am

    Obviously she is NOT a Wild Woman.

    We are what we think (focus) on. If we think on it enough, we become what we think on. You feed it, you be it. He feeds that addiction then soon he’ll be feeding it in real life. Maybe THEN she’ll get out?

    I don’t believe a girly mag is OK, either. Alpha Hubby sure as heck would NEVER agree to me reading a manly magazine for recreation. Stare at some other guy’s junk? Oh heck no; he’d never put up with that. And internet porn? I would not only smash his monitor, I’d make sure the next time he saw me would be two weeks later… after his black eyes healed up. He is NOT going to fantasize about someone else in my bed. NO.

    He and I both agree that it is cheating begins when one’s focus is on someone of the opposite sex and not the spouse. It starts so simply. YOU ARE NOT WRONG.

    • Reply
      LBDDiaries
      September 22, 2011 at 1:04 am

      And p.s., did she sound like a doormat to you, or what?

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:09 am

      –LB,
      Or should I say “Wild Woman” All I can say is I love ya! X

  • Reply
    Kiddothings
    September 22, 2011 at 1:27 am

    Boggles my mind how anyone can put up with a man like that. I detest porn.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:10 am

      –Kiddo,
      It is about her more than him, probably. She does not respect herself….xx

  • Reply
    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    September 22, 2011 at 2:43 am

    How sad!
    🙂 Mandy

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:10 am

      -Mandy, I agree. SAD 🙁 xxxxxxxxxx

  • Reply
    debbie
    September 22, 2011 at 3:21 am

    Sounds like an ass hole to me. And there are plenty of them out there…….

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:11 am

      Debbie.—The asshole will just find another woman to dis-respect. Creep Show. xx

  • Reply
    totsymae1011
    September 22, 2011 at 4:14 am

    They’re only pictures or videos. If he’s open about and she doesn’t like it, she should speak up. It’s just fantasy. Shoot, she might be boring in the bedroom or not getting enough. We haven’t heard his side of the story. Just ’cause she’s a woman doesn’t make her right or deserving of sympathy. She needs to speak up or shut up, if you ask me.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:12 am

      –_Tots,
      I disagree. Craigslist & porn are not just photos… This guy is a CREEEEEP show.
      But I still love ya even though your’re wrong 🙁 xx

      • Reply
        LBDDiaries
        September 22, 2011 at 12:19 pm

        “Boring” in the bedroom, gee where have I heard that before? Oh yeah, from my ex who was sleeping with the entire female population of the state of Missouri. Oh and yeah, was he ever into porn, first magazines, then it got to be “the nastier the better”. Back then xxx rated movies were in theaters, hidden away down dark alleys. Fantasy is very dangerous.

        I’ve studied hundreds of interviews with incarcerated predators, pedophiles, rapists, cheaters, and abusers, and they all said the SAME thing: it started with porn – magazines, internet, DVDs, videos, pictures of naken women, naken children, children forced to act-out, Pay-for-View channels. The more they fed the action, the more it became a need, a have-to. And the more they watched, read, looked, the worse the desire for it it got. The more they pushed the envelope, the more they had to have it until one day, they HAD to go out and act on it.

        No, it is not “just” anything.

        • Reply
          LBDDiaries
          September 22, 2011 at 12:22 pm

          Sorry Kim. This is a hot-spot for me.

  • Reply
    Laci
    September 22, 2011 at 4:24 am

    I think the looking a porn thing is uncalled for if he has someone sitting right there, I mean why use your imagination when you could have someone who is willing to be with you. Just my thoughts. As far as the Craigslist thing, that sucks and that’s shitty! I’ve had that happen to me “just to get a reaction” he got a reaction alright. This guy is either a real creep or a major jackass. Either way, I don’t think I could have left a nicey nice comment.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:14 am

      —Laci,
      Obviously, she doesn’t want him doing this shit. That’s so UNCOOL.
      He’s a Ass. She’s emotioally unstable. Sad situation. xx

  • Reply
    Amy
    September 22, 2011 at 5:18 am

    I was once married to a guy who was completely and utterly addicted to porn. I could always tell the difference between the times he was having sex “with me,” vs. the times he was having sex “at me.” I felt like a receptacle for his masturbatory fantasies. He made me feel so awful about sex that I thought something was wrong with me. ME. I acted like I didn’t care that he went to strip clubs, that I didn’t find his stash of porn and I engaged in a silent battle of cancelling the subscription to the Playboy channel every time it found it’s way back to our DirectTV! I would notice it was functioning, I would call and cancel, function, cancel, function, cancel. Finally, I told them that I was removing my husband’s name from the account, since he was secondary and I was the primary account holder. It never came up again.

    Now that I am married to a taller version of Mr. Redford, I can safely say that being married to the former only makes me appreciate my husband more. While my husband is FAR from Puritanical, his ideas about pornography and what porn can do to an undeveloped mind are spot on and definitely something I can live with. He likes good looking women just as much as the next man, but he stated that long ago (in his former career as a psych), he believed that porn can damage young men in ways that 1) gives them unrealistic expectations as to what pleases WOMEN in bed (All that braying and shouting like a donkey just because a guy is slamming you like a car door from behind? Or coming JUST because a guy sticks his finger in our down-there? Or that we, as women, when bored, all sit around in our lingerie and “experiment?” Or that every last one of us, after waiting YEARS to get hair down there, all of a sudden want to wax it as bald as Daddy Warbuck’s freaking head? PUH-LEEZE. I digress. . .)
    2) that it, in that same vein, porn can remove the “partnership” aspect of sex from a man’s brain, leading them to use their sexual partners as nothing more than a warm body while the little movie in their head plays out. Basically, they’re masturbating into their women instead of enjoying, connecting and actually being present (as what I experienced w/ my first husband) and 3) in some men’s minds, can lead to an inability to get off without incrementally upping the ante. One day, it’s Penthouse forum, the next day, it’s foursomes, the next thing you know, you’re sitting at a donkey show wondering how in the hell you went from hot chicks to farm animals (I’m paraphrasing here, folks.)

    Anyway, he doesn’t hate naked women and even admits that Playboy is a decent magazine. He just thinks that sexuality can get easily twisted when people don’t know any better. He thinks that less porn can equal a better partner. And having been sleeping in the same bed with him for the better part of a decade, I am inclined to agree! The heat is still as much there as it was when we first started going out. So, while I certainly wouldn’t judge a man or a couple for using pornography to get themselves in the mood (as long as it’s respectful, pleasurable and not harming for BOTH partners), I am quite relieved that I don’t have to be subjected to it.

    And, because, once upon a time, I was the girl who stood by while her husband made more deposits into his spank bank than a Rockefeller does with dollars, I have a tiny bit of sympathy for the lady who was complaining about it. That being said, my advice to her? RUN, RUN, FAR, FAR, AWAY! Not all men are dirty little bastards. (Thanks for a thought provoking blog, Kim!)

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:40 am

      —Sweet, Amy,

      You have written a thought-provoking, eye-openening response. Thank you so much for taking the time to telll us your experience. I did not know you were married before…

      but I did know you are now with the lovely Bob Redford! Yeah, I call him Bob.

      You deserve LOVE LOVE LOVE.

      & I love you, Amy. Thank you for this. xxxx

  • Reply
    Lady Fi
    September 22, 2011 at 5:27 am

    No – you’re not overreacting! He’s a creep.

    As for porn, it’s not just pictures. It’s demeaning.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:42 am

      Lady, Fi,
      Yes, it is more that pictures … especially when woman are being demeaned and belittled & used as sex objects.
      xx

  • Reply
    Hot Coco
    September 22, 2011 at 5:38 am

    I’m flabbergasted as much by the blogger’s acceptance – albeit on the unhappy side – as by the comments … “Take a bath?” Really? She needs an injection of self-esteem and a show of proper girl power.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:42 am

      HOt Coco,
      It’s all about the Self Esteem. ALL. Of. IT. xxx

  • Reply
    Irene
    September 22, 2011 at 6:00 am

    I think the post was removed. I tried a search and it wasn’t there.

    From what you’ve stated, I can only say the man needs help. And they need marriage counseling. I am going to admit my husband looks at porn on the internet. BUT….it’s not EVERY DAY when he comes home from work. And it’s not slutty stuff either. And I will say if viewed in a mature way can be beneficial to a marriage.

    Instead of bitching about it to over 1,000 women on the internet, maybe she should sit down and confront the man. Is there something lacking in their relationship? Does he have some sort of problem(obviously)? Get the man some help. If he refuses, then maybe it’s time for marriage therapy. If that fails, then unfortunately divorce is imminent.

    After going back over your post Kim, I’m beginning to wonder if it’s fake(hers, not yours!). It’s possible that she and some of her friends decided to post something to see what kind of rouse they get from others. Have a couple drinks and see what happens, know what I mean? I’ve seen it before. It’s one thing to complain about your husband, but to blatantly just put it all out there? Seems kind of crass and impersonal. I know I wouldn’t be blogging about my husband’s sexual fantasies.

    Interesting post Kim. Definitely gets you thinking.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 6:44 am

      —Irene,
      See why I thought it was A Writing Prompt?

      But to tell you the truth, I definitely think there are women out there
      putting up with this shit… I really do.

      Look at the Craigslist Killer. I wonder if she knew???

      Love to you, Dear Irene. xx

  • Reply
    Dad
    September 22, 2011 at 6:59 am

    Kim, I think you are right, they are creeps. I have never done anything like that on the computer, ( porn) mean), But to me it’s just creepy.
    Love You
    Dad

  • Reply
    Countingducks
    September 22, 2011 at 7:23 am

    Well he sounds like a thick skinned idiot to me, and why she puts up with it is beyond me. I share your irritation.. I just wish she emptied a pot of porridge on him while he was at the computer and took his mind off his compulsion for a second, before leaving that is.

  • Reply
    Pat
    September 22, 2011 at 8:58 am

    I think one thing that has been overlooked here about porn is that it objectifies women. Do you know of any man that would open up a porn magazine or website if their mother or sister was in it? In my mind it is very damaging to women and should not be okay ever.

    • Reply
      kim sisto robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 9:05 am

      Pat,
      I agree.
      It’s no wonder women feel badly about themselves to begin with.
      You are Absolutley Right. —And this blogger is being demeaned & belittled by this creepy creep. xx I hope she gets out out out.

  • Reply
    Ameena
    September 22, 2011 at 9:10 am

    Wow. This is so sad to read! I don’t know about anyone else but I wouldn’t let things kind of stuff happen in my house. But I try never to judge (I usually fail miserably) since I don’t know what’s going on in other people’s homes…but wow. Just wow!

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 2:44 pm

      –Ameena,
      Believe me,
      I try not to judge, as well…
      But I’ve realized one thing in my life….
      MEN DO NOT CHANGE, & this woman is not going to change him if this is what turns his crank… xx

  • Reply
    The T
    September 22, 2011 at 10:47 am

    Ok now for the controversy to start…. Porn happens….if your guy isn’t looking at it, then someone should examine him. We are sexual beings, sex means everything to a lot of men. If you man loves you then he’s faithful to you and it means he’s not out there getting some sexual gratification elsewhere, but if he’s looking at porn, then maybe you should ask to join him.

    It’s why men don’t always look you in the face when you’re talking to them…we are focused, just not always what you want us to be focused upon. I’m not saying that going on craig’s list is a good thing, I personally feel those ads are disgusting and asking for a VD infection from simply perusing them…. but somewhere along the line you need to ask yourself is he looking at this to get a break from me or is he looking at this becasue he needs MY attention in bed or is he looking because he loves boobs? Most likely the answer is becasue he likes boobs…the same reason most men love porn…

    be sweet…be understanding and most of all take care of him where he craves your boobs and the porn will disappear…take that from a man…I mean what i said…

    T.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 3:00 pm

      —Dear, T.

      ~~I had a feeling you’d comment on this one.

      But I can’t agree on what you’re saying here. If he wants BOOBS…He can have MY BOOBS…. Not some slutty big boobed Bimbo on a random porn site.

      Be sweet? Understanding? About my man gauking at another chick’s tits and ass…??

      NO. NOPe. NADA.

      I should be ENOUGH. Enough for everything he desires….

      If not, He can move on to something new & more exciting. Perhaps, a big plastic doll with gigantic Boobies & a big fat Vagina.

      And I mean what I said… xxx Kisses anyhow.

  • Reply
    Kelly
    September 22, 2011 at 11:25 am

    That is creepy…. As I read your post, I could hear the twilight zone theme song playing in the background.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 2:45 pm

      —Kelly,
      I hear that theme song A Lot in my world. Ha ha. xx

  • Reply
    Lola
    September 22, 2011 at 12:59 pm

    Holy Pornography, Batman, did you touch a nerve with this one, Lady! Look at the passionate comments!! You go, Girl!! And I agree with you. Totally and completely. I’m lucky that I don’t have this issue with my husband. We have our shit (who doesn’t) but not this. I mean, have you SEEN my butt? I’ll email you a photo. My husband’s got nothing to complain about. Unless he suddenly decides he’s a breast man. Then I guess he’s screwed. And not by me.

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 2:48 pm

      —Lola,
      Yep, we all have our shit.
      And I feel if a man is gauking at porn, scanning craigslist… etc… He’s lookin’ for more than what he has at home.
      I’d say, Get the Fuck OUT! Seriously. I wouldn’t even go in for counseling. xx
      PS. I’ve heard thru other blogs that you have a nice ass. HA HA

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    Caroline
    September 22, 2011 at 3:12 pm

    You’re not overreacting at all. I would be extremely pissed and wouldn’t let that slide! I don’t understand women who just let it go and act like it’s not a big deal. What a creep indeed!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 3:44 pm

      —Caroline,
      A creep is a creep is a creep. Most of the time, they never change. xx
      PS. What are you cooking today?

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    ed pilolla
    September 22, 2011 at 4:35 pm

    she needs to decide on a new route in life.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 4:38 pm

      ed.
      For sure. I agree. 🙂

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    Helen
    September 22, 2011 at 6:50 pm

    God grant her the wisdom to accept the things she can not change (him), the courage to change the things she can (open the door, throw him and all his shit out the door with a resounding “FUCK YOU!”), and the wisdom to know the difference. And the strength to plan a happy new life where she can build some self esteem.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 7:01 pm

      —Helen,

      ANd I say AMEN.
      Well said. WOW. xxxx

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    Blond Duck
    September 22, 2011 at 7:20 pm

    Best line: “Did I miss the memo?”

    If you did, so did I!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 10:12 pm

      —Yep,
      I think we’re on the same page B. D. x

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    Impulsive Addict
    September 22, 2011 at 9:08 pm

    Oh HELL TO THE NO! Porn? Possibly. I know a few hubby’s that do this on occasion. I don’t agree with it and I don’t understand it but I guess they aren’t “cheating”. But the Craigs List business? Nope. Papers would be served and he would be looking for a place to live on Craigs List.

    That’s not cool at all. Do you think she’ll follow you back here and read your post? It’s great by the way.

    xoxo

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 22, 2011 at 10:13 pm

      —dear, Impulsive,
      I think she would have commented already. Don’t you? xx

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    Ashley
    September 23, 2011 at 4:12 am

    Oh My – no no no no no. That man would not be typing in anything in my presence.

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      My Inner Chick
      September 23, 2011 at 5:32 am

      —Yeah,
      at least do it when your wife is not home. What an ass….

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    Momma's Soapbox
    September 23, 2011 at 9:13 am

    WOW! My jaw was dropped open as I read this! And some of the comments left. That’s how men are? Take a hot bath? Think I’d flip my lid….Ok I KNOW I’d flip my lid…..

    Oh and I wouldn’t be able to post about it because the computer probably wouldn’t work anymore after I slammed it over his head….and it would be hard to type in the handcuffs I’d probably be wearing shortly after..

    But seriously, that is sad.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 23, 2011 at 2:58 pm

      Mama S.
      I know. I’d kill the son-of-a -bitch with his own computer!
      Yes. It is quite sad, isn’t it? x

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    Sandra
    September 23, 2011 at 1:13 pm

    What a creep doesn’t even begin to say it! Shit! Good for you for leaving that comment. I personally don’t think the husband is the only idiot, I’m thinking the wife has to hold some accountability for her husband’s idiocy…shit…I already said that, didn’t I…

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      My Inner Chick
      September 23, 2011 at 1:54 pm

      —Sandra,
      true. her self esteem is obviously quite low. sad really. x

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    Brenda
    September 23, 2011 at 3:41 pm

    I always wonder about women (myself included) we have are good days and our really bad days, some worse than bad. True, some of us girls can make the dumbest decision (especially when it comes to men). You’re right, maybe self-esteem and she’ll grow out of it and find her inner Xena and some moxie. We can hope.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 23, 2011 at 6:05 pm

      —Brenda,
      I hope so….If she has some strong women mentors to help her find her moxie. X

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    Nina
    September 24, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    I personally would not have put that on blast until after I divorced him! She should not be complaining about her situation she should do something about it! Women have got to stop making themselves victims when it obvious they can make a change!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 24, 2011 at 2:29 pm

      –Nina,
      I agree…but some woman do not have the self esteem or confidence to get out. I hope for her sake she does. She will not change this creep. He will probalby Always be just that…A Creep. x

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    Amanda
    September 24, 2011 at 2:09 pm

    I have a creep like that at home too. I’m well aware that it’s not right but for the sake of a special needs child I look the other way.

    Only another 7 years till freedom.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 24, 2011 at 2:31 pm

      —Oh, Amanda,
      Do you really need to wait? I hope you find the resources to get the hell out.
      My heart is with you. xx
      7 years is a LONG time to stay with a CREEP.

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        Amanda
        September 25, 2011 at 1:43 am

        Do you really need to wait?

        Yes I’m afraid so. It’s not without reward. Our child has benefited a lot from this. I’m also using the time to improve and prepare myself. After all, I don’t want to be free again only to fall for the same kind of creep again.

        Also learning to be happy despite his antics.

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    Nina
    September 24, 2011 at 2:25 pm

    I am from the lady bloggers tea party by the way 😉

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    Sandy Webb
    September 25, 2011 at 1:00 pm

    Wow did you get a lot of comments on this one! I don’t know why women put up with that kind of shit. TJ never, ever would have done shit like that to me. It is pure and simple a lack of respect for her. The next man in my life (if I can ever find one) truly has to be perfect. I always tell my girlfriends “It will take on hell of a man to be better than no man at all”. I find I am even less tolerant than I was with TJ. So, if you know of a perfect man then please send him my way. He has to own and ride horses first of all or no deal….lol
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 25, 2011 at 2:07 pm

      –Sandy,

      No. Perfect. Man.

      —not even Mr. Liverpool…but I love him anyway. I will NEVER have a man like him again….

      Btw, You will have a hard time finding one as Great as TJ. He was (Is) your soul-mate) everybody else will be second best. Don’t you agree?

      Think of you often. xx

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    Classic NYer
    September 25, 2011 at 3:14 pm

    She deserves it for putting up with it. He does shit like that because he knows he’ll get away with it.
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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 25, 2011 at 4:54 pm

      Dear Classic,
      One must have low self esteem to put up with that shit. He’s a damn Loser. 🙁

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    Bella
    September 26, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    Kim, I remember reading and commenting on this post. I thought it was an isolated post but after going back to the blog, I realize every post is about the situation with the jerk she calls a husband. I’m afraid i can only take so much of the “poor me” from a woman. I say kick his ass to the curb. Women deserve to be treated like queens and something tells me this loser is never going to do that!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      September 26, 2011 at 3:32 pm

      Queens! Princesses.
      Yes. Is that asking for too much?
      XXXX

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    Adriana Iris
    September 26, 2011 at 7:13 pm

    all i can do is laugh
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