In Memory of Kay

Soul Sisters


~While chatting with my girlfriend the other day ( about Kay as usual)—she unexpectedly muses:

“You and Kay were sooooo different, yet the same.”

“Really, how so?”  I ask.

”Let’s see…

…she was something like, um, let me think for a sec, yeah, like Brooke White & you’re a bit like Joan Jett.”

I didn’t hesitate for a second.

I got it.


“YES!”  I declare loudly…scaring the shit out of her.

I mean, she summed up our unique personalities exquisitely.

Kay was similar to a sweet country singer:  satiny, soft spoken,… sort of like a  “wafting whisper.”

   And me?

Well,  I’m more rock & roll… opinionated ( I’ve been told often),  a bit too loud …sort of like a rush of something right in your face.


You could say we balanced one another out.

 We became the perfect person together.

The ideal woman.

Soul Sisters.

Best Friends.

She was Everything to me.

Kay helped me polish up my rough edges.

And I helped her realize that a bit tarnish was Okay.   

And I keep pondering…

Pondering.  Pondering.   Pondering fucking pondering

How do I become whole without her?

How do I find myself again without her?


~~~Kay, The Wafting Whisper

~~~Kim, The Right In Your Face

Kay was murdered on May 26, 2010,  by Mike Peterson.  The world Stopped.

~Read More About Kay Here:    In Memory of Kay

~~~For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.

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  • Reply
    May 9, 2011 at 4:37 pm

    I like this post, and love that picture. My favorite picture of you two!!!

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      May 9, 2011 at 4:46 pm

      I know…I love this photo.
      Just found it … and thought about how different we were.
      Night and day. Brooke White & Joan Jett.
      Republican & Democrat
      But there has been NO greater love
      Luv U

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    May 9, 2011 at 5:17 pm

    You and Kay are sould mates and together perfection.

    Love ya,

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      May 9, 2011 at 5:23 pm

      ~~~Pure Perfection.
      xxx Luv U,more.

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    May 9, 2011 at 5:56 pm

    From one Jett to another, I love you doll! Cherry Bomb is my main anthem (followed only by “Freedom 90.” Ha ha ha!)

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    kim sisto robinson
    May 9, 2011 at 6:29 pm

    CH Ch Ch CHerry Bomb !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Love it!
    It is so me…so not Kay.
    We were so different. but ….Soooooooooo much love.
    xxx Luv u, Amy.

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    Wild Child Mama
    May 9, 2011 at 8:25 pm

    I LOVE Joan Jett!! She is so badass. And that photo of the two of you, two of my favorite things from the 80s, bangs and stripe-socks!! So very hot.
    My heart holds a very deep prayer for you. I cannot imagine losing half of me. You are brave, brave, brave for sharing.
    I lost a close friend several years ago. All I want to do is to talk to him, no, we don’t even have to talk, I just want to hug him, thank him for who he was. I’m sending you both, no, all three of you, a hug now in my heart.

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 9, 2011 at 9:13 pm

      ~~`Wild Child Mama,
      I love that photo of us!
      Thank you for your prayer.
      I need lots and lots and lots of prayer.
      Kisses to U from Minnesota XXxx

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        Wild CHild Mama
        May 14, 2011 at 9:45 am

        I caught your kisses. And am sending them back. Shouldn’t take too long. I live in MN too:)

        • Reply
          Kim Sisto-Robinson
          May 14, 2011 at 9:57 am

          Shut up! MN???? I love it!

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    Lady Fi
    May 9, 2011 at 8:30 pm

    Wonderful photo! I guess that time will tell how you develop and heal… Loving thoughts to you.

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    Mandy - The Complete Cook Book
    May 9, 2011 at 9:38 pm

    How wonderful that your friend so aptly described you and your sister – two halves that make a whole.
    🙂 Mandy

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 10, 2011 at 5:23 am

      Yes! The 2 Halves..
      Now 1 gone.
      I shall never be whole again.
      XXX kIsses from Mn

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    May 10, 2011 at 12:59 am

    That photograph of the two of you is just gorgeous. A moment in time when you were both together. I know it must hurt so, so much. Just know that we are all thinking of you xxx

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 10, 2011 at 5:23 am

      Thanks, Lorraine.
      Only if we could go back in time..
      And stay there. How lovely that would be.
      Love to you xxx

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    Theresa Sonoda
    May 10, 2011 at 7:27 am

    I think you are awesome with your ‘Joan Jet’ ways and you’re a lot more complete than many women I’ve met online or IRL. It’s a joy to read you and Keep On Rockin!

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 10, 2011 at 9:04 am

      ~~~Yes, So Joan Jett.
      Kay & I were so different…but the love was SO Great.
      Thanks Theresa, I’m assuming you are a Jett, too. XX

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    May 10, 2011 at 4:33 pm

    You two are just beautiful, A great photo that I never saw before.By the way, that caramel cake
    you brought over Sunday was the best I ever ate.
    Love You

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 10, 2011 at 8:58 pm

      ~~~~~~we are beautiful because of you 🙂
      love you MORE, Daddy.

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    May 11, 2011 at 3:02 am


    Sorry it took me so long to respond to this (boy problems; they suck the life outta ya).

    Sounds to me like you should drop that $100/hour therapist and stick to your friends. They know both you and Kay best, and can provide the best healing possible for you right now. That, and they love you…for FREE!


    I can totally see you as Joan Jett, but all the “softer” approaches Kay gave you are still yours to keep. You molded each other, and nothing (not even death) is going to change that. All the parts of herself she gave to you will forever be a part of your design, and the same goes for her.

    I know, I know…it just feels weird without her there. Almost like being forced to write with your left hand when you’re right-handed; something just isn’t RIGHT! That’s the pain of loss. Just hold on to those qualities of hers you loved so much, and give them a new life through you. That’s the amazing thing about love…nothing can separate it and what it can accomplish, not even death.

    Love you,

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      May 11, 2011 at 4:20 am

      PS – I LOOOOVE that picture of you and Kay at the top! Very cool. 🙂

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      kim sisto robinson
      May 11, 2011 at 5:33 am

      Isn’t it amazing how STRONG love can be….?
      So powerful that one feels they cannot live without that other person.
      You R such a beautiful person….
      and my dad thinks you are incredibly wise…
      he says, “Oh, that Tara…Tara said this…Tara said that.!!!”

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    Robin Rowell Sullivan
    May 12, 2011 at 10:49 am

    This is so true about the 2 of you. I haven’t known you since we went to Riverside School together but I always remembered Kay as the quiet sister & you as the bolder more outspoken one; so much like my sister Kelley & me.

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      May 12, 2011 at 1:52 pm

      Hi, Robin.
      We were so good together…
      I shall carry her heart with me until
      my last breath. Always. Forever.
      thanx for reading 🙂

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