In Memory of Kay

Give Voice! Kay M. Sisto Walk/Run/Roll


   ~~The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself—-Mark Caine   



 ~~At first she stayed because of the children.  They were babies.  They needed a father.
He was never a father.
Then she stayed because she didn’t want to go on welfare.  She was embarrassed to be a single mother with three children going into the grocery store with food stamps.

What would people think?

Then she stayed because of her faith.  She loved God.  She wanted to do the right thing. She wanted her family together.

What would God think?

He hit her once.  After that, he demeaned her, made her feel small, small, small.  Told her she was stupid.

She started to believe it.

She didn’t think she could make it on her own.  After all, she was only a housewife, a mother, and stupid.

To me, she was Everything.

She stayed because she  felt  sorry for him, felt responsible for his actions, and saddened about leaving a broken man.

She stayed for 30 long long long years.

When she finally decided to leave, he begged, he  pleaded, he cried.  He said that he couldn’t live without her, couldn’t survive without her.  He said she was his only friend.

In her journal she wrote  this:

“I have nothing else to give him.  He will not leave me alone.  I feel sorry for him.  So very sorry.  He continually  crushes my spirit.  Help me.    Help me.    Help me.”

On May 26, 2010, the monster walked up behind her and shot her three times in the head.  Not once, but three times to make damn sure.   He then wrapped his arms around her and shot himself.

He was Never a man.

Here’s what she would say to all of you in the same predicament.

Get out.  Don’t wait another minute.  Stand up now, grab your kids, and find shelter.

Leave today.

You are not his therapist, his slave,  or his doormat.

You are so much more.  You are Everything. You are unbelievably capable. You are beautiful beyond belief.

Make the right decision now.  You cannot wait.  The cage is opened.  Do not remain inside as I did.

                                            K. Marie Sisto was murdered on May 26, 2010 by her soon to be ex-husband….but her face represents ALL women who are mentally, verbally, finacially, sexually, & physically abused.  The voices  rise up from the graves to SCREAM: 

                                          NO MORE!  NO MORE!  NO MORE!

                        INFORMATION:  Kay Marie Sisto Walk/Run/Roll:

                                                            pink lips  

                     Register Here: 

~~~~All information and register forms here., except one change; the bell ringing will begin before the walk / run so participants do not start before 1:00!!!  

 WALK / RUN is on Sunday, MAY 22, 2010 @ 1:00 on the Munger Trail

~~~~How you can help:   Aid station volunteers,  2 people for bike patrol, registration, sign posting, night before planning, medical teams.  #Call Pat Bergquist to sign up to volunteer or for other questions #218-722-2781 X106 or email             

            ~~~~Read more About Kay Here:   In Memory of Kay

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  • Reply
    April 3, 2011 at 10:49 am


    I wish i could come for the run.
    Know that am thinking of you.
    Know that Kay lives through you.
    Man must live.
    By just continuing to love, and waiting for the sun to come.

    Live. Love. And continue.

    Hugs from Kenya. You are loved

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 3, 2011 at 10:56 am

      Think of you often, my sweet Kenyan friend 🙂 love love love.

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    April 3, 2011 at 12:29 pm

    Thanks, Kay. Well done. I am so happy we finally met. I would have liked to talk more to your mother- some day. She seemed still so pained when thinking about her daughter. Losing a daughter is awful. My mother went through it with a lot of dignity but it wasn’t easy for her. She was older when it happened- in her 70s and lived until she was 95- only dying last November. With her death, she took lots of memories of my sister. Luckily, her children had picked my mother’s brain and we have lots of photos. Those are very important for them to have. My sister held us together at times because she had a blended family. My mother held us together as well. Now it’s up to me?? It’s not an easy job but someone needs to do it. You are doing it with Kay’s children. That’s so important. I will miss the next planning meeting- off to PA to visit my own daughter. But will see you soon- before the walk for sure so we can plan the bell ringing a bit more. Carry on.

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    kim sisto robinson
    April 3, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    Dear, Joan,
    So happy to have met you.
    My Mom thought you were soooooooooooo nice.
    We must all meet for coffee soon.
    Read some of your blog & comments…..WOW, the pro-gun activists adore you. HA HA.
    U R starting lots of dialogue. I like that! Some of your wisdom & kindness must be rubbing off.
    xxx See you soon. Have fun with your daughter.

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    beryl singleton bissell
    April 3, 2011 at 12:36 pm

    When is the run Kim?

    • Reply
      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 3, 2011 at 12:58 pm

      Hello Sweet Beryl….

      I was just thinking about you. I sent Sheila Packa my blog about meeting you.

      The WALK / RUN is on Sunday, MAY 22, 2010 @ 1:00 on the Munger Trail

      More info is under the registration section at top of blog.

      xxx Miss your face.

  • Reply
    April 3, 2011 at 5:10 pm

    Unfortunately, distance keeps me from being able to participate in your walk/run/roll, but I’d like to support your cause. Is there a way to donate if we can’t participate?

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      kim sisto robinson
      April 3, 2011 at 8:11 pm

      how nice of you.
      here is the place that you would donate:
      ~~If you donate 30 dollars, I will send you one of the t-shirts, whiich will have Kay’s pink lips on it.

      xxxx K.
      PS. We are Donating to your walk as well…please send me more details.

  • Reply
    April 3, 2011 at 6:20 pm

    You know I will always be by your side.

    Love you,

    • Reply
      kim sisto robinson
      April 3, 2011 at 8:11 pm

      Yes, Tia,
      Having you on my side makes all the difference.

      xxx Love you.

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    Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella
    April 4, 2011 at 2:18 am

    You talking about this is going to help so many other woman and their families. You’re very brave to walk through your pain to help others Kim 🙂

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 4, 2011 at 5:46 am

      Dear L.
      I do not feel brave…I feel as if I am just doing what should be doing..
      cuz I’d give anythng to have Kay back!
      Thanks for the distraction of your adventures. They have been such a
      beautiful distraction for me…xx

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    April 4, 2011 at 8:18 am

    Amen. You said it all – get out. God does NOT want any woman staying in a bad situation. Do not let ANYONE tell you otherwise, especially those under the guise of “preacher, minister, reverend” – NO – get out. He will make a way for you: I am living proof.

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      kim sisto robinson
      April 4, 2011 at 9:23 am

      Yes, Nan…
      And you found a real Alpha Sweetheart 🙂
      I only wish Kay would have found somebody that great…like my Brit Hubby, too.
      Somebody that ADORED her. She deserved it.
      We ALL do. xxx Kisses

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    Classic NYer
    April 5, 2011 at 12:54 am

    Holy shit… May 26th is my sister’s birthday…

    Maybe I should call her?

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    kim sisto robinson
    April 5, 2011 at 4:31 am

    How can a day be so happy and so damn sad at the same time.
    Yeah, Call Her!
    xxxx K.

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    maggie Mckenzie
    April 7, 2011 at 8:07 am

    Kim. I had worked at Taco Johns for ten years until Just recently starting a new job. I asked my district manager of Taco Johns if we could put donation buckets/boxes on the counters to help raise money for kays walk/run. I am wondering if there is a flyer that has been made up already to put on the counters by the donation boxes with Kays picture and then just a brief summary of why the donations are needed? If so is there anyway that I could get one! If not would you mind if I made one myself with Kays picture on it? Please email me back and let me know! I am so excited to be participating. Thanks maggie

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      Kim Sisto-Robinson
      April 7, 2011 at 9:04 am

      Thanks, Maggie!
      I will contact you.

      xx K.

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    Karen Sosnoski
    May 11, 2011 at 11:18 am

    Dear Kim,
    Clearly your honest voice and writing are setting good things in motion. My aunt and I are excited about the race. I am so looking forward to meeting you. Karen

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    kim sisto robinson
    May 11, 2011 at 1:56 pm

    I think you are staying very close to where I live and the walk / run, as well.

    We can meet at a place called Clyde Iron which is very close to the Comfort Inn.

    They serve very good food and WINE!

    Looking forward to see you Face to Face.

    Kim xxx

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