In The Beginning, There Was You

In Memory of Kay


Here is one of the worst things about having someone you love die: It happens again every single morning.—Anna Quindlen


---Kay's Journals dating back to 1985.

—Kay’s Journals dating back to 1985.

In the beginning,  there was you.


You loving me.  You interwoven inside my being.

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Submissions For My Inner Chick

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—The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. –Elisabeth Kubler Ross

My soul-mate & sister,  Kay.

My soul-mate & sister, Kay.


–Do you have a story about how you survived an unbearable, insufferable event in your life?

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Saint Elmo’s Fire, Wild, & Marriage

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( This is an absolutely true story.  I should know,  I’m the one telling it. )

“How wild it was, to let it be.” Cheryl Strayed,  Wild


Wine w/ Mr. Liverpool after WILD.

Wine w/ Mr. Liverpool after WILD.

~First Year of Marriage:   Your adorable British husband agrees to take you to the film,  St. Elmo’s Fire.


Of course, he’d do anything with you because, well,  he’s madly in love with the very core of you,  the scent of your Aqua Net hairspray, the cherry-red lipstick, the idiosyncrasies,  the beautiful imperfections,  the sassiness, the shit.

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All Roads Out Of Hell Lead Home

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All Roads Out Of Hell Lead Home—Shannon L. Alder

The object of a new year is not that we should have a new year, but rather that we should have a new soul. –G.K.Chesterton





It’s no surprise that I’ve been quite insane the past few years.


I mean,  loony bin- Sylvia Plath insane, cry out to God- ridiculously insane, the kind of insane where you have one foot stuck on earth and the other foot stuck in triple hell.

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Christmas Is More Than A Season, It’s An Emotion

In Memory of Kay Kim's Blogs

“I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach!” –Charles Dickens,  A Christmas Carol.

Kay's Memory Tree

Kay’s Memory Tree


Christmas is more than a season, it’s an emotion.

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Where I Come From

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—–This post was inspired by the legendary blogger,  Good Day Regular People


Cable Beach Casino,  Nassau, Bahamas

Cable Beach Casino, Nassau, Bahamas I worked w/ this cutie.


  • I come from Sicily, Sweden, Bahamas, Minnesota, & Cable Beach Casino…



…where I dealt black jack to movie stars and dirty old men who blew raspberry flavored smoke into my face at the old Playboy Club.

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6 Early Signs of Domestic Abuse



My Soul-Mate,  K.

My Soul-Mate, K.

–She was mine, she was mine, the key was in my fist, my fist was in my pocket, she was mine—Lolita


1.   STALKING   After Kay’s murder,  my friend,  Jane, asked-  “Kim,  when did it all begin?”

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